purplesoccer34 Posted May 12, 2020 Posted May 12, 2020 I dated a guy some time ago who was quite different from any other guy I had been with. When we were together in person, I felt so safe in his presence. His personality just made me feel so at ease. Normally when I would go on dates with other guys, I would constantly be nervous and on edge. But with this guy it was very different. I just felt at peace, probably because his personality made me feel that way. He was a very calm person. But he was also very very quiet. He had a quiet and calm personality, but confident at the same time. I'm usually a quiet person myself, but when in the presence of an outgoing, talkative person, I become rather talkative. In the past, I had only ever dated talkative, outgoing men---and they brought out that talkative side of me. That's why the experience with this guy was so new and different to me. On the one hand, I felt incredibly calm in his presence, but I often had some difficulty conversing with him. Not because he was difficult to talk to, but I think it's because we are both naturally quiet people. There were times though when we did both open up, and had very in depth conversations. I felt like I was on cloud nine during those moments--he had some incredibly insightful things to share, and I wanted to learn more and more about the way his mind worked. That only happened a handful of times though. We only dated for a few months, so I don't know if we ever really developed a true comfort with each other. When deciding whether to date someone, I think of two things: a physical attraction and a mental connection. The physical attraction was most definitely there, and I was very very drawn to him. But I wasn't so sure about the mental connection, but I wonder if given a bit more time, we could have had something amazing? Eventually, it was me who called it off but I wonder if I broke things off too soon. I still think about this guy quite a lot.
miranda561 Posted May 12, 2020 Posted May 12, 2020 29 minutes ago, purplesoccer34 said: I dated a guy some time ago who was quite different from any other guy I had been with. When we were together in person, I felt so safe in his presence. His personality just made me feel so at ease. Normally when I would go on dates with other guys, I would constantly be nervous and on edge. But with this guy it was very different. I just felt at peace, probably because his personality made me feel that way. He was a very calm person. But he was also very very quiet. He had a quiet and calm personality, but confident at the same time. I'm usually a quiet person myself, but when in the presence of an outgoing, talkative person, I become rather talkative. In the past, I had only ever dated talkative, outgoing men---and they brought out that talkative side of me. That's why the experience with this guy was so new and different to me. On the one hand, I felt incredibly calm in his presence, but I often had some difficulty conversing with him. Not because he was difficult to talk to, but I think it's because we are both naturally quiet people. There were times though when we did both open up, and had very in depth conversations. I felt like I was on cloud nine during those moments--he had some incredibly insightful things to share, and I wanted to learn more and more about the way his mind worked. That only happened a handful of times though. We only dated for a few months, so I don't know if we ever really developed a true comfort with each other. When deciding whether to date someone, I think of two things: a physical attraction and a mental connection. The physical attraction was most definitely there, and I was very very drawn to him. But I wasn't so sure about the mental connection, but I wonder if given a bit more time, we could have had something amazing? Eventually, it was me who called it off but I wonder if I broke things off too soon. I still think about this guy quite a lot. Why not give him a call.
smackie9 Posted May 12, 2020 Posted May 12, 2020 (edited) After two months of dating you should have it figured out by now. Me I'm a flash and dash...if I'm not feeling it by the end of the first date, I'm out. I did try the date for a month thing, and all I did was break their heart because they became very invested in me. That's pretty upsetting. Edited May 12, 2020 by smackie9 2
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