Esteban1931 Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 Anyone get back together with their ex? How? When? It looks like the way this subject thread is going, we need some refreshing success threads out here!!!
hypegirl Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 We were together one year/half.2 weeks ago he broke it off with me.I did the nc thing .And he finally called last night to meet and talk.he says he wants to take it day by day . He doesnt want us to see anyone else.We both do love one another.He explained he has these underlining deep rooted issues regarding fears of abandonment and death. I dont understand it all but i said i would hang in there and try.His grandmother died when he was 20.(they were close but i dont get it, he's 39 now) anyway i do love him and i know we are both commited to making this work. i am going to give him time and as long as i feel like we are continuin\g to work on our issues , i will stay with him. Dont know if this is what you were looking for, but thanks for listening!
flakyapplepie Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Well my ex and I decided on not contacting each other for a couple of days. We were both weary and it was getting to the point where each of us couldn't see what made us fascinated with each other in the first place (quite another reason why you shouldn't spend almost every day with your partner). We were arguing on and off. We knew we liked each other a lot and wanted to work, but sometimes that motivation isn't there. Anyway, for exactly one miserable day he sent me a text message saying "my heart aches for you" which baffled me because at that point my head was clearer. I was moving on. It sort of stopped me in my tracks. I didn't call him until a day later. I guess I was curious as to what he was feeling considering he and I were both completely numb when we parted ways: "Okay, see ya around then". He answers and starts crying, talking about how much he wants to see me and misses me. I didn't want to jump back into things, of course, but we did get back together for a while. Unfortunately, I found that after not being with him those couple of days I really missed my independence! The relationship wasn't as worth it to me as it was to him. I ended up dumping him for good. Letting these things go on and on never does anyone any good. It's a happy story for me, at least.
J dub Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 My bf of three years told me he needed to find out what life was like without me (whatever the excuse, its all the same load of crap lol). I cried, was feeling like my world crashed down on me...but I was strong and maintained NC for a month despite his trying to call/text me a couple of times (I refused to respond unless he was saying "TAKE ME BACK I MADE A MISTAKE I LOVE YOUUU!") I was strict about the "all or none" of me theory -- I dont believe in being friends until I had sufficient time to heal (AT LEAST 6 mos) so I wouldnt give him the chance to keep tabs on me while he moved on with his life. Anyway, amonth later he came back to me -- like I have never seen before. He was SO upset, so distraught, would do anything to have me back. Reluctantly I agreed, since I dont believe in recycling boyfriends. But, that was 2 mos ago that we got back together, and he is still being 100% better than ever. I am happy Cant say I have completely forgotten that he found me disposable, and I get resentful from time to time, but he is patient and acknowledges that he caused me to feel rejected and is willing to work thru the troubles. So I am living proof that it does happen!!!!!
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