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Dating a girl not into her phone at ALL

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Miss Spider Established Member

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Okay,,, so I’m talking to this guy I’m supposed to have a date w tomorrow. And I will admit I put him through some stuff in the past , , like canceling on him etc . Well, I messaged him today ... hey, are we still on etc. I’m lbarely even on the fence about going😣, so needless to say it irked me that I didn’t hear from him for  like 9 hours. . He works as a dr at hospital on nights so I gave him some leeway... but he was also on fb messenger. I figured I had just been ghosted for the first time and was prepared to put  my name on the wall with the dating greats. But of course the minute I say screw he got back to me.  He says he’s sleeping and then he had to run errands sorry.... but I didn’t buy it plus I was just po’ed beyond repair,  

I know I sound like I have a double standard, hypocritical .., but the day before a date is different... not getting back all day when someone asks you about it? That’s poor form. So I told him I made other plans. I guess I feel good to just be free of the situation. But also what a dck...

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On 5/26/2020 at 1:40 PM, Butters14 said:

Hi guys,

I've been dating this girl for almost 2 months now and I wanted your point of view on this. Basically, she is the type that BARELY checks her phone, she just hates using it from what she told me. I don't think I've ever seen her check her phone when we're together.

It has been like that since the beginning, 1-2 replies per day max.

She has never turned me down when I asked her out (yet) and when we're together, it's great (and I think she's really fun to be with), but between dates, BARELY any communication. She also has never initiated texting (obviously).

We live a bit less than 1 hour apart and with the current situation, seeing each other more than once a week is difficult (she does sleep over on weekends).

I'm posting this because I'm not going to see her this weekend as she had other plans (and that's perfectly fine) but we haven't texted at all since she left on Saturday and I don't think she will unless I do... I'd feel really weird if we didn't talk at all for almost 2 weeks...

Is it needy of me to want her to text first for once? Or am I expecting too much from someone who is not into her phone at all?

I'm not the needy/possessive type at all, but I do expect SOME thing on her part.

 

Yeah, it's really an excuse of her not being into you. I get a kick of people...in general...that say "I hate talking on the phone" Well, you SHOULDN'T"T hate it, if it's a romantic prospect.

However, I even had severed friendships with people that are bad about this.

Funny, you can Google "Why hasn't he/she returned my text" and you'd see tons of people making excuses for THAT person. Why? Because they ARE that person. WTF is so hard about returning a text?

If you're into someone, you'd make it a point to check your phone more frequently than you had to see if "that cute guy/gal sent you a text, or called" (It's irrelevant how).

 

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On 5/28/2020 at 8:20 PM, Cookiesandough said:

Okay,,, so I’m talking to this guy I’m supposed to have a date w tomorrow. And I will admit ...
I know I sound like I have a double standard, hypocritical .., but the day before a date is different... not getting back all day when someone asks you about it? That’s poor form. So I told him I made other plans. I guess I feel good to just be free of the situation. But also what a dck...

So I just want to amend that I let this person talk me into a date anyway / I felt I may have been too harsh....It was blah.

 

All I can say is always listen to your gut x.x

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For me, it always depended on how into him I was. 

Very Into -  If we have a scheduled date, it wouldn't matter if he checked in 1-2 hours before the date, I'd go!  

Not Into -  If he didn't call the day prior to confirm, great excuse to break the date and blame him!  LOL 

Note to self if ever single again:  Don't accept dates with men I'm not into.  :)

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