sexiibabee Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 grrrr. well ya know about the myspace thing right?? well then i had it and deleted it like 4 times because every time it was a problem sumhow with my boyfriend. and now i created a new one and have him as my only friend so i can write to him. i didnt tell him my purpose for makin it at first because i didnt know how he'd react. i didnt want him to react like he just did but i think he would've anyways. well i never had a cell phone and i'm going to get one in a few days. i wanted to use myspace to message my number to my friends and the ONLY guys that came to my mind were my 2 best guy friends that he very well knows about and that i haven't talked to in forever. the rest were a bunch of girls and family. my boyfriend got the impression that i wanted to get a phone to talk to people in general like talk to other guys. ahhh!!! we just got over this stage like last week and it was all good and now he's back to accusing and stuff. i really feel helpless there's nothin i can do because i don't even have the phone yet and he's already trying to foretell the future when there's no way in hell i want to talk to other guys like he assumes. he's being a jerk when i have done nothing. and i know it was wrong how i ended up telling him and he's not even being jealous he's just accusing of going to talk to other guys!! i've been working so hard on making this relationship not be like this. but it's like i'm fighting a ghost that doesn't even exist but he believes it to be flesh and bones. is there anyone who can give a boost in a direction?? everytime i try to talk he talks over me and says things that have not happened. the only advice i have for myself is take the **** til i prove him wrong. but theeeeen, he'll just accuse of deleting and memorizing numbers!!! seriously it's that crazy!! and i love this man to death but when he gets like this i want to go to del taco and pig out!!! ggrrr:mad:
europimp Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 It seems to me that the problem that's occuring (sp?) here isn't necessarily something you've done or a relationship problem unless he insists on making it one. As long as you have told him the purpose of your myspace account I think it should be perfectly fine to use it to tell your friends your cell phone number. The only thing that concerns me here is that he seems to be the type of person who gets jaelous very easily, which isn't a good thing to be around. I know that I personally have no problem with my girlfriend having guy friends; openness and honesty are the best policy. If it were to start getting weird like her not wanting me to hang out with her and her male friends that'd be the beginning of a cause of concern; but in the end either she comes home to me or I lock the door. What you need to do is reassure him that he has nothing to be jaelous of (if that's the case, and if not then you need to figure out what you want), and he needs to accept that people won't cater to his every desire and fear, that people are at the core social beings that enjoy company. I've spent lots of time with my past girlfriends lounging around pools with me, my male and female friends, her, and her male and female friends. The only thing that needs to change here is his attitude (although you might not want to tell him "you have to change your attitude," as that probably wouldn't end up too well). He needs to accept that he's not the only one that sees a person they like to hang out with in you, and that you want to hang out with more than just him. That's all there is to it. (p.s. it's incredibly tough to read posts when they're just solid blocks of text, it took me a few tries :-); try splitting it up a bit)
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