So Girlfriend broke up with me again for the 5 th time in 8 years

[Dragi1016]

So I previously posted on here in the beginning of January about my girlfriend of 7 years leaving me once again. For the past 5 and a half months we been reconnecting and taking it slow. But things seemed to be going the best it has I years. Fast forward to yesterday evening I tried calling her and it went straight to voicemail which was weird . I went on Facebook to see if she was on that recently come to find out she blocked me in Facebook and Instagram and even Tic Tok . So obviously she blocked my number so I sat there puzzled. I messaged her on my daughters phone who she is very close with and told her What did I do wrong ? And if there is a problem why wouldn’t you have the respect for our 8 years together to at least call me and tell me. Your 31 years old and your acting like a 14 year old who is just blocking me without telling me why. She finally responded back to my daughter’s phone and said she really loved me and wanted to be with me but the day before she realized it could never work and I haven’t changed and it’s not my fault but she gave all these years and she says she doesn’t even know who she is. She will always care about me but can’t be with me so she’s blocking me on everything so we can never talk again and just go into the same patterns . Now 6 months ago she really broke my heart and I grieved for a month or so and she got in contact with me. For some reason this time I’m not heartbroken but relieved as strange as that sounds. I’m upset yes but not nearly as bad as I was 6 months ago. Unfortunately my kids are taking this way worse then I am especially my son. I guess this time it feels like actual closure and I truly feel there’s no going back. Though I did of course dream about her last night and when I woke up I felt like a dark dread. Has anybody else dealt with this kind of situation? 

[Realitysux]

I have and I'm not relieved at all. I feel horrible 

[Dragi1016]

50 minutes ago, Realitysux said:

I have and I'm not relieved at all. I feel horrible 

Im so sorry to here that  Hang in there if you need somebody to talk to I’m here. I’ve been in this situation to many times now with the same person

[afraidtobealone]

I've never been blocked and deleted, but I have been in a relationship (now) where my boyfriend always resorts to breaking up (or threatening to break up/suggesting we shouldn't be together and that maybe we don't work) and it's like a roller coaster. I'm sorry you're going through this. If you'd like to talk and there's a way to private message I am absolutely here to talk if you need to!

Hang in there. 

[Dragi1016]

1 hour ago, afraidtobealone said:

I've never been blocked and deleted, but I have been in a relationship (now) where my boyfriend always resorts to breaking up (or threatening to break up/suggesting we shouldn't be together and that maybe we don't work) and it's like a roller coaster. I'm sorry you're going through this. If you'd like to talk and there's a way to private message I am absolutely here to talk if you need to!

Hang in there. 

Thank You

[Fox Sake]

On 6/3/2020 at 10:13 PM, Dragi1016 said:

So I previously posted on here in the beginning of January about my girlfriend of 7 years leaving me once again. For the past 5 and a half months we been reconnecting and taking it slow. But things seemed to be going the best it has I years. Fast forward to yesterday evening I tried calling her and it went straight to voicemail which was weird . I went on Facebook to see if she was on that recently come to find out she blocked me in Facebook and Instagram and even Tic Tok . So obviously she blocked my number so I sat there puzzled. I messaged her on my daughters phone who she is very close with and told her What did I do wrong ? And if there is a problem why wouldn’t you have the respect for our 8 years together to at least call me and tell me. Your 31 years old and your acting like a 14 year old who is just blocking me without telling me why. She finally responded back to my daughter’s phone and said she really loved me and wanted to be with me but the day before she realized it could never work and I haven’t changed and it’s not my fault but she gave all these years and she says she doesn’t even know who she is. She will always care about me but can’t be with me so she’s blocking me on everything so we can never talk again and just go into the same patterns . Now 6 months ago she really broke my heart and I grieved for a month or so and she got in contact with me. For some reason this time I’m not heartbroken but relieved as strange as that sounds. I’m upset yes but not nearly as bad as I was 6 months ago. Unfortunately my kids are taking this way worse then I am especially my son. I guess this time it feels like actual closure and I truly feel there’s no going back. Though I did of course dream about her last night and when I woke up I felt like a dark dread. Has anybody else dealt with this kind of situation? 

 It sounds like....

she leaves you. Plays No Contact like a game (and like a boss)  and then uses it to her advantage , so you behave the way she wants. 

Like texting your daughter. Is she trying to play you off against each other, and make your daughter think it’s you who doesn’t want to be with her so she doesn’t look a total cow? 

Sounds like it’s run it’s course and you’re wise to it now tho, and I’m really sorry you’re hurting, but this will make you stronger. And it’ll also let you know what you will , and will not stand for in the future with someone better  
 

[Fox Sake]

20 hours ago, afraidtobealone said:

I've never been blocked and deleted, but I have been in a relationship (now) where my boyfriend always resorts to breaking up (or threatening to break up/suggesting we shouldn't be together and that maybe we don't work) and it's like a roller coaster. I'm sorry you're going through this. If you'd like to talk and there's a way to private message I am absolutely here to talk if you need to!

Hang in there. 

You too- don’t let anyone treat you like that. It’s incredibly manipulative behaviour for anyone to hold a breakup over your head cos you’re not agreeing with them. 

sometimes tho , if you don’t see each other’s point of view and can’t relate to how the other could be feeling a certain way - then it’s probably not worth it anyways ! 

Edited June 4, 2020 by Fox Sake