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stillafool Established Member

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1 hour ago, Malin889 said:

I love guys saying "I have too many options". Ha!

Lots of them do have plenty of options.  I hear women talking about needing sex even in mixed company, not just girl talk.  Like Chris Rock said "If pu--y was a stock, it would be plummeting."

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Miss Spider Established Member

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Hahaaaah very true. I actually have never heard a guy say that IRL though...that sounds really cringe. Like, I would certainly hope you have other options..that's nothing to brag about  😛 Just move onto other options when the person you're dating doesn't suit you.

 

But I've heard some ppl on these boards say they don't wait around...that women know instantly f they are DTF so they don't see the point,.they got too many options.They're on these boards all day like me xD 

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poppyfields Established Member

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4 hours ago, simpycurious said:

Sorry....suppose to read “It’s NOT unusual”

Thanks for clarifying simp!  It was still unusual for me though.  He was the first!  

I know total eyeroll, but it's the truth.  :D

Edit:  @simpy, I just saw your HaHa emoji to my post, curious what you found so funny about it, it wasn't meant to be funny. 😕

I dunno, these emojis can sometimes be insulting. 

Whatevs. 

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simpycurious Established Member

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Sorry my voice text missed the NOT unusual in my original post...........it's also hard to text on the water...lol

I am also happy for you Poppy...my days are growing short as well but needless to say it's been  informative 

Miss Spider Established Member

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4 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Thanks for clarifying simp!  It was still unusual for me though.  He was the first!  

I know total eyeroll, but it's the truth.  :D

Poppy, when guys don't make the moves or try to slow the pace on our dates..my first assumption is that they are gay or have friend zoned me lol...maybe I should reconsider this 

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simpycurious Established Member

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no eyeroll from me I think it's impressive 

Life is short and going for what you want is never a bad thing in my book win or fail at least you WENT FOR IT

just look at the news this poor guy gets his life taken over virtually NOTHING ....life is fleeting

wrong emoji it was suppose to be LIKE^ not LAUGH

 

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thefooloftheyear Established Member

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Desirable guys have tons of options....In fact after age 40 or so, its a literal sea of available  women...

One of my good friends slept with IIRC something like over 20 women in 14 months of using OLD...He's no prize  either....Broke, small gut, tatted up biker type...And I saw a lot of the texts/photos, so I don't believe its all BS.....Couple of dogs for sure, but some not so bad....

Anyway, at the end of the day I don't believe the theory that a guy who is actually in the market for a LTR will scoff at waiting...Forever?  Nah...But over a short period of a few months, whatever...Sure, no problem...If they bailed it was likely because for whatever reason it wasn't anything they needed or desired to wait long enough for...

TFY

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Gr8fuln2020 Established Member

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Anyway, at the end of the day I don't believe the theory that a guy who is actually in the market for a LTR will scoff at waiting...Forever?  Nah...But over a short period of a few months, whatever...Sure, no problem...

A few months?! No way! After some time, I see a few weeks as non-progression and it is time to say goodbye. Unless there are circumstances, such as COVID, no way a few months. All of my physical encounters, intimacy occurred within the first couple of weeks and naturally. No begging, prodding, just two people wanting intimacy because...

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simpycurious Established Member

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3 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said:

Desirable guys have tons of options....In fact after age 40 or so, its a literal sea of available  women...

One of my good friends slept with IIRC something like over 20 women in 14 months of using OLD...He's no prize  either....Broke, small gut, tatted up biker type...And I saw a lot of the texts/photos, so I don't believe its all BS.....Couple of dogs for sure, but some not so bad....

Anyway, at the end of the day I don't believe the theory that a guy who is actually in the market for a LTR will scoff at waiting...Forever?  Nah...But over a short period of a few months, whatever...Sure, no problem...If they bailed it was likely because for whatever reason it wasn't anything they needed or desired to wait long enough for...

TFY

I am going to venture to say that is not the SAFEST lifestyle that I can envision but whatever......there are LOTS of available women 20's and up but that's not the point 

Miss Spider Established Member

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6 hours ago, simpycurious said:

It's that unusual for the woman to make the move.  LOL.  I could tell some stories and I mean some good one's.  I think that it comes down to the individual and what they are AFTER............

It's not that unusual for YOU. You have the most options out of all of us here, though. 

 

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When a guy has  a bunch of women practically knocking down their door to sleep with him, why would they even need to make the first move, let alone wait? I say just let the women come to him, and if he is too virtuous to sleep with them on the first date, reject them as need be. That is, if he can see through the cloud of panties being thrown at him.

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poppyfields Established Member

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18 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Poppy, when guys don't make the moves or try to slow the pace on our dates..my first assumption is that they are gay or have friend zoned me lol...maybe I should reconsider this 

I dunno, maybe you should ask??  Lol

Damn straight I did!  But we were pretty tight by then, so....

My theory about you cookies is that admittedly you do not like these guys, not vibing, sexual or otherwise.  Yes? No?

If wrong, apologies, but anyway, my theory is since they sense no sexual interest or vibe from you, it kills it for them.  Or perhaps just intimidated, felt they'd be rejected. 

What do you think?  Would you have been open to having sex had they tried for it? 

Like I said, just a theory, probably dumb.  :eek:

 

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thefooloftheyear Established Member

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4 minutes ago, Gr8fuln2020 said:

A few months?! No way! After some time, I see a few weeks as non-progression and it is time to say goodbye. Unless there are circumstances, such as COVID, no way a few months. All of my physical encounters, intimacy occurred within the first couple of weeks and naturally. No begging, prodding, just two people wanting intimacy because...

If you met the right woman, you would probably wait, if you didn't have that type of  restraint to wait for a true quality woman that required some patience, you're probably an idiot....no disrespect, man...

TFY 

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Miss Spider Established Member

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12 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

I dunno, maybe you should ask????  Lol

Damn straight I did!  But we were pretty tight by then, so....

My theory about you cookies is that admittedly you do not like these guys, not vibing, sexual or otherwise.  Yes? No?

If wrong, apologies, but anyway, my theory is since they sense no sexual interest or vibe from you, it kills it for them.

Whst do you think?  Would you have been open to having sex had they tried for it?  

 

Noooo some have been cute! FOR EXAMPLE:  This guy I'm actually still seeing. We're going hiking on weds.

I went to his house for our first date(my request)and he didn't kiss me on the date at ALL  and I feel like I was receptive/trying. Was certain he didn't like me much. I'm not saying I expected sex... just a kiss on a date well done..

 

But second date, we went out with some friends, ended up kissing. Alls good..

 

 

 

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Okie doke cookies, tnx, I stand corrected!  Xd

See, I told you it was a dumb theory, I have them often. :eek:

I'm gonna have to read that thread, it was before my time.  :)

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miranda561 Established Member

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29 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Thanks for clarifying simp!  It was still unusual for me though.  He was the first!  

I know total eyeroll, but it's the truth.  :D

Edit:  @simpy, I just saw your HaHa emoji to my post, curious what you found so funny about it, it wasn't meant to be funny. 😕

I dunno, these emojis can sometimes be insulting. 

Whatevs. 

You read too much into emojis let it go 😂

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10 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Noooo some have been cute! FOR EXAMPLE:  This guy I'm actually still seeing. We're going hiking on weds.

I went to his house for our first date(my request)and he didn't kiss me on the date at ALL  and I feel like I was receptive/trying. Was certain he didn't like me much. I'm not saying I expected sex... just a kiss on a date well done..

 

But second date, we went out with some friends, ended up kissing. Alls good..

 

 

 

Omg do people actually  kiss during this corona time. Im shocked 😂. 

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12 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said:

If you met the right woman, you would probably wait, if you didn't have that type of  restraint to wait for a true quality woman that required some patience, you're probably an idiot....no disrespect, man...

TFY 

Yeah seriously, I cannot imagine a man, having met the "right" woman where everything fell into place, dumping her for not be ready for full blown sex.

Unless he interpreted that to mean she wasn't into him, attracted to him, and a rejection of sorts. 

Gr8, is that how you'd feel?  Like she wasn't all that attracted to you and you'd feel rejected?

I've read posts from men admitting to that.

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Miss Spider Established Member

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Though I'm not the personality that has sex with someone I don't know right away (I just don't get those urges where I need to) I think quality is really a value judgment. There are plenty of great women who are in great relationships that started with sex really early.  I think women who go after what they want are a lot more respectable than those who dangle sex like carrot to keep a guy around/chasing. Based on my friends relationships, there are plenty of good guys that don't see waiting awhile as virtuous at all either. They hooked up on a first date and they just clicked so they are together. Just depends on your values, I guess.

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Miss Spider Established Member

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1 minute ago, miranda561 said:

Omg do people actually  kiss during this corona time. Im shocked 😂. 

This was back in dec' but yeah they do !

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8 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

You read too much into emojis let it go 😂

Perhaps I do, but if so that's my business dear.  

I find them inappropriate sometimes, you don't post a HAHA emoji to a serious post.  The written word is ambiguous enough.  

It you don't agree, that's fine. carry on.

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4 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Though I'm not the personality that has sex with someone I don't know right away (I just don't get those urges where I need to) I think quality is really a value judgment. There are plenty of great women who are in great relationships that started with sex really early.  I think women who go after what they want are a lot more respectable than those who dangle sex like carrot to keep a guy around/chasing. Based on my friends relationships, there are plenty of good guys that don't see waiting awhile as virtuous at all either. They hooked up on a first date and they just clicked so they are together. Just depends on your values, I guess.

I always thought it was the opposite. Because I've heard a lot ofmen say the woman was too easy.etc etc and they like  a challenge 

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Miss Spider Established Member

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2 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

I always thought it was the opposite. Because I've heard a lot ofmen say the woman was too easy.etc etc and they like  a challenge 

I've heard some guys say that and I've heard some guys say they don't care. The truth may be somewhere in the middle. Depends on the dude.

 

BTW I've only heard guys give their opinion about this on the internet...

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miranda561 Established Member

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25 minutes ago, thefooloftheyear said:

If you met the right woman, you would probably wait, if you didn't have that type of  restraint to wait for a true quality woman that required some patience, you're probably an idiot....no disrespect, man...

TFY 

I feel exactly the same about  some men who do that !

Miss Spider Established Member

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1 minute ago, miranda561 said:

I feel exactly the same about  some men who do that !

You lose respect when guys give it up too easy?

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miranda561 Established Member

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27 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

It's not that unusual for YOU. You have the most options out of all of us here, though. 

 

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When a guy has  a bunch of women practically knocking down their door to sleep with him, why would they even need to make the first move, let alone wait? I say just let the women come to him, and if he is too virtuous to sleep with them on the first date, reject them as need be. That is, if he can see through the cloud of panties being thrown at him.

I guess that includes  the guy i havent spoken to in now like nearly  2 months. 😯 omg where did the time go.

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