Juha Posted May 29, 2020 Posted May 29, 2020 (edited) If I am interested in someone and they want friends I say thanks, but no thanks He just came out of a relationship and seems like he wants to get out but not have a relationship as he is healing and skittish towards women. He probably does like you and would probably accept friendship with you. Do you really mean it? Also do not be surprised if months down the road after hanging out, doing things he tells you he likes you and wants to date, etc If you have no interest in him at all romantically then wish him well.. Edited May 29, 2020 by Juha
rjc149 Posted May 29, 2020 Posted May 29, 2020 23 hours ago, Air20 said: I don't want him thinking I'm making assumptions, but then as ric said, I should stop worrying about what people think haha Yes, you should! But, to an extent -- the context isn't hanging out and having some beers like buddies. The circumstances under which you met, and the context of your meetups, allows you to safely make the assumption that he's interested in more than being a buddy. Maybe it's a function of your social anxiety to doubt yourself and second-guess everything. No need to do that here. If you want to explore a friendship, I would wait until things are back to normal and you can set a meetup somewhere without the intimate context, like meeting for a drink at a bar, or going on a hike, or something like that. Although, I don't know how a gay courtship works, I guess any one-on-one thing with another guy has a potentially romantic connotation?
elaine567 Posted May 29, 2020 Posted May 29, 2020 16 hours ago, Juha said: seems like he wants to get out but not have a relationship as he is healing and skittish towards women. The guy in question may indeed be "skittish towards women" , but the OP is also a guy.
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