Is my boyfriend ghosting me?

[miranda561]

1 hour ago, poppyfields said:

miranda, you shock easily don't you, LoL. 

A few more years, a few more experiences, you won't so much. 

I hear ya re mental illness but it's not what's happening here. Again he would not be on SM having fun with his friends playing NASCAR.  

Given everything posted, that narrative just isn't jiving.  

 

the audacity of people's behaviours will never fail to baffle me. As i myself try to live a very authentic life and conduct myself as such. 

Its no wonder im single since people  can hardly ever live upto the  standards i maintain.

Edited May 26, 2020 by miranda561

[CaliforniaGirl]

Oh wow... Maybe depressed, maybe not, but either way that was VERY it's not you, it's me. OP,  you may feel for him on the chance it's depression (it may not be, you can't reallly know) but either way he's clearly telling you he doesn't want your help with it. I know it hurts. I am really, really, really sorry. 

Edited May 26, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl

[Miss Spider]

it’s hard when people break up with way because I think the instinct of the other party is to try to “fix it” and be there for them. It’s just confusion 

[healing light]

No need to demonize this guy. At least he told her where he's at--his feeling numb may just be not feeling anything towards the OP anymore, not necessarily faking depression. And if he tried to soften it by making it sound about him in order to spare her feelings, then that's what he did. His message seemed a little open ended to me as if he hoped she would finalize it or pull the plug, like he wants to break up but doesn't want to be the bad guy to do it. So I feel like if she decides to continue contact with him, it will drag things out longer and create some messy back and forth.

[Miss Spider]

I’ve used the same exact wording pretty much verbatim when I broke up with my bf after a month I spent in the mountains of Alaska. I realized how much I enjoyed the alone while he was texting me he missed me. So yes it was difficult to do and I prolonged it when I shouldn’t. “I don’t know what’s wrong with me...” because I really didn’t. He was great, but I wanted to be alone.  And yes it did make me depressed. It’s not easy when a relationship ends if you have any heart at all So I guess I do have a bit of a slant and it’s setting my skepticism ablaze especially with the tweeting and all that. So could it not be the rship at all and he could really be struggling ...But I wouldn’t interpret it as the door left open, personally. 

Edited May 26, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[lana-banana]

I read your description of his behavior, and his text message, as him finding someone else. 

[poppyfields]

1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said:

I’ve used the same exact wording pretty much verbatim when I broke up with my bf after a month I spent in the mountains of Alaska. I realized how much I enjoyed the alone while he was texting me he missed me. So yes it was difficult to do and I prolonged it when I shouldn’t. “I don’t know what’s wrong with me...” because I really didn’t. He was great, but I wanted to be alone.  And yes it did make me depressed. It’s not easy when a relationship ends if you have any heart at all

cookies that is a great point.  Perhaps the relationship depressed him, he wanted out but didn't know how to tell OP. 

Which can cause a lot of anxiety and yes a depression of sorts - situational depression.

Thnx for pointing that out cookies. 

[poppyfields]

blackbird (the OP), you haven't returned, you okay?   Not sure this will help but ((hugs)). 

Edited May 26, 2020 by poppyfields

[poppyfields]

1 minute ago, poppyfields said:

Oops, double post.  

 

Edited May 26, 2020 by poppyfields