Richard 55 Posted May 24, 2020 Posted May 24, 2020 Hello people can You' give me your opinion please. I have meet a beautiful girl. She works in a small store where I buy food and other things. We are both 25 years old. I send her friend requests on Facebook and Instagram and she accepted. But she confuses me. Sometimes she is very nice with me, she approached me first and start conversation, start asking me do I train any sport, am I going to the college, where do I work, what s my name. Sometimes when I cant find for example shaving cream or something else she approach to me and ask what am I looking for and then she help me to find it. Unfortunately she is more often cold and distant. Sometimes she passed infront of me witout any word, without even look at me. What is wrong with her ? Why is she acting so differently with me ? Why does she treat me a few days in one way (nice way) and the other days in another way (cold way) ? She always treats the other guys in the store the same way, not hot-cold as with me, I'm a little jealous beacuse of that. I have noticed that she often plays with her hair when she is alone in the store with me. I' ve heard that girls play with their hair when they like some guy.
smackie9 Posted May 24, 2020 Posted May 24, 2020 She likes the attention from you/guys but has no other interest in you. 1
JTSW Posted May 24, 2020 Posted May 24, 2020 If you are not the only guy she is giving special attention to then she's not romantically intetrested. Sounds like she has a very flirty nature. Also clwarly likes male attention. 1
scooby-philly Posted May 25, 2020 Posted May 25, 2020 Yup - you're still in the "getting to know each other" phase of pre-dating. Perhaps you can try initiating some conversations with her instead of waiting for her to always start. And if you already do that, then try getting to know her a little bit more and a little bit deeper each time. But if you're both young (under 24) - then remember she may just be seeking attention and affirmation from guys at this point, regardless of whether or not you're really her "type". And as they saying in the USA goes - don't put all of your eggs in one basket - meaning don't let this be the only avenue you pursue to the exclusion of other possible interactions.
Author Richard 55 Posted May 26, 2020 Author Posted May 26, 2020 Hey people. Why are You not writing anything ? I need more advices and opinions.
lurker74 Posted May 26, 2020 Posted May 26, 2020 45 minutes ago, Richard 55 said: Hey people. Why are You not writing anything ? I need more advices and opinions. It was a holiday weekend in the States so perhaps people were not on their computers. Give it a bit. As for the object of your eye, @smackie9 may be right...she may just like the attention. If that's true, who cares? She also may be playing hot and cold in order to get your attention. So take your shot. Women are attracted to confidence so next time you are in the store, tell her that normally you'd ask her out for drinks but with everything going on, how would she feel about taking a walk and getting to know each other better. If she blows you off, so be it. Nothing ventured nothing gained. But the pay attention / ignore game is a very common thing among young men and women.
JTSW Posted May 26, 2020 Posted May 26, 2020 2 hours ago, Richard 55 said: Hey people. Why are You not writing anything ? I need more advices and opinions. We told you, shes not interested if this is what she does with other guys as well as you.
The Outlaw Posted May 26, 2020 Posted May 26, 2020 She may not even know what she wants but if she's like that towards you, she really isn't that interested. If she were, she'd be making more of an effort to get to know you better.
Miss Spider Posted May 26, 2020 Posted May 26, 2020 2 hours ago, Richard 55 said: Hey people. Why are You not writing anything ? I need more advices and opinions. First of all, she’s a retail worker so she kind of has to come up and help you, since you are a customer. Otherwise, I think you’re just reading too far into it. I doubt she is being cold unless she senses you like her and does not like you the same, so doesn’t want to give the wrong impression. The only way to know is to shoot your shot. Slide in her dms ... if she likes you she will be happy 1
Interstellar Posted May 26, 2020 Posted May 26, 2020 (edited) What’s your name? What’s your phone number? If she asked you why you want her number, tell her: it’s because I want to sell you life insurance, smile then wink at her. Just go for the jugular man. Seize the bull by the horn. Edited May 26, 2020 by Interstellar
Juha Posted May 26, 2020 Posted May 26, 2020 7 hours ago, JTSW said: We told you, shes not interested if this is what she does with other guys as well as you. She does not do this with other guys, only with him. She treats the other guys all the same, not hot and cold like him I would say she is flirting with you, you need to ask for her number to take her out
Lotsgoingon Posted May 27, 2020 Posted May 27, 2020 She's not interested. She's a friendly employee and friendly employees don't have the energy to always be talkative. She sometimes passes in front of you without a word because she might have another task to focus on ... and because she doesn't always feel like talking to you ... talking to you is not required for her job. I mean, I can see where some of the questions she asked got you thinking she was interested. But if she was, she wouldn't walk past you without saying a word. BTW: there are lots of fickle, hot-cold people in the world. She just might be warm one day and remote the next. Nothing to do with you. 1
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