Black women in Canada...Answer when you can. Thanks

[ChristosForever]

Where do you go when nobody wants you. Even though you always listened to your parents and were an obediant and loving child and became an engineer, they still abused you verbally and rejected you.

 

Where do you go if you are and have been kind to your pears all of your life but still can't find hapiness because people think lowly of my race, even though I never asked to be borned black?

 

Where do you go if because of the fact that you are a black woman, society and men in general will always reject you. Please tell me....Where do I go? Where do I find the will to live?

 

Answers from other black women in the same situation are more than welcome. How do you sweethearts feel welcomed and want to keep on living on this earth? PLEASE let me know!!!

 

Sincerely,

Marie

[brittanyjean259]

go to a church and preach it sista!

 

just know that your goodness will hold for a really good peak in your life.

 

 

people can be cruel and im sorry your family has to.

 

hope you can get more advice!

[Kengne]

I'm a black woman living in Canada, and I do not see myself nor other sisters as being 'rejected' by men nor society as a whole! WHERE in the world would you get an idea like that? Where in Canada do you live? Surely not Toronto, I assume.

 

In any case, I'm sorry that your parents abused you but sister your will to survive must prevail. Whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. And I personally believe that 1) the Lord doesn't give you more than you can handle and 2) your reward in life is determined by how you overcome the obstacles in life.

 

You have, and WILL continue to survive the adversity in your life.

 

If you need to talk, please feel free to post some more.

 

K.

[Gold Pile]

I've always heard little tibits of Canadian racism, from Asians.

 

I know many, many, many Canadians, but have never been there.

The smart ones come to the USA...as should you.

 

We have more people of all races, more employment opportunity, more sun,

more stores, more hospitals, more more more

 

less French people, less big-foots, less inbreeding.

[loony]

less French people, less big-foots, less inbreeding.

Now that was an example of tolerance.

[fusangite]

This post is a curious one. I grew up in Western Canada and my mother was black. She was one of the most sought-after, beautiful women in our city; men were always pursuing her to the point where she was almost literally having to beat them off with a stick.

 

I don't doubt that it is harder to find a date if you are a black woman (over 50% of the smiles I have got on my Lavalife account since I moved to Central Canada have been from black women) but from the household I grew up in, I know that it is not impossible by any means. You can be classy, dignified and desired all at once. (Even if, as in your case, you come from a background of heinous abuse.)

Where do you go if because of the fact that you are a black woman, society and men in general will always reject you.

At this point I'll wager that your lack of self-confidence and sense of self-worth is doing more damage to your dating prospects than your race is. You need to attack the problem there, I would imagine, before your dating attempts improve.

Where do I find the will to live?

I've been single for 10 years and have never lost the will to live. Losing the will to live is a separate problem that will require repeated visits to a church minister, psychiatrist or psychologist. Get on that!