georgiagirl76 Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 Hey everyone- thanks again for allowing me to have a place to vent when things seem too overwhelming. Yesterday seemed to be a tough day for many of us here. I just wanted to say that today was decidedly different. Just goes to show you that there will be sunshine after the rain. Today has been great. I have spent it all by myself (yes, you hear that theme song playing in the background lol). I have been doing a ton of laundry and other cleaning. It feels good to throw things away. I know that yesterday was a natural bump in the road. I feel strong- focused and not disillusioned about the future. All of you out there please remember that being strong doesn't mean not feeling or processing your emotions- it means facing them and allowing yourself to feel the hurt. Once you accept your pain and allow it to happen it gets less scary and easier. Life is good- overall- no man or woman can make or break you- we all have a purpose and we can all make a difference. If this relationship didn't work out it doesn't mean that you or the other person is bad- it might just mean that it was the wrong time or wrong person for you. Take a moment to reflect on how much worse your life could be and be thankful for the good things you have. Hoping all is well-I'm here if you need to vent.
In Sync Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 georgiagirl76, oh I'm needing your spirit because it's a down day for me, yesterday was the jump start and now I'm overwhelmed. I know I don't need a man to make me happy, intellectually I know it, I'm just feeling mixed emotions about all the love and affections I placed on the ex and now this person is non existent in my life. how does one ever really recover. all week I was full of light now I'm just don't see a way to even lift myself up anymore, I feel defeated today.
legrtova Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 Thank you , I needed to hear that today. Today is a downer for me...I'm hungover (stupid stupid stupid me for drinking) and down, hanging out here on LS to find strenght to go on. I've been good and bad, I've been great and really bad, so I know I will be OK again tomorrow and many other days...but yeah, today is a downer for sure:( Your words help, thank you. L.
Author georgiagirl76 Posted October 9, 2005 Author Posted October 9, 2005 In Sync Don't Panic- this may sound really silly but just breathe and say to yourself- ok pain I know you are here so lets find a way to co-exist. Take out a piece of paper and I want you to make a list (even if it just has 2 things on it) and truly come up with some positive things about being single. Next I want you to make a list of the positive things about starting a relationship- with your ex you can't ever have the first kiss again. Next make a list of things that your ex did or things he liked that you don't really like and think about how you don't have to (cheer for a team you don't like, or listen to a type of music that he liked, or watch a tv show or whatever). Cry Laugh and turn on some really cheesy girl friendly music and dance all around- I know you are sad, you don't want to- DO IT!!! After you have done all of that- look at yourself in the mirror- smile- at least once. Then repost- I promise you if you work through your pain instead of walking on eggshells around it- you will actually start to feel better. Let me know how you are doing. Im here for you!!!
In Sync Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 Hey georgiagirl76 I'm writing and dancing to Amerie's 1 THING..with the stereo blasting! The remedy does work. thank you very much dr.georgiagirl! I made my three lists and at first you were right I was not enthusiastic but I got out of my own way and let my hand take over. Of course the third list was full of crap that I am so damn happy that I'll never have to endure again with the ex. I know I don't really want him...I suppose I was having a pity party for myself and when I looked in the mirror I was taken aback by how clear my skin looked and my eyes were bright, hey I look good. It's not allover for me as I was leading myself to believe. A BIG HUG to you!
Author georgiagirl76 Posted October 9, 2005 Author Posted October 9, 2005 In Sync I am proud of you! It is a small victory but a victory none the less. Remember this feeling the next time the sadness comes on. I am starting my 4th load of laundry and I am continuing to throw stuff away. I have deep cleaned one bathroom and cleaned out the fridge. I have also unloaded the dishwasher and reloaded it. It is about time to start ironing. I let a lot of things slide during the last month. I was involved with my show but also processing the break up. It is time to take control!! Watch Bridget Jones Diary- it will help.
In Sync Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 georgiagirl76, Unfortunately I have to nix the Bridget Jones movies...the ex was British, and in the good ole days I use to joke that he was my version of Bridget Jones Diary. Long story short it would remind me of him...although Love Actually is a goodie I can safely handle without going to pieces, I think.
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