amaysngrace Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 1 minute ago, miranda561 said: I don't call the person out because i feel like ill be compromising my self respect. Also i don't want the other person to know i want to speak to them to that level. As it may end up with them being all arrogant about it For me waiting around for reply makes me feel like I must not have any self-respect. I don’t care how it makes me seem really. It’s who I am. He didn’t complain about it either. He stepped up his game and now he calls me every chance he can. He’s a busy guy which works for me cause I don’t ever have to call him. I wouldn’t want to interrupt him in the middle of something important. Personally I like it when the man calls better than me having to. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 4 minutes ago, miranda561 said: I always use emojis/bitmojis And sometimes people are like why do you use them so much Ha ha! I remember this woman I was getting to know (including my ex who was resistant to texting at first) about two years ago who would get annoyed at my use of emojis. She never stopped communicating with me and we continue to be friendly. Anyhoo, she would refuse to use emojis after I explained that I simply thought they were fun and sometimes helps convey emotions beyond just the text you see. She indignantly would remind me that that wasn't necessary. I said, "Okay, let's talk over the phone more, so there is less misunderstanding..." She refused. She said she didn't like her voice. Nonsense. She had a wonderful voice. Dated her for a while and now, when she contacts me, She will only send a single emoji to say hi or something else. When I use them, I don't include more than one or two strategic emojis. If I am being silly, Can be up to 25! It's fun and I love the responses I get. When there is reciprocity, you know you are having fun and you are both laughing at the other end of the line! 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 3 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: For me waiting around for reply makes me feel like I must not have any self-respect. I don’t care how it makes me seem really. It’s who I am. He didn’t complain about it either. He stepped up his game and now he calls me every chance he can. He’s a busy guy which works for me cause I don’t ever have to call him. I wouldn’t want to interrupt him in the middle of something important. Personally I like it when the man calls better than me having to. You communicated. Does it matter what mode? You got what you want. Again, it's about communication and expectations. 1 1
Emilie Jolie Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 12 minutes ago, miranda561 said: I always use emojis/bitmojis And sometimes people are like why do you use them so much That's my one reason for texting. I use them all the time, so much so that I let some slide in pro emails by force of habit. Those little faces bring joy to my texting / mailing life 1 1
Miss Spider Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 Mirand maybe you should grab the bull by the horns and tell the guy to stop being a lil bish and get over himself and just reply .. 2 1
Emilie Jolie Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 1 hour ago, simpycurious said: I will say when the cleaning ladies arrive every week, it is a GOOD day so don't knock it Plural?? How many do you need? 1
amaysngrace Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 4 minutes ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: You communicated. Does it matter what mode? You got what you want. Again, it's about communication and expectations. Exactly. Sending the bitmoji got the message across but in a not so serious way. Like I said, it worked. I love that you send emojis. My guy does that too and now I’m doing it more myself. Sometimes I’ll just blow a kiss at random times in the day and even if he doesn’t see it right away he will eventually and hopefully makes him smile. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 2 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: Exactly. Sending the bitmoji got the message across but in a not so serious way. Like I said, it worked. I love that you send emojis. My guy does that too and now I’m doing it more myself. Sometimes I’ll just blow a kiss at random times in the day and even if he doesn’t see it right away he will eventually and hopefully makes him smile. 1
miranda561 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 23 minutes ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: A lot of the younger generation is getting faulty advice regarding relationships today. Too many of them are getting advice from macho, self-serving, YouTubers. Many of our men, especially, just have a basic difficulty communicating. Yeh true. There is some red pill american guy on youtube. Who is basically saying treat women like crap old and young. Older ones because theyre only apparently used up and are running out of options and that's why they shouldbe treated like garbage More or less 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 Just now, miranda561 said: Yeh true. There is some red pill american guy on youtube. Who is basically saying treat women like crap old and young. Older ones because theyre only apparently used up and are running out of options and that's why they shouldbe treated like garbage More or less Just know...that some of these guys are angry dudes. Pissed off that there are now expectations and consequences to their behavior. They actually have to try and be more attentive and less selfish. Some guys resent that world. 1
miranda561 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 20 minutes ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: Ha ha! I remember this woman I was getting to know (including my ex who was resistant to texting at first) about two years ago who would get annoyed at my use of emojis. She never stopped communicating with me and we continue to be friendly. Anyhoo, she would refuse to use emojis after I explained that I simply thought they were fun and sometimes helps convey emotions beyond just the text you see. She indignantly would remind me that that wasn't necessary. I said, "Okay, let's talk over the phone more, so there is less misunderstanding..." She refused. She said she didn't like her voice. Nonsense. She had a wonderful voice. Dated her for a while and now, when she contacts me, She will only send a single emoji to say hi or something else. When I use them, I don't include more than one or two strategic emojis. If I am being silly, Can be up to 25! It's fun and I love the responses I get. When there is reciprocity, you know you are having fun and you are both laughing at the other end of the line! I agree i think they're all fun. (Bitmojis/emojis/gifs) But some people just dont go along with it. Boring af... 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 Just now, miranda561 said: I agree i think they're all fun. (Bitmojis/emojis/gifs) But some people just dont go along with it. Boring af... Don't get me started with gifs! Man, the world really opens up! Sorry, being silly now.
miranda561 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 2 minutes ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: Just know...that some of these guys are angry dudes. Pissed off that there are now expectations and consequences to their behavior. They actually have to try and be more attentive and less selfish. Some guys resent that world. I know. I have a male friend just because he was rejected by one woman who he became obsessed with once...he nows treats all women like ****. Tried it with me even..even though we're just friends.. needless to say i ignore him now. I tried to make him understand that hes got issues. But he refused to take it in and change 1
miranda561 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 24 minutes ago, Emilie Jolie said: That's my one reason for texting. I use them all the time, so much so that I let some slide in pro emails by force of habit. Those little faces bring joy to my texting / mailing life Omgg sameeeee 1
simpycurious Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 27 minutes ago, Emilie Jolie said: Plural?? How many do you need? LOL....there are a few and they are all awesome ladies 1
miranda561 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 46 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: For me waiting around for reply makes me feel like I must not have any self-respect. I don’t care how it makes me seem really. It’s who I am. He didn’t complain about it either. He stepped up his game and now he calls me every chance he can. He’s a busy guy which works for me cause I don’t ever have to call him. I wouldn’t want to interrupt him in the middle of something important. Personally I like it when the man calls better than me having to. I dont judge anyone else for being straight up. Its obviously great that it worked out for you. Its just personally i wouldnt mention it to someone that they're not calling or texting enough. I wouldnt wait on them either. I just think they should take that initiative on their own. Who knows maybe there are people waiting for me to say exactly those things..and im missing out oh well.
Malin889 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 On 5/27/2020 at 9:20 AM, poppyfields said: Oh the irony! Lol. Do you know how many times I've heard men advise other men "Don't text in between dates"! Use text to schedule the date ONLY." There is a poster on this forum who preaches the same. I've read it on forums and in real life. And many men follow that advice too, leaving women wondering all the time - does he think about me in between our dates, does he miss me, is he into me? Doesn't he want to talk to me? I've read hundreds of threads like this. And women are told to suck it up, let the man lead. Ugh. So maybe this girl is following that "no texting in between" rule because she thinks that's what OP wants! She doesn't want to risk turning him off by texting in between. Just a thought because I am sure she is aware of the advice given to men about not texting in between. But I suppose men want to be in control of the texting and in this case, he's not. And that is what's bothering him. It's all such a game.... That’s a good thought! He’s not in control so he’s worried. Hmmm. I like that. 1
miranda561 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 52 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: Exactly. Sending the bitmoji got the message across but in a not so serious way. Like I said, it worked. I love that you send emojis. My guy does that too and now I’m doing it more myself. Sometimes I’ll just blow a kiss at random times in the day and even if he doesn’t see it right away he will eventually and hopefully makes him smile. I wish i could be more like that
Miss Spider Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 (edited) Don’t like gifs... just don’t. I like the kissy emoji for texting maintenance...Echelons better than “hope you have/are having a great day “ Edited May 28, 2020 by Cookiesandough
poppyfields Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 (edited) 48 minutes ago, miranda561 said: Yeah I love using emojis too and use often. Also love when men do, I especially love the green-faced monster or angry emoji lol, not sure why, gonna have dig deep to figure that one out! XD All in good fun. But sometimes the way people use them is really inappropriate! Like when someone texts or posts something serious or dear to their heart, and the recipient replies back with or or emojis. Emojis are powerful! Use them appropriately is all I ask because if not, it can come off as rude and dismissive imo. Edited May 28, 2020 by poppyfields 2
miranda561 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 56 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Mirand maybe you should grab the bull by the horns and tell the guy to stop being a lil bish and get over himself and just reply .. I should shouldnt i cookie. Unfortunately he will never get over himself. I think hes just wanting me to declare undying love for him lol
amaysngrace Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 2 minutes ago, miranda561 said: I wish i could be more like that You can be! You can be anything you want to be in this life! 1
Spainglish Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 2 hours ago, simpycurious said: And do they tell you? Not really. They change the subject and start a real conversation.
miranda561 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 (edited) 58 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: You can be! You can be anything you want to be in this life! Thanks you . And its great you and your partner are now interacting more I just meant in the relationship/connection way. If i was more vulnerable and open maybe i would end up actually talking to the person Rather than all the games and the hot n cold lol. And the guy would end up doingthe same lol Edited May 28, 2020 by miranda561
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 28, 2020 Posted May 28, 2020 1 hour ago, poppyfields said: Yeah I love using emojis too and use often. Also love when men do, I especially love the green-faced monster or angry emoji lol, not sure why, gonna have dig deep to figure that one out! XD All in good fun. But sometimes the way people use them is really inappropriate! Like when someone texts or posts something serious or dear to their heart, and the recipient replies back with or or emojis. Emojis are powerful! Use them appropriately is all I ask because if not, it can come off as rude and dismissive imo. No doubt. Some people can also be dickish about it. That's there communication to you. Inappropriate, dismissive, etc. Go with the punches and let those people know WTF with real words. 1
Recommended Posts