Partner expressed that she doesn't feel the same anymore but I'm not sure what is happening?

[Wave Rider]

In reading through all these posts about breaking up, I'm a little bit surprised how very bad so many people are about asking simple, direct questions about what's going on in the relationship and how very bad people are about expressing their own feelings and desires in simple, direct ways.  People seem to want to write a long post about their partner's incomprehensible behavior with the hope that a group of strangers on the internet will be able to answer, while asking their parter directly will probably get a better response.  If your girlfriend was feeling insecure about your love, what she could have done was to say to you "I love you" and then give you the puppy dog eyes and an awkward silence, which is your cue to say "I love you" back.  Breaking up with you over this probably just shows a lack of experience and skill on her part, a manifestation of her expectations combined with her own inability to express herself.  I think you did the right thing by telling her now, and this situation is probably just a product of some misunderstandings about relationship expectations.    

[healing light]

I haven't caught up on this thread yet past the first few posts, but I just wanted to say that waiting 2 years to tell a woman you love her is a LONG time. If it were me, I would assume you likely never fell in love with me and so I'm guessing it has been weighing on her mind and eroding the relationship for probably about a year and a half at this point (I do take the man's lead on ILY, but even I don't think I'd have been able to wait 2 years to say it). Words of affirmation are a lot of people's love language. So she has probably been filtering everything through this lens up to now, not wanting to rock the boat, and is now at the point where you need to really say and show you love her for reassurance.

I think corona has a lot of people evaluating their relationships in case someone goes tomorrow and obviously this woman doesn't want to feel stuck in a lackluster situation where the man she should be planning her future with isn't all that into her.

Edited May 19, 2020 by healing light