Basic Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 Met this woman, I like her, she likes me. Much in common. I've had good-great sex with others, so has she. But for us together it just sucks. 4 times, 4 bad. I could live with this, she says she can't. What to do?
brittanyjean259 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 she says she cant live with bad sex? well for me i can live with bad love, and bad sex lol how long have you guys been together? sex isnt everything...sex is a benefit of a good loving relationship... seek that first
Gold Pile Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 I don't want to sound like a sissy, but I could get past "bad sex" for the right woman. 4 times? I'd say you have not been together very long? If she gives love a chance to grow, the good sex may follow. (or not) Tell her your reasons for being able to live with it, maybe it will help her decide. But if she wants to go, you'll have to be ready to deal with it. 4 dates does not a heart break.
kitkat826 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 What makes the sex bad? Lack of chemistry? Incompatability with preferences for positions and things? Unable to "push eachother's buttons"? Some things can improve with time, practice, and communication; others can't. If its bad as you say this early in the relationship, I would be worried. Try to talk about it and get to the heart of it now if you want to try to save the relationship, but I wouldn't hold my breath for a complete turn around.
edbravo Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Met this woman, I like her, she likes me. Much in common. I've had good-great sex with others, so has she. But for us together it just sucks. 4 times, 4 bad. I could live with this, she says she can't. What to do? frankly dude, if you want to keep this gal you ought to keep up. what i mean, ask her what she likes and prefer and work on it. i am sure there are many ways you can surprise her with . or buy a 1001 ways and position book.
SuperMonk Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Seems like a cop-out. Yeah, when the sex is bad it usually is an indication of bigger issues. those who say "sex is just part" of a relationship are crazy - WHAT POINT is there for two people to get together if there's going to be bad sex or no sex. I was not put on this damn planet to just "be friends" with a girl and just kissy kiss and get "less than what I want." A superior man SHOULD NOT deny what he wants. To deny yourself and to lie to yourself that it'll get better tells yourself and others - You cannot be trusted. HE should have great sex with a great woman, if he is not having great sex, indeed he is not with a great woman.
edbravo Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Seems like a cop-out. Yeah, when the sex is bad it usually is an indication of bigger issues. those who say "sex is just part" of a relationship are crazy - WHAT POINT is there for two people to get together if there's going to be bad sex or no sex. I was not put on this damn planet to just "be friends" with a girl and just kissy kiss and get "less than what I want." A superior man SHOULD NOT deny what he wants. To deny yourself and to lie to yourself that it'll get better tells yourself and others - You cannot be trusted. HE should have great sex with a great woman, if he is not having great sex, indeed he is not with a great woman. CONFIRM......dude you are one of those CAVEMAN type....hope you dont look like one.
laRubiaBonita Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Met this woman, I like her, she likes me. Much in common. I've had good-great sex with others, so has she. But for us together it just sucks. 4 times, 4 bad. I could live with this, she says she can't. What to do? well you have only had sex 4 times, that is like one night for me:laugh: ..... get to it and practice!
brittanyjean259 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 yeah people deserve and have great sex. BUT it does not define who you are... me and my boyfriend(ex) started having bad sex after the 2nd year....and i now know why lack of alot of issues in our relationship.... the first year was great bc we were so in love... he was talking about the woman not enjoying the sex... is sex all that big of a deal in a relationship? jw
SuperMonk Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 practice makes perfect. but, people are more willing to practice with those who they consider perfect.
brittanyjean259 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 yeah that makes sence, guess i should have put more effort.. he even said...once the sex is gone there is a big problem well i defently was naive
Oddone Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 IMO the lack of great sex can be looked past by either partner in the early bliss of a relationship or when all other factors are good in any relationship. It becomes an issue when one or more things go south i.e. financial trouble, work stress and or conflict with family or any number of stresses. Then the "spotlight" starts to shine on the lack of or quality of the sex. It's like the last straw sometimes (not always). When the sex is bad it just magnifies the problems that exist elsewhere in the relationship.
laRubiaBonita Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 and there is always self-satisfaction in the midst of your partner.... how HOTT is that? and then there are toys....... what exactly is the sexual difficulty?
edbravo Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 and there is always self-satisfaction in the midst of your partner.... how HOTT is that? and then there are toys....... what exactly is the sexual difficulty? Probably he needs to whack the salami before he put it into action…..if you get what I mean.
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