diana9 Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 In the past two weeks I met a guy through friends, and we hung out twice. I spent time with his friends, and one time he called me to go to some coffee shop with him and his friend, and I declined the invitation because he already arranged it and I wanted him to plan in advance. Last time we hung out with his two friends and we went alone to a club later. We spent the whole night talking, dancing, then he walked me home. We hugged in the club and he hugged me when we were saying goodbye, but he didn't try to kiss me. So, my question is, is he really interested or he looks at me like a friend? 1
smackie9 Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 He would be if you were more flirtatious and receptive to the hugs...touching him lightly, smiling lots, looking sexy for him. Gotta have some bait to have them bite. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 It sounds like you are playing games. He may be interested but you can't keep ducking his requests for dates based on some perceived schedule. Granted him never planning & always asking last minute would be bad but give him some benefit of the doubt. No kiss may mean he's respectful. My husband didn't kiss me until our 3rd date. It was fairly frustrating but sooooo worth it in the end.
preraph Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 Too soon to know. I don't blame you for not taking him up on last-minute things. Of course, if he only thinks of you as a friend, this is fine, but you don't know that and don't want that, so to me, it's fine to keep that boundary up so he doesn't take you for granted. Don't be rude about it, just be "busy" so he gets the idea that if he wants time, he has to give you a heads up a little soon, that's all. 1
Miss Spider Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 Only invites you out with other friends? All night talking, dancing, having fun...then you say goodbye and no move at all? If there was any time to make a move, it's after a night of alone time where all the other friends fell off and you were vining that much, Hate to be a joy-kill, but 99% chance you're dealing with a guy who is not interested and 1% chance one that is so passive you are going to have to make all of his choices for him. 2 1
Author diana9 Posted May 31, 2020 Author Posted May 31, 2020 31 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: It sounds like you are playing games. He may be interested but you can't keep ducking his requests for dates based on some perceived schedule. Granted him never planning & always asking last minute would be bad but give him some benefit of the doubt. No kiss may mean he's respectful. My husband didn't kiss me until our 3rd date. It was fairly frustrating but sooooo worth it in the end. No, I am not playing games, based on my previous experience I want a man who will plan at least hours to see me, and he called when he had arranged with his friend at evening and that I should drop by. I wasn't rude I just said that he should let me know earlier. 8 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Hate to be a joy-kill, but 99% chance you're dealing with a guy who is not interested and 1% chance one that is so passive you are going to have to make all of his choices for him. I was afraid so, because he was only hugging me, at one moment I said I was cold and he put his hand over my shoulder which is nice. I don't mind if he is respectful but I thought it was a great chance if he likes me. 1
Mystery4u Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 Sounds like friends. When a guy is interested, you will know it.
miranda561 Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 13 minutes ago, diana9 said: No, I am not playing games, based on my previous experience I want a man who will plan at least hours to see me, and he called when he had arranged with his friend at evening and that I should drop by. I wasn't rude I just said that he should let me know earlier. I was afraid so, because he was only hugging me, at one moment I said I was cold and he put his hand over my shoulder which is nice. I don't mind if he is respectful but I thought it was a great chance if he likes me. You cant write it off just because he didnt make the move straight away. That's just my opinion. I think him inviting you out literally everywhere is a good sign. Maybe next time give him signals though if youwant it to reach the next level
Foxhall Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 Hes almost certainly interested, he is just being a gentleman
Author diana9 Posted June 1, 2020 Author Posted June 1, 2020 Okay thank you for your replies, we will see. 1
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