rkennedynl Posted May 20, 2020 Posted May 20, 2020 Does anyone have any advice on how to set up a dating app profile, that would increase the matches? Any strategies to initiate the conversation? The Hi how are you, or how's your week going is only giving me about a 10% success rate. Mahalo
introverted1 Posted May 20, 2020 Posted May 20, 2020 Thos 3 hours ago, rkennedynl said: The Hi how are you, or how's your week going is only giving me about a 10% success rate. Try something less generic. Find something in her profile that you genuinely connect with and then comment on that. It's really hard to respond to "Hi how are you" with anything more than "fine, thanks, and you" which is deathly boring. 1
Miss Spider Posted May 20, 2020 Posted May 20, 2020 (edited) Get good pictures. Clear, good lighting, good backdrop, expressions, fits your style /represents you well. & like introverted1 said, be more original with your opener Edited May 20, 2020 by Cookiesandough 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 20, 2020 Posted May 20, 2020 39 minutes ago, introverted1 said: Thos Try something less generic. Find something in her profile that you genuinely connect with and then comment on that. It's really hard to respond to "Hi how are you" with anything more than "fine, thanks, and you" which is deathly boring. But a response is what you want in the first place. I have found, consistently, that people will respond to the most generic initial messages if they are interested in you. I do admit, for some, a genuinely creative and thought-out response is preferred. I recently responded to one person''s query regarding where she should vacation for a week and I joked that she should visit a local canyon area. It turns out that she is! We are meeting in a couple of days in those canyons.
introverted1 Posted May 20, 2020 Posted May 20, 2020 1 minute ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: But a response is what you want in the first place. I have found, consistently, that people will respond to the most generic initial messages if they are interested in you. I do admit, for some, a genuinely creative and thought-out response is preferred. I recently responded to one person''s query regarding where she should vacation for a week and I joked that she should visit a local canyon area. It turns out that she is! We are meeting in a couple of days in those canyons. Interesting. Personally, I don't respond to "Hi how are you" type messages, even if I was initially interested. That type of message tells me the guy is just fishing; it's a no-effort message he can send to 100 women a day. Meh, where's the fun in that? I'm not saying that each message has to be an hours-long effort in creativity, but "Hi, I see we both like X band; I saw them at Y last year. Have you ever seen them perform live?" at least tells me he actually looked at my profile. Good luck on your date! 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted May 20, 2020 Posted May 20, 2020 19 minutes ago, introverted1 said: Interesting. Personally, I don't respond to "Hi how are you" type messages, even if I was initially interested. That type of message tells me the guy is just fishing; it's a no-effort message he can send to 100 women a day. Meh, where's the fun in that? I'm not saying that each message has to be an hours-long effort in creativity, but "Hi, I see we both like X band; I saw them at Y last year. Have you ever seen them perform live?" at least tells me he actually looked at my profile. Good luck on your date! I always read in people's profiles "I will not respond to hi, hello, or hey, sexy." Something like that...I have done exactly that and gotten responses. Ha ha. They probably forgot that they added that to somehow encourage a more meaningful response. I find many are going to if they find your profile attractive enough regardless to the content. I will say that I ONLY respond so lightly if their own profile seems lazy and sparse. Thank you! Going camping, hiking, biking! It will be fun! 1
miranda561 Posted May 20, 2020 Posted May 20, 2020 9 hours ago, introverted1 said: Thos Try something less generic. Find something in her profile that you genuinely connect with and then comment on that. It's really hard to respond to "Hi how are you" with anything more than "fine, thanks, and you" which is deathly boring. I've said how are you before and gotten responses 1
miranda561 Posted May 20, 2020 Posted May 20, 2020 13 hours ago, rkennedynl said: Does anyone have any advice on how to set up a dating app profile, that would increase the matches? Any strategies to initiate the conversation? The Hi how are you, or how's your week going is only giving me about a 10% success rate. Mahalo Photo is very important, its what people look at first. And try to sound interesting in your main profile. Don't write too little or too much. Comment on something related to what your person is interested in..in a positive way. I've never had any trouble with hi how are you's..as boring as it is 2
Miss Spider Posted May 20, 2020 Posted May 20, 2020 (edited) Haha you’re a woman tho right? You could literally say ‘derp dee derp” and get a response... I agree on making profile interesting. Not a lot worse than an attractive guy with “always up for a good time ig/snap : yolobro2020” in his profile Edited May 20, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
IntBrowser Posted May 21, 2020 Posted May 21, 2020 16 hours ago, rkennedynl said: Does anyone have any advice on how to set up a dating app profile, that would increase the matches? Any strategies to initiate the conversation? The Hi how are you, or how's your week going is only giving me about a 10% success rate. Mahalo All about the picture. Pleasant looking pics seem to work best
IntBrowser Posted May 21, 2020 Posted May 21, 2020 3 hours ago, miranda561 said: I've said how are you before and gotten responses I mean what else are going to start with besides that? It;s the response to that that allows you to take it further. Like if someone asked me that I would say "well I just completed my 4th week working from home" if that can't start a convo from that then they shouldnt be online
twatwa123 Posted May 21, 2020 Posted May 21, 2020 The problem with online dating sites is there are always many more men than women. Women get so many messages, most generic or sexual, that they get read and deleted, if they’re read at all. if you’re an average looking guy like me, you just have to be patient in the hope someone messages you and you can keep the conversation going. Always make sure you have a nice profile picture and every section of your profile is filled out properly. i have gotten four dates out of online dating apps and websites, one from match which lead to a six month relationship, one from bumble and pof, these were just one date each, then one date from badoo which lead to an eight month long distance relationship which has unfortunately just come to an end. just be patient, your time will come 1
dispatch3d Posted May 22, 2020 Posted May 22, 2020 10% wow, pretty freaking good man. Are you on a new account? I'm well under 1%. I just swipe daily, I'll hit a match once a month usually, maybe get a date every 3 months. Not in a very populated area, so that probably doesn't help (swiping fewer women than if I was in a populated area). I also don't remake my account, which I'm sure would help.
balletomane Posted May 22, 2020 Posted May 22, 2020 I met my boyfriend on Bumble. Things that made his profile stand out: 1.) Only one of his photos was posed. The rest were candid shots of him going about his life - hiking, making pottery, etc. 2.) He could tell a good story in a few words. His answers to all the profile prompts were interesting, often humorous, and natural, rather than sounding as if he'd spent hours trying to come up with them. I messaged him to ask about a travel anecdote he'd shared and to tell him a similar story of mine. The conversation just flowed from there. He'd been using Bumble for a year and hadn't had many matches. I think men have to be more patient than women on OLD as the user ratio is so unequal. I doubt there is a way to magically boost matches, but based on my experience and those of my friends, a profile that gives a sense of you as a person is better than a lot of posed shirtless photos and meaningless lines like, "I like to relax." (Who doesn't?)
Author rkennedynl Posted May 22, 2020 Author Posted May 22, 2020 9 hours ago, dispatch3d said: 10% wow, pretty freaking good man. Are you on a new account? I'm well under 1%. I just swipe daily, I'll hit a match once a month usually, maybe get a date every 3 months. Not in a very populated area, so that probably doesn't help (swiping fewer women than if I was in a populated area). I also don't remake my account, which I'm sure would help. Thanks! Tinder will black List you and not tell you if you only swipe right. Having clear photos of the following will help: 1. You doing something you love. 2. You having fun 3. A pic with you and some friends. This shows you’re a likable guy. 4. Turning away from the camera creates mystery. 5. The rest is your choice. Remember to smile and if you have no interesting photos grab a friend and go have some fun. I currently get about 2 to 4 matches per day on average. I’m no Brad Pitt, so I convey my personality through photos and the profile About Me section. Tinder also has the passport option which is great if you like to travel.
rjc149 Posted May 22, 2020 Posted May 22, 2020 (edited) As a guy: 1. Have good photos. Obviously. If you’re genetically blessed, you should be good to go. If you’re more average looking, then get in shape (you should be anyways if you’re seriously trying to max your attractiveness) and have a shirtless beach or candid photo. Not a selfie. Yeah some girls are going to not dig the shirtless pic, but a lot more will if you can flaunt it without flaunting it, if that makes sense. Play the numbers. OLD is extremely shallow. 2. Keep the profile succinct and humorous, and a little cocky. Not arrogant, not serious, and not your life story. 3. Do not have pics with you solo with other women. Not your sister, mom, ex, Miller Lite girls, no one with 2 X chromosomes. Group photos with women are fine, as long as there men or it is clearly a social group shot. 4. If you have the time to read each profile and send an interesting, thought-out custom opening message to each one, I question whether you are doing anything worthwhile with your life. OLD is a numbers game. You’re going to be sending a lot of messages. “Hey how are you” will have to do. Response rates will be lower, but overall return on time investment will be much higher. This is high-volume prospecting, not targeted prospecting unless it’s one of the paid sites. Again, make sure your pics are on-point. 5. Have a pic of you with an animal. 6. I strongly recommend having a pic of you wearing a good suit too. 7. Limit to 1 selfie. And definitely not a shirtless selfie. More than one selfie means you take a lot of selfies. Women who are insecure about their looks take a lot of selfies, not confident, secure, charming men. Edited May 22, 2020 by rjc149 1
introverted1 Posted May 22, 2020 Posted May 22, 2020 2 hours ago, rjc149 said: 3. Do not have pics with you solo with other women. Not your sister, mom, ex, Miller Lite girls, no one with 2 X chromosomes. Group photos with women are fine, as long as there men or it is clearly a social group shot. Also, do not attempt to crop out that woman, when we can clearly see her shoulder or arm!
ccas93 Posted May 22, 2020 Posted May 22, 2020 26 male here, I get about 5-10 decent matches a day on tinder. My strategy is the following. I don't use the phone app, I use the desktop website. It makes it a lot harder to just swipe right, right, right on everyone (it also makes it harder to waste time on the app during the day). It seems you will get shown a lot more to users if you're selective. having a passion/talent/good job seems to be a huge advantage. No selfies unless it's a funny one with a friend. Have a couple pictures of yourself doing what you love. Have a couple in your "happy place" like beach, hanging with friends, lake, garden, where ever it is you like to chill. I have one sleezy shirtless pic as the last picture on my profile and it has not hurt me at all. I have a picture with an ex-GF with her face crossed out with "could be you" written and that hasn't hurt me either, as far as getting matches. don't take it too seriously. I have a friend who can bring home a girl pretty much any given night he goes out, but doesn't get many matches on dating apps. Probably because of a lack of an impressive job/relevant talent (although he is a really smart and cool dude).
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