Why do SOME girls think there's always something wrong with them?

[BigB]

A friend of mine asked this on another message board, thought I'd ask here and see what kind of answers the ladies might have.

 

His exact question was "Why do girls think there's always something wrong with them?" however, I know that this is only true with some girls, not all.

 

So, is it low self-esteem? Poor self image?

 

Simply fishing for compliments?

 

I'll give an example, there is a girl I like, often times if I call her beautiful, amazing, or something like that, I'll get "no, I'm not" as a response.

 

Just curious and bored I guess...

[d'Arthez]

I'll give an example, there is a girl I like, often times if I call her beautiful, amazing, or something like that, I'll get "no, I'm not" as a response.

 

Difficult to tell. She might have a "reasonable" grasp of her beauty as well.

Self-esteem? Possibly. Self image? Also possible. Not interested in dating you? Again, possible.

 

And it is not just girls. Guys have similar issues. I take compliments very badly.

[JS17]

Completely agree with D'Arthez. I'm going to strongly ditto the, some people just don't take compliments well.

 

Because you brought up a physical comment, and there's no surprise there (not personal but that's how men think), society has conditioned women to believe that they need to get to impossible physical ideals. It's nothing you haven't heard before. 99.9% of women will not look like models and porn stars yet that is what they are conditioned by society to believe they have to achieve. Impossible standards for most.

[whichwayisup]

Depends on her upbringing. Siblings, how things were handled, how she handles things in general. Self confidence. Whether or not she felt insecure in highschool, had friends/boyfriends. Caring too much what others think, being bullied, taken advantage of, or made fun of.

 

Life experience, not being able to trust...

 

As we get older, and become aware of insecurities, it's our job to fix them. Some people can't or won't and so therefore it's easier to stay the same...As painful and lonely as that is, it's more comfortable to stay in the same place then to change.

[FataMorgana]

I very much agree with D'Arthez and JS on this as well. They both summed it up really well.

 

Really, none is perfect and the more one knows about oneself the more evident this becomes. Hence there is always "something wrong with you"... just that you might see this more clearly... doesn't mean you have low self-esteem, migth just be simply realistic.