StayingStrong Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 I have days when i am ok and then i start thinking about her seeing someone else and i get all upset again. These ups and downs are killing me. She seems totally ok with us not being together and says that she just doesnt love me the same anymore. This hurts and i want to forget about it but i dont know how to. We are speaking alot less now. No more emails. Ransom texts. I think about her all the time. I want to move on but it seems impossible even though i know i will. She doesnt want me the same way anymore and that hurts. I thought that our love was always going to be there. She says that she still loves me but its different now. We argued alot when we were together but i also was not accepting how much i loved her. i was scared. And now i want her without any reservations and its too late. ive written about this already but this feeling just wont go away. How long will this take? How long do i have to feel empty?
legrtova Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 I wish I had an answer for you...just know that it WILL change and get better.
brittanyjean259 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 if it makes you feel any better, im going through the same thing... i dumped them and they rebounded...yeahyeah i know BUT IT STILL HURTS every song i here i listen the lyrics and oh gosh everything is just so hard because yeah no more texts, no more well you know.... its a fact of life, and at times the only reason i do good is well being indeinial....it really sucks man i feel you i feel the pain that your going through...and you think no1 else feels the same way but trust me mine was a 2 1/2 relationship....its really hard because its gettin colder and that reminds me of my" ex babe" even more...i pretend to be happy, but over all my mood is different..not that girl who used to act liek she was on drugs any more" though i have my moments haha"... all i can say is whats done is done, think of the bad things in the relationship....talk to friends, let your family know...you need to let people know what your going through , im sure some1 has been through it... exercise, i know right now it feels like its never going to stop hurting...but with time it will...dont dwell on it..remind yourself that you have to move on.... at times i just give up and my body feels dead, i feel love sick..its a sad sad feeling..but we need pain inorder to be happy..and one day you will wake up refreshed and the hurrtin will be gone... HOW OLD ARE YOU any way?
legrtova Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 If that helps any, I am going through the same S*** as well. Ups and downs..something to learn to live with I guess. I hear the cooler weather thing...no more snow angels, no more fireplaces....argh, so sad, I miss him. Just stick around here, LS really helps.
brittanyjean259 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 how long has it been since you and your ex been broken up ??? legorta
legrtova Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 A month and one day. After a 9month relationship that was just too perfect to be true (he was married that why we broke up...I knew) One would think I would be over it by now, huh.
brittanyjean259 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 oh no 9 months is still very long... he was with you while being married...did he still love his wife?
legrtova Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 well, long story. I have posted in the OW forum, if you are interested. He says he doesn't love his wife, but they have kids and are comfortable together. They have an attachment...I understand. Hurts as hell, but I'm glad he chose his wife. That proofs me I didn't pick a total jackass.
brittanyjean259 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 yeah well as long as you are leaving this knowing that is could be for the better? wouldent you have rather parted with a jack ass? im just kidding you are lucky though your hurt could be more severe:)
legrtova Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Yes, this is bad enough...hard to imagine it could be worse...but if we had kids, were going out for years....ouch, that would really suck a**
jaye Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Sorry but bad news is you can't. i'm in same situation. but i can suggest something. its healthy to take somestuff outta you. what i do is sometimes i goto bathroom to cry and so people don't findout that i was. sometimes i goto the lake in night, there is nobody and i sit there for hours and hours just for myself talking to trees maybe some people are gonna call me F**** Stupid Dumb Ass MOFO. but i'm livin it. sorry dude can't help
Author StayingStrong Posted October 10, 2005 Author Posted October 10, 2005 i am 26. this was my first opportunity to be in relationship with someone that loves me and i blew it. i want a second chance. i want to be able to express all this love that i have and had. i am not gonna answer anymore phone calls and i am avoiding her online. everytime that i talk to her i want to beg her to try again with us. and she says no and i start all over again in the healing process. its too painful. i dont wanna tell her to stop talking to me because seeing that she calls makes me feel a little better cuz i see that she still wants us to be friends. I do too but it cant be right now. not while i still want her heart.
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