andyjones2 Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 Hi I think I have a crush on a girl I saw on social media (Twitter), as she seems to have same interests as I do. She lives in the same city as me, but no mutual friends, so she obviously does not know me. We are both students but not at the same college. I was thinking of adding her on Twitter but that might make the situation worse as she would think I could be a weirdo/stalking/creepy. I'd like to get to know her, by meeting her. How should I approach her without being creepy? Thank you
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 10 minutes ago, andyjones2 said: I was thinking of adding her on Twitter but that might make the situation worse as she would think I could be a weirdo/stalking/creepy. I'm not sure what other option you have, though. Try adding her. See if you can build up a little rapport and find out more about her. She could have a boyfriend for all you know, for example. Take it from there. 2
Fox Sake Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, andyjones2 said: Hi I think I have a crush on a girl I saw on social media (Twitter), as she seems to have same interests as I do. She lives in the same city as me, but no mutual friends, so she obviously does not know me. We are both students but not at the same college. I was thinking of adding her on Twitter but that might make the situation worse as she would think I could be a weirdo/stalking/creepy. I'd like to get to know her, by meeting her. How should I approach her without being creepy? Thank you It’s social media. I really wouldn’t worry about looking creepy just cos you added someone. I would definitely try and make sure she doesn’t have a partner tho after you’ve added her, and choose your conversation wisely, cos otherwise you’ll look like a creep no matter what. Heavy breathing down the phone, stalking her at school etc now that would be creepy. You can’t force her to get to know you in person, but you can make an opportunity to introduce yourself or make yourself noticed, and take it from there. with all that said, it’s not how I roll personally, but I don’t see an issue with it Edited May 31, 2020 by Fox Sake 3
schlumpy Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 If you have common interests what could be more natural then to talk about them. Nothing creepy about that. If you get a cool response then just back off. There is no guaranteed approach that will insure success. All you can do is slightly tilt the odds in your favor. 3
Author andyjones2 Posted May 31, 2020 Author Posted May 31, 2020 (edited) Hello everybody! Thank you for your input, really much appreciated. I wasn't expecting answers so quick! I was thinking sort of 'forcing' a meeting with her while she goes at University or to an event, but it will be hard to predict, so, if this fails I was considering adding her on social media. Edited May 31, 2020 by andyjones2 1
Author andyjones2 Posted May 31, 2020 Author Posted May 31, 2020 (edited) Hi Just be there (college or event) when she is as well, but that's sort of hard to predict. Edited May 31, 2020 by andyjones2
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 1 minute ago, andyjones2 said: Just be there (college or event) when she is as well, but that's sort of hard to predict. As a woman, I think you're better to try the social media approach first. Find out a little more about her and see if she is receptive to communicating with you. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 I think adding her on social media is OK but don't talk to her to like her stuff too much. Do you have any friends who go to her school so you have a reason to be at an event? While I wouldn't call it forcing a meeting, I think creating an opportunity is a good idea. 1
Author andyjones2 Posted May 31, 2020 Author Posted May 31, 2020 11 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: I think adding her on social media is OK but don't talk to her to like her stuff too much. Do you have any friends who go to her school so you have a reason to be at an event? While I wouldn't call it forcing a meeting, I think creating an opportunity is a good idea. No, I do not have any friends going to her school unfortunately. Yes, an opportunity seems hard though.
ZA Dater Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 Well I would add her and then strike up a conversation around those common interests.
Erik30 Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 5 hours ago, andyjones2 said: I was thinking sort of 'forcing' a meeting with her while she goes at University or to an event, but it will be hard to predict, Adding her on social media isn't that creepy, but this right here might be.... 1 1
snowcones Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 (edited) I'm not sure if you're asking us if she'll think it's creepy to get a friend request from a random guy she doesn't know, or if you're asking us how to make a positive impression on her at the same time you add her. If it's the former, I'm pretty sure you won't be the first random guy to send her a friend request on social media, so don't worry about that. If it's the later, it's really the same as if you approached someone out and about, except on social media, you already have conversation topics you can start a chat about by looking at her social media and her interests. A fair warning though. Don't take the outdated lazy advice that males used to give of "Women love to talk, just let her do all the talking". This is just old protocol. Some of the socializing that used to go on in the old days has moved to social media, which is readily available and on tap and from everyone, so when you do talk one-on-one, you have to have something more to say than just "Hey" or "WYD". It's already hard to form a connection online with someone, so be engaging, be interesting. That goes for everyone. Edited May 31, 2020 by snowcones 1
preraph Posted May 31, 2020 Posted May 31, 2020 First of all, post a photo of yourself as your avatar on Twitter so she can see if she even finds you attractive at all. If she does and you start responding to her tweets nicely, she might become chatty, at which point, you can start hinting that after the pandemic you'll be ready to get out and go do something and then ask her when the time comes. If she isn't chatty after she sees your photo, forget about her. Taken or doesn't think you're cute. 3 1
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