reader Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Hi. Here's the story. I met this man at work. He made it a point to come and see me one day - we normally have little if any contact. He told me about himself the second or third time I spoke to him. He broke off his engagement to a woman he has dated for 5 years. They have lived together for at least three years. She became interested in someone else, they patched it up and most recently, she told him she didn't want to live together, just "hang out", so he ended the engagement. Over the past two months, he has called, emailed, invited me to his house, says he will call, etc. During this two months, his ex has been in contact with him, calling, emailing, etc. he does talk to her, she wants him back, he asks her to come back, she says no.... I've never been alone with him, knowing that he is very upset and I really don't know what I think of this whole thing. A week and a half ago, we were "just friends", doing fine. Last Monday, I sent him an email, "hi, how are you..." I didn't hear back that day, but got an email Tuesday, FYI, We decided to work on things, that is why I haven't called. I wrote back, great, if that is what you want, I wish you the best....ya da ya da. The next day, he came out to the parking lot, where I am with a friend, after work, and he wants to "meet us for a drink." I left and he stayed and talked to my friend, who told me he is "hurting" for me. What is up with this? I am too busy to be distracted by this up and down stuff, and I need to know what this means. I do think the ex will end up hurting him again, but that is not really my business. He's old enough and smart enough to know this will happen. They "had" a $7,000 wedding planned for next January...both names on the title of the house, etc. He is a great guy, but...and that is a very big but. Please give me some advice. I have not called, emailed or "looked" for him since I got the last email. I am in the middle of a relationship myself, it is not going that well, but I don't need more stress. I work and am going to school, and want to take the high road Thanks, reader
Art_Critic Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 He seems to have quite a bit of drama in his life right now.. I would back way off of this guy.. He is gonna hurt somebody.
Author reader Posted October 10, 2005 Author Posted October 10, 2005 Why the back and forth thing with the ex?
Art_Critic Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Why the back and forth thing with the ex? Because they still have feelings for each other and haven't sorted out where they fit in each others lives right now.. Most of the back and forth is most likely him.. Since he has feelings for her then there is no way you two could have anything other than a fling
Author reader Posted October 10, 2005 Author Posted October 10, 2005 That is what I thought. I think anytime there is this much drama, it is a bad sign. I didn't think about the fact that it might have been brought on by him, only that she was jerking him around. The good news is, it's not my problem. I have enough right now! I think I'll just quietly walk away from this situation...
Art_Critic Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 I think I'll just quietly walk away from this situation... This is good self prescribed advice..
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