Springsummer Posted April 29, 2020 Posted April 29, 2020 (edited) It's been almost 3 weeks since someone from online suddenly stop communicating for no obvious reason. No idea why. Maybe too much women he chats online. Guess I was at the backburner for months now he finally talks to someone else that is really interesting to him. I have never liked anyone who doesn't like me back. So i am not going to contact him. I tried hard to look at other men online to match, unfortunately I hardly find someone interested to talk to. Why is it that life never worked out for? I told myself to just forget about this whole s*** and just live happily on my own for the rest of my life. But sometimes I feel really lonely though. Life sucks. So maybe not having any kid is a good thing after all. But how come other people can have but I don't? Edited April 29, 2020 by Springsummer 1
Author Springsummer Posted April 29, 2020 Author Posted April 29, 2020 Or he is not as good looking as the pics or maybe there's something wrong with him,so he got cold feet?
basil67 Posted April 29, 2020 Posted April 29, 2020 I'm sorry he disappeared. Had he been keen before now, with lots of daily chatting?
preraph Posted April 29, 2020 Posted April 29, 2020 46 minutes ago, Springsummer said: Or he is not as good looking as the pics or maybe there's something wrong with him,so he got cold feet? Yeah there's people out there who do that. 1
Author Springsummer Posted April 29, 2020 Author Posted April 29, 2020 4 minutes ago, basil67 said: I'm sorry he disappeared. Had he been keen before now, with lots of daily chatting? Not lots. But chat a bit daily. 1
basil67 Posted April 29, 2020 Posted April 29, 2020 Was the chat easy and enjoyable for you? Did you ever initiate contact with him? I'm just poking around for clues as to why he's disappeared. 1
Blind-Sided Posted April 29, 2020 Posted April 29, 2020 With what it going on in the world... I know it's even harder, and makes people feel more isolated. All I can say is I'm sorry for what you are feeling. 2
Foxhall Posted April 29, 2020 Posted April 29, 2020 hang in there another while, probably a good time for online dating, a few good prospects might show up. 1
stillafool Posted April 29, 2020 Posted April 29, 2020 (edited) ================ Edited April 29, 2020 by stillafool
IndigoNight Posted April 30, 2020 Posted April 30, 2020 I've had close friends vanish online out of there blue. Usually it was because they were having issues with their computer or the internet. You could always think of his sudden departure as a good thing. While it hurts now, try to imagine how hard it would be if you had spent the time developing deep, intense emotions for each other. Only to have him disappear without warning 6 months, or longer, down the road. I've seen people get ghosted by people that they were making 'happy every after' plans with, out of the blue. They were never told why. It's unfortunate, but it seems pretty common. You just never know when talking to someone online I guess. Sorry you're hurting.
Author Springsummer Posted May 1, 2020 Author Posted May 1, 2020 (edited) On 4/29/2020 at 12:23 AM, basil67 said: Was the chat easy and enjoyable for you? Did you ever initiate contact with him? I'm just poking around for clues as to why he's disappeared. seems so. Generally responded to his gif and text. People are so unreliable Edited May 1, 2020 by Springsummer
MeadowFlower Posted May 1, 2020 Posted May 1, 2020 People can be incredibly unreliable. And sometimes one can value a connection more than the other does. And their actions prove that.
Author Springsummer Posted May 1, 2020 Author Posted May 1, 2020 Deleted all mgs and therefore phone number
basil67 Posted May 1, 2020 Posted May 1, 2020 Yes, they can be very unreliable. And the frustration of being ghosted can be so confusing and hurtful.
Author Springsummer Posted May 1, 2020 Author Posted May 1, 2020 Can the pandemic be blamed for this? Because you can't meet for the first time anyway, why keep talking? But i just watched "love is blind" reality show where people just proposed without even seeing each other, not even a photo. What gives?
basil67 Posted May 1, 2020 Posted May 1, 2020 The pandemic won't be helping, but people have been flaking like this ever since OLD started. Romance reality TV shows aren't about love. They are about people who want the limelight and don't care about being made a fool of to get there.
Author Springsummer Posted May 1, 2020 Author Posted May 1, 2020 Two couple did end up married and still married.
basil67 Posted May 1, 2020 Posted May 1, 2020 Well, nothing is impossible and apparently we had one marriage happen from Married at First Sight too. But by and large, those shows are just a vain group of people who want to earn a quick buck by being on TV. This guy who stopped messaging you: was he the one who was sending random gifs as communication? Or a different guy?
NomiMalone Posted May 1, 2020 Posted May 1, 2020 10 minutes ago, basil67 said: Romance reality TV shows aren't about love. They are about people who want the limelight and don't care about being made a fool of to get there. Or just ignorant as to the mechanics of reality TV. You often see loads of of these reality “stars” speak out after the show airs to say that being on the show screwed them over and they were unprepared for how they were portrayed, and public backlash etc. I don’t think these people are any happier than you, SpringSummer. Its not healthy or realistic to compare your level of happiness to how happy you think other people are. There’re ups and downs in everyone’s lives - relationship issues, financial issues, body image issues, friendship and family issues, sickness, tough decisions etc. No one is an exception.
basil67 Posted May 1, 2020 Posted May 1, 2020 You could be right Nomi. But I don't understand how new contestants could be ignorant when so many former contestants speak out afterwards at having been screwed over and misrepresented. Is it a "it won't happen to me" mentality? Or a "I will get through the BS because money and 10 minutes of fame"?
NomiMalone Posted May 1, 2020 Posted May 1, 2020 Good question... yeah definitely the “it won’t happen to me” mentality. I think it takes a certain personality type to aspire to reality tv stardom, and I’d guess that some of them are exhibitionists and need attention more than the average person. I don’t really understand how they think, just too far fetched from my reality (no pun intended!) Definitely some disturbed people on those dating shows though. 1
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