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Did I sound dismissive? He asked if I could go on birth control, I told him not till next month

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LynneVicious Established Member

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In my late 30’s, when my ex husband and I were on the outs, we had sex once that month. He pulled out. I got pregnant. 
 

Please  do not rely on the pull out method. It doesn’t work. And also the risk of STI’s: herpes, the clap, HIV. None of that is fun. 
 

If you’re ready to be on birth control, great! But don’t worry about your reaction to him and how he may feel about it. It sounds like he wants sex - and a lot of it. Being on BC is better for him. For us, it can cause a host of side effects. As well as no orot crook against STIs. So please make sure you’re doing this for the right reasons. 

Redhead14 Established Member

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5 hours ago, LynneVicious said:

In my late 30’s, when my ex husband and I were on the outs, we had sex once that month. He pulled out. I got pregnant. 
 

Please  do not rely on the pull out method. It doesn’t work. And also the risk of STI’s: herpes, the clap, HIV. None of that is fun. 
 

If you’re ready to be on birth control, great! But don’t worry about your reaction to him and how he may feel about it. It sounds like he wants sex - and a lot of it. Being on BC is better for him. For us, it can cause a host of side effects. As well as no orot crook against STIs. So please make sure you’re doing this for the right reasons. 

Going on birth control just because some guy you'd been seeing for only 2 months prior and then hadn't seen in a month has the absolute unmitigated gaul to ask you to start using birth control so he can start having sex with you again, is never the right reason . . .

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kendahke Established Member

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On 5/3/2020 at 3:08 PM, Bluesky00 said:

I thought I sounded dismissive because he really wanted to have sex,

He's a grown man. He will adjust.

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Going bare just feels better. 

Until the first herpes sore turns up. Has he even bothered to get tested for STD's yet? Why is he in a rush to have unprotected sex and he's not got this handled?

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BaileyB Established Member

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Any man worth his salt will do whatever you ask, related to birth control and consent for sex. 

If he pressures you, tells you he doesn’t want to use a condom because it doesn’t feel good, or anything else... he is quite simply not your man. 

He can wait until the doctors appointment. I wouldn’t feel badly about that, at all. 

BaileyB Established Member

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20 minutes ago, Redhead14 said:

Going on birth control just because some guy you'd been seeing for only 2 months prior and then hadn't seen in a month has the absolute unmitigated gaul to ask you to start using birth control so he can start having sex with you again, is never the right reason . . .

I agree. Pretty selfish ask, seems to me that he wants one thing primarily...

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