smackie9 Posted May 17, 2020 Posted May 17, 2020 (edited) Dude don't sweat it....being less available makes you more desirable. When you said "friends house" she may very well took that you were with a GF. She may have heard it before and it made her take a step back. The mind plays tricks...when one is totally attracted/ swooning over a guy they think the whole female population is too. Comments like that gets them feeling jealous/upset....but to no fault of your own. I don't see this as a red flag or anything to be cautious about. She likes you and I'm guessing she feels like she 16 again. It's kinda cute. When things heat up like this, it makes anyone a little insecure/unsure. I get it you want to make sure the jobs keep coming, and not look like some kinda perv to a client. My advice is to do things in small steps, like ask her out for coffee. If you want to make that big step, ask her if she has some spare time, that you are offering a free photo session in a park setting, or wherever that has a coffee place near by. This is the time of year for it, with flowers in bloom and love is in the air! Edited May 17, 2020 by smackie9 1 1
Miss Spider Posted May 17, 2020 Posted May 17, 2020 (edited) She could probably tell you were playing games... timing your texts and such. Ima be blunt and say it sounded like you did a whole lot o’ game-playing. Even if it’s not true and it’s just being nervous, you need to work on it bc I’d doubt an attractive, late 30s with a lot of options is gonna stick while you get it together. Also perpetually flirting with no definitive move gets old Edited May 17, 2020 by Cookiesandough 2
Author UniverseInMe Posted May 18, 2020 Author Posted May 18, 2020 1 hour ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Any update? Anybody make a move yet? She messaged me some time in the morning after I turned on my phone's reception. I woke up late cause I slept really late last night so of course I responded late again. Her message was very basic and work-related. She asked if I was able to re-send her pics in which I responded sure, where to? But by then she was like "nevermind, your nerd friend figured it out." So, I dunno, lol. This is all really weird now and getting sorta awkward, tbh. I'm seriously on the cusp of just letting this go, which I'm totally okay with.
CaliforniaGirl Posted May 18, 2020 Posted May 18, 2020 3 minutes ago, UniverseInMe said: She messaged me some time in the morning after I turned on my phone's reception. I woke up late cause I slept really late last night so of course I responded late again. Her message was very basic and work-related. She asked if I was able to re-send her pics in which I responded sure, where to? But by then she was like "nevermind, your nerd friend figured it out." So, I dunno, lol. This is all really weird now and getting sorta awkward, tbh. I'm seriously on the cusp of just letting this go, which I'm totally okay with. Yes, I think the moment passed. I don't think she's interested at all at this point but at least she's back to business so really it shouldn't be awkward...nothing happened. I think though that you should think all this through for next time and the next woman. JMO. Good luck! 2
smackie9 Posted May 18, 2020 Posted May 18, 2020 It's a possible Mexican stand off. You have doubts, she has doubts....no one does anything about it. 2
Author UniverseInMe Posted May 18, 2020 Author Posted May 18, 2020 14 minutes ago, smackie9 said: It's a possible Mexican stand off. You have doubts, she has doubts....no one does anything about it. lmao!
Lotsgoingon Posted May 18, 2020 Posted May 18, 2020 She's frustrated with you. My guess: you were quite fun to be around, and she picked up your interest even if you didn't flirt with her. She sensed it ... but then she got confused and frustrated because you didn't engage her. She would not have spent 7 hours with you, cooked for you and the rest ... if she were not sensing you were having a blast. This doesn't sound like a desperate woman. So, most likely all your actions pointed towards interest ... but you gave her nothing in the real of flirtation ... no intense smile, no compliments, no touching her hand, no statement of how great a time you were having ... My guess is that this all frustrated her. You clamped down your flirtation energy. She got mixed signals ... and yes, she's being a bit passive-aggressive with you now, it sounds. Dude, you must have been a lot of fun for her. So she's stumped about why you refuse to step towards her in the smallest way. You really want to learn that you can let your interest in someone show ... without being a pig or a creep ... and without bulldozing someone. You sound like a good guy ... but also you an afraid guy ... Those are two different things. 1
Miss Spider Posted May 18, 2020 Posted May 18, 2020 (edited) Obviously I’m not her, but as someone who has encountered men who admitted afterwards they were “taking it slow” and doing a little like you, I have to admit I’ve been weirded out a little by their behavior. It’s awkward and inorganic to me. Like when two people are behind closed doors after knowing one another, at one another’s home, flirting hard, then no direct move or kiss is had...,I start to think the guy is just not quite right. I know it’s wrong, because a lot of times he’s being respectful /is nervous too... but it’s a intuitive feeling... Edited May 18, 2020 by Cookiesandough 3
smackie9 Posted May 19, 2020 Posted May 19, 2020 Well only time will tell. Even if nothing happens I hope you get lots of work out of it anyways. 1 1
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