Realitysux Posted June 4, 2020 Posted June 4, 2020 (edited) 10 minutes ago, poppyfields said: miranda, it's okay to be slow to open up, me too! But that doesn't mean acting indifferently or elusively, or being slow to respond to texts if at all. Do you mean slow to show your interest and feelings? Cause yeah, that will be a problem typically leading to only those men looking for a challenge/chase to pursue you. And guess what? Men who enjoy the chase usually end up being d-bags because they're only interested in the chase! Not the girl. Generally speaking. If you want to attract a good guy, begin by being "good" yourself meaning show some excitement and interest, be responsive to him. Answer texts in a timely manner, express some enthusiasm when he asks you out. Don't overdo it, find the right balance that works for you. Challenge yourself to try, stretch your emotional muscles, step out of your comfort zone. That is how we learn, grow and evolve. I'm really down and bummed out tonight. It's so bad that I have to take the rest of the week off work. I was looking forward to doing that and then it occurred to me that I have to find another guy because the last ones gone. I kind of new this was coming but because it's so prolonged. I'm in the dumps tonight. Edited June 4, 2020 by Realitysux 2 1
scooby-philly Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 Stay strong @Realitysux. I would suggest that rather than focus on finding another guy - use the time to work on yourself, to find joy and peace and happiness in your life and when you least expect it, you can find someone. 2
Author Realitysux Posted June 6, 2020 Author Posted June 6, 2020 (edited) 20 minutes ago, scooby-philly said: Stay strong @Realitysux. I would suggest that rather than focus on finding another guy - use the time to work on yourself, to find joy and peace and happiness in your life and when you least expect it, you can find someone. It's all good. I had to call the police on my son and I connected with the female cop and she gave me a lot of good advice. She respected me. They also got us this counselling. My mom moving at the end of the months and I actually think I'm going to focus on him. I think it's a good time to move forward Edited June 6, 2020 by Realitysux 1
Fox Sake Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 My cat just had kittens a few hours ago. Sit on that for a moment and think how adorable it is! Then go and read this and I hope it helps you like it does me 1
contel3 Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 There's not much I can do to cheer you up, but sending you lots of love and hoping you'll feel better soon. 1
mortensorchid Posted June 7, 2020 Posted June 7, 2020 I know how you feel. I wish I could say that yes someday, somehow it can and will happen for you, but... it hasn't for me yet. Just be happy with you.
Author Realitysux Posted June 7, 2020 Author Posted June 7, 2020 (edited) I'm doing much better .. I know why I became so obsessed with him .. normally when I'm talking to guys, I am in control .. I'm always in control at work and in everything I do but I did not have control with this man and I liked it .. I was vulnerable with him .. He was stronger then I was .. He was also very kind and gentle but really tall and masculine and I realized that's my type.. I would want to go out with a man stronger then I am since I'm pretty strong despite my recent past.. I just have to seek out my type. Edited June 7, 2020 by Realitysux 1
Miss Spider Posted June 7, 2020 Posted June 7, 2020 Hey reality. How's the dating going? Hope you're feeling better?
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