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During my virtual speed dating I matched with someone and got her email. What kind of message would be good to send her? Should I ask for her # right away so we can text?

Normally I'd refer back to something we talked about but there were 2 women I was interested in and I don't remember which one this is. 

So should I just say something like  "it was nice talking to you. Let's keep in touch and plan to meet when this quarantine is over" or what? I've never matched with anyone over speed dating before.

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Just contact her and ask to set up a call.  Hey, it's x. Great to match with you. Look forward to talking. Here's what time works for me. What time works for you? 

 

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Hi I'm interested, here's my number.

SumGuy Established Member

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Definitively reach out and let her know you had fun talking to her and talk more, and would like to "meet" as best people can in this day and age.  Propose a specific day and time to talk, give her an idea when you are generally available in case she wants to counter propose a time (don;t go overboard, a couple hour window on a couple of days) and suggest a video-call platform if you can;t use the one used before.

If you can't remember if you talked to her about something or someone else avoid bringing it up.   

 

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23 hours ago, SumGuy said:

Definitively reach out and let her know you had fun talking to her and talk more, and would like to "meet" as best people can in this day and age.  Propose a specific day and time to talk, give her an idea when you are generally available in case she wants to counter propose a time (don;t go overboard, a couple hour window on a couple of days) and suggest a video-call platform if you can;t use the one used before.

If you can't remember if you talked to her about something or someone else avoid bringing it up.   

 

Sent her an email to that effect and haven't heard back yet. Not sure what's going on here.

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Is this the same woman whos WhatsApp pic you flipped out about?

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41 minutes ago, JTSW said:

Is this the same woman whos WhatsApp pic you flipped out about?

No

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How about Whatup?  Lol, I got that once and thought it was hysterical.

I'm weird though, don't go by me. :D

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2 hours ago, poppyfields said:

How about Whatup?  Lol, I got that once and thought it was hysterical.

I'm weird though, don't go by me. :D

Well I basically sent her something saying it was nice meeting you at the virtual event and gave her my number and suggested talking on the phone or texting. I haven't gotten a thing back yet. I mean she put my name down as someone she wanted to get in touch with so I can't imagine why that would scare her off from getting back to me. This whole dating process is very complicated.

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max, sorry but that was a bit of a yawn.  :(

Try to be creative and different, something to make her laugh.

That's why I thought the Whatup was funny, I and many women, at least the ones I know, like men who are bold, a bit out of the ordinary.

Try to separate yourself from every other joe writing "how was your day"? Or "it was nice meeting you," or something equally predictable and boring.

Nothing you wrote scared her off, but it did nothing to pull her either.

Learn good text game, it's essential during this time where we are all quarantined and communicating through text, snapchat, email, etc.

Sorry she didn't get back to you mate, she still might! 

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Max, make her laugh.  Make your first message something that she will remember and something she might find intriguing.  As previously stated, DON"T BE BORING....

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Why don't you just be yourself and stop putting too much thought into it 

JTSW Established Member

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18 hours ago, max3732 said:

No

So you're worrying about 2 different women at the same time.

You worried that the other woman was talking to other guys because of her pic but here you are doing the same.

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1 hour ago, JTSW said:

So you're worrying about 2 different women at the same time.

You worried that the other woman was talking to other guys because of her pic but here you are doing the same.

I'm not worried she's talking to other guys she's met on the dating apps. I'm worried she's in a relationship with someone already. I don't have my profile picture set with someone I met on a dating app or have done on 1 or 2 dates with. Do most people do that? 

Especially with the quarantine I'd assume most people are talking to mulitple people with plans to meetup when possible.

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46 minutes ago, max3732 said:

I don't have my profile picture set with someone I met on a dating app or have done on 1 or 2 dates with. Do most people do that? 

You are just assuming who that guy is.

How do you know its someone she has dated?

Could be her brother. 

But you have become 100% certain it's a partner.

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14 hours ago, max3732 said:

Well I basically sent her something saying it was nice meeting you at the virtual event and gave her my number and suggested talking on the phone or texting. I haven't gotten a thing back yet. I mean she put my name down as someone she wanted to get in touch with so I can't imagine why that would scare her off from getting back to me. This whole dating process is very complicated.

Should've gone with the dick pic, reels them right in.. 🤣

Dating is complex but the more you do it the more you learn what you don't want in a mate..IMO it isn't about finding what you want but eliminating what you don't want and then in the end you will have a better idea of what you want or need in a partner.

Learn from every touch you have on OLD, look for patterns to eliminate your own picker and go from there.

 

 

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1 hour ago, JTSW said:

You are just assuming who that guy is.

How do you know its someone she has dated?

Could be her brother. 

But you have become 100% certain it's a partner.

True that.  It could be an old friend who died of cancer and the picture of them together is in honor of him and the memories.   You really don't know.

If ti was on her OLD profile, yes a not smart choice no matter what the reason especially without an explanatory caption.  WhatsApp is different though, a more general social app and not dating focused.  It's way too soon to care or worry, you haven't even met yet.

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