Miss Spider Posted May 21, 2020 Posted May 21, 2020 (edited) 12 hours ago, Poptart66 said: Should i meet him? I asked him this afternoon why he says about us meeting.... as in... is it because he wants to, because he thinks we should or because he thinks i want to and his answer was that he wants to meet because he wants to meet me and because he thinks i want to meet him too. He is talking about coming to visit for a while after all of this is over. We live about 3 hours drive apart so its a long way for him to come just to see me. Should we meet? Or is that just a disaster waiting to happen? Wait do you live 5 hours apart or 3 hours apart. Either way, I think that’s too far, but people have managed farther. I don’t really understand what the issue is? He likes you and wants to come visit.., you like him....Why would it be a disaster? It seems he has intrigued you and you probably won’t be satisfied until you follow this rabbit hole to wherever it leads. Edited May 21, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Author Poptart66 Posted May 21, 2020 Author Posted May 21, 2020 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: Wait do you live 5 hours apart or 3 hours apart. Either way, I think that’s too far, but people have managed farther. I don’t really understand what the issue is? He likes you and wants to come visit.., you like him....Why would it be a disaster? It seems he has intrigued you and you probably won’t be satisfied until you follow this rabbit hole to wherever it leads. Im not 100% sure how far as i am not currently driving and have never been where he lives. I googled before and thought i remembered it being 3 hours, i may have remembered wrong. I worry that it will be a disaster as i dont think either of us is in the right headspace and im unsure that its even actually what he wants but more just what he thinks he wants or what he thinks i want.... 1
d0nnivain Posted May 21, 2020 Posted May 21, 2020 The 1st time I talked to anybody I solely knew on line it was odd. The person was important to me as I valued her input on my writing. We connected in an on line writing group 20 years ago. I knew we'd never meet & became OK with that. Occasionally I will get a man on line who offers a friendship. I feel odd about that. I don't want to lead anybody on so I remind the guy I'm happily married & I politely decline exchanging too much personal info like real name, exact location, or becoming social media friends. I'm happy enough to PM, but anything beyond that, anything that makes it "real" is a bridge too far for me. Since you already know this person through social media & you know where the other lives, you are well past my self imposed limits. It sounds like you are flirting with meeting & you are unclear about your own expectations. Until you can be honest with yourself about what's happening or what you want I don't see this ending well. It sounds to me like you are falling for him. In that case, once it's safe to do so, you best meet. It will either blossom into something or you can end this once & for all.
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