poppyfields Posted June 5, 2020 Posted June 5, 2020 35 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: That sounds so lukewarm. I think you're the backup plan because his female foreign friend turned him down again. It's up to you but I wouldn't even bother to answer. Omg, I just posted same thing! Sorry CG hadn't read your post yet otherwise would have just agreed with you. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted June 5, 2020 Posted June 5, 2020 9 hours ago, Glx said: Soo, an hour ago he texted me "I heard a lot of good things about restaurant X. We can go there next week if you want " What do you think about it? Would you suggest me to go? Meh. No. I think you're his back-up option, as a few others suggested. He isn't that interested, either. Not with the behaviour you saw out of him and his ensuing silence. 1
Miss Spider Posted June 5, 2020 Posted June 5, 2020 (edited) Hell no do not go... in fact, why isn’t he blocked... his lame text is clogging up space in your phone’s memory Edited June 5, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
simpycurious Posted June 5, 2020 Posted June 5, 2020 GLx, I would not be involved with this dude. You deserve to be a priority and to be treated as such. 2
Author Glx Posted June 5, 2020 Author Posted June 5, 2020 He replied: "Ok, it's a pity. I wanted to text you earlier but I'm fully concentrated on my studies now..." so that's it I guess
poppyfields Posted June 5, 2020 Posted June 5, 2020 (edited) 29 minutes ago, Glx said: He replied: "Ok, it's a pity. I wanted to text you earlier but I'm fully concentrated on my studies now..." I would ignore that. No need to block unless he starts to hassle/annoy you. There are better men out there, that's for damn sure. Next. Edited June 5, 2020 by poppyfields 2
ExpatInItaly Posted June 5, 2020 Posted June 5, 2020 27 minutes ago, Glx said: He replied: "Ok, it's a pity. I wanted to text you earlier but I'm fully concentrated on my studies now..." He's full of equine manure. A guy who is interested isn't going to risk letting you slip away by not contacting you at all. Nor is he going to leave half-way through a date. I think he's just got no other dates lined up so he thought he'd see if you're still around. You're wise to forgo this one. 2 2
Author Glx Posted June 5, 2020 Author Posted June 5, 2020 1 minute ago, poppyfields said: I would ignore that. No need to block unless he starts to hassle/annoy you. There are better men out there, that's for damn sure. Next. that's what I did. 3
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 16 hours ago, Glx said: He replied: "Ok, it's a pity. I wanted to text you earlier but I'm fully concentrated on my studies now..." so that's it I guess Oh blah, blah, blah. Dude, don't put yourself out...you know? No need to answer, IMO. He might break his texting finger from the near-insurmountable effort.
Miss Spider Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 (edited) 17 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: He's full of equine manure. A guy who is interested isn't going to risk letting you slip away by not contacting you at all. Nor is he going to leave half-way through a date. I think he's just got no other dates lined up so he thought he'd see if you're still around. You're wise to forgo this one. This exactly Edited June 6, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
simpycurious Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 23 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: He's full of equine manure. A guy who is interested isn't going to risk letting you slip away by not contacting you at all. Nor is he going to leave half-way through a date. I think he's just got no other dates lined up so he thought he'd see if you're still around. You're wise to forgo this one. You are SECOND or maybe Third TEAM to him. Just move past this TOOL. He thinks that he is a PLAYER 1
miranda561 Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 On 6/5/2020 at 2:42 AM, poppyfields said: That's a pretty lame invite if you ask me. I mean we can go there "if you want?" Lol. Jesus. He sounds really insecure and my guess about him is what I posted yesterday. He's intimidated by you. Can't even ask you out properly. Either that or you're the backup girl. The girl he cut your date short for fell through, and he's circling back to you. I'd take a pass, but your call. He sounds like you know who . "Do you want to meet me"
miranda561 Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 On 6/4/2020 at 11:02 PM, amanda141 said: Omg that’s unexpected. But why did he way so long?? I hope you’re not his plan B I would tell him sth like “so you’re not dead lol” . I know that probably the best thing to do would be to ignore him and refuse his invite. But I also know that when you like someone, usually you don’t listen to your brain at all Therefore I would accept. I would be curious.. but then I would tell him that I didnt like how he behaved on your 2nd date, as it was kinda rude How long did he wait? Three days? As in between you meeting him last and him arranging this date. Contrary to popular opinion, i would go, just to get a better picture of whats going on with him. It could go either way but why not just take a chance. I've seen situations between people at the beginning starting out rough..but then ending very well. Also not that great . Its your choice though. If nothing at all you can at least have a nice dinner 1
miranda561 Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 On 6/5/2020 at 12:24 PM, Glx said: I replied just "I'm busy next week" How long did he wait? Three days? As in between you meeting him last and him arranging this date. Contrary to popular opinion, i would go, just to get a better picture of whats going on with him. It could go either way but why not just take a chance. I've seen situations between people at the beginning starting out rough..but then ending very well. Also not that great . Its your choice though. If nothing at all you can at least have a nice dinner
Amanda141 Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 Yes I agree with @Miranda561. If I were you and I liked him I think I would be curious to know the reasons behind his behaviour, so why not. 1
poppyfields Posted June 6, 2020 Posted June 6, 2020 (edited) 26 minutes ago, miranda561 said: He sounds like you know who . "Do you want to meet me" Lol, I actually thought of you and your sit when reading! Both sort of a half-assed backwards way of asking a girl out! Edited June 6, 2020 by poppyfields
Author Glx Posted June 7, 2020 Author Posted June 7, 2020 12 hours ago, miranda561 said: How long did he wait? Three days? As in between you meeting him last and him arranging this date. Contrary to popular opinion, i would go, just to get a better picture of whats going on with him. It could go either way but why not just take a chance. I've seen situations between people at the beginning starting out rough..but then ending very well. Also not that great . Its your choice though. If nothing at all you can at least have a nice dinner Almost five days. We met on Saturday, he wrote me around 11 p.m. on Thursday. This, plus the fact that he left after 45 min on a second date.. He just didn't like me.
Miss Spider Posted June 7, 2020 Posted June 7, 2020 Maybe he’s just not in place right now to receive your love. He needs to mature first. Haha 1
Realitysux Posted June 7, 2020 Posted June 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: Maybe he’s just not in place right now to receive your love. He needs to mature first. Haha I don't think that's the case at all. I don't know anyone including myself who isn't ready to receive love. I also read a lot of your posts about bpd and even though I am not bpd, I know a lot about it and there is no medications. Love is a bit different then dating and most men try to find someone that feels right. They are looking for that one person that feels right to them. I have nothing but connections with men and in the mean time they keep occupied with women. The feeling between these two was not right and was not mutual or the same connection. They just weren't on the same page. I also know this guy who sleeps around. He's a pretty and big guy. He is with this women who wants a relationship with him but he won't do it because they had a threesome early on. Men need to see their girlfriends in a certain light. I am around men constantly so I have a lot of knowledge as to what they are looking for. 1
miranda561 Posted June 7, 2020 Posted June 7, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, Glx said: Almost five days. We met on Saturday, he wrote me around 11 p.m. on Thursday. This, plus the fact that he left after 45 min on a second date.. He just didn't like me. I think leaving on a second date is wrong. He shouldn't have done that or at least found another day when he could meet you and stay! But i think if he really didn't like you..he wouldnt ask you out again!. However he is probably immature and hasnt learnt proper etiquette or how to treat a woman properly. So its really upto you. if you're curious..you could meet him for another date and see. Edited June 7, 2020 by miranda561
Gaeta Posted June 7, 2020 Posted June 7, 2020 Glx: To me you shot yourself in the foot with this one. He sent you a text from a museum you didn't reply. He text you again to ask you out to dinner and you declined. What is he suppose to do from here? It's early dating so what he delayed texting you? You expected this man total devotion after meeting him twice! c'mon! People have lives, and friends visiting with family in his case. 1
poppyfields Posted June 7, 2020 Posted June 7, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: Glx: To me you shot yourself in the foot with this one. He sent you a text from a museum you didn't reply. He text you again to ask you out to dinner and you declined. What is he suppose to do from here? It's early dating so what he delayed texting you? You expected this man total devotion after meeting him twice! c'mon! People have lives, and friends visiting with family in his case. I hardly think Gix is expecting total devotion. Just a guy who is interested and makes an effort would be nice. After ditching her on their second date after only 45 min because of alleged other plans that he neglected to tell her about prior to, the "text" he sent her was an emoji. That's it. No apologies for having to suddenly run out on our date, let me make it up to you by taking you to dinner (or something similar), he sent a friggin emoji. Then waits five days and asks her to dinner "if she wants to go." Please. Guy is lukewarm, if that. Or wants to keep her on rotation and do the bare minimum, very bare. Yes it's early stages which is the time to be choosy and choose wisely. Choose wisely now and avoid BS and possible broken heart later. To me, HE is the one who shot himself in the foot, assuming he does like her. Edited June 7, 2020 by poppyfields 1 1 1
miranda561 Posted June 7, 2020 Posted June 7, 2020 30 minutes ago, poppyfields said: I hardly think Gix is expecting total devotion. Just a guy who is interested and makes an effort would be nice. After ditching her on their second date after only 45 min because of alleged other plans that he neglected to tell her about prior to, the "text" he sent her was an emoji. That's it. No apologies for having to suddenly run out on our date, let me make it up to you by taking you to dinner (or something similar), he sent a friggin emoji. Then waits five days and asks her to dinner "if she wants to go." Please. Guy is lukewarm, if that. Or wants to keep her on rotation and do the bare minimum, very bare. Yes it's early stages which is the time to be choosy and choose wisely. Choose wisely now and avoid BS and possible broken heart later. To me, HE is the one who shot himself in the foot, assuming he does like her. Oh man! Why is dating so hard .
miranda561 Posted June 7, 2020 Posted June 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: Glx: To me you shot yourself in the foot with this one. He sent you a text from a museum you didn't reply. He text you again to ask you out to dinner and you declined. What is he suppose to do from here? It's early dating so what he delayed texting you? You expected this man total devotion after meeting him twice! c'mon! People have lives, and friends visiting with family in his case. I do kind of understand where you're coming from..but also her perspective. Where he left her on their date and let her mind wonder for five days ( no contact). That's why i suggest she just meet him a third time to be able to get a grasp of the situation better.
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