preraph Posted April 24, 2020 Posted April 24, 2020 If he wants to date you, he needs to ask you on a date. After the virus. Just don't go to his home. It's not really safe. If he is interested, tell him you'd like to go out somewhere once shelter in place is lifted. But not to his home. 1
poppyfields Posted April 24, 2020 Posted April 24, 2020 (edited) 5 minutes ago, preraph said: It's easy to mix threads up. Thanks for saying that! I feel like a bit of an arse now lol, but lesson learned to be more careful and make sure I'm responding to the right thread! The gist of my advice remains the same though, best to keep dates outside until you know him a bit better. Edited April 24, 2020 by poppyfields 1
poppyfields Posted April 24, 2020 Posted April 24, 2020 (edited) Just now, poppyfields said: Delete Edited April 24, 2020 by poppyfields
preraph Posted April 24, 2020 Posted April 24, 2020 I am still trying to figure out if I did the same thing recently. I think I got the info from a prior thread of the poster, but never quite figured it out! She never said what I said wasn't true, so maybe I was right, but I couldn't really tell. She could have been talking about some other guy on the prior post. 1
spiderowl Posted April 25, 2020 Posted April 25, 2020 (edited) He seems very keen on you. You seem uninterested in him but maybe that’s because he is talking about himself and not asking about you? Unfortunately guys do this a lot. Going on a date would be a non-starter during lockdown but you have still spent time alone together. No, I would not go to his home because you don’t know him that well yet. It is hard to know how people can actually date during lockdown. It doesn’t stop people needing closeness and sex though. Why not just tell him you are not sure about him and to see how things go when lockdown ends? I suppose in my experience, guys can seem very keen but if they are not interested in understanding you but mostly talk about themselves, that doesn’t change. It sounds like you are both physically attracted to each other but the emotional connection is not there for you. It might be there for him but it’s early days. Edited April 25, 2020 by spiderowl
manfrombelow Posted June 3, 2020 Posted June 3, 2020 On 4/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, KilaK said: and from that day he’s texted me almost everyday.[/quote] 1. I would not do that if I were him. The phone is to set up real dates, not for chit-chatting. On 4/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, KilaK said: We met up about 3 weeks Ago at a park we sat in my car and talked for 3 hours[/quote] 2. Again, this guy had no games. There's no better way to kill any sexual and romantic attraction than "talking for 3 hours in the car with the girl you're dating in the 1st date" On 4/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, KilaK said: Before he got out of my car he asked me how did i feel about him so far then he asked would i be willing to hang out again.[/quote] 3. Again, not only this guy has no games, he seems needy and desperate. It's his luck that you, at this point, had not been turned off by his behaviours. On 4/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, KilaK said: Ever since the car meet up he’s been begging for me to come spend time with him.[/quote] 4. BEGGING? What the hell? You see my point now? This guy is just needy and clingy and desperate and has no games whatsover. On 4/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, KilaK said: I’ve been distant. I wasn’t really feeling a connection after we met up at at the park. [/quote] 5. This is natural. His beta behaviours turned you off. On 4/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, KilaK said: He was really talkative [/quote] 6. I am willing to bet 300 bucks that during the 3-hour-conversation-session in your car, he talked most of the time. This is typical beta behaviour. Beta guys talk too much, and it turns women off. The perfect ratio is always 80/20, where the female talks at least 80% of the date. On 4/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, KilaK said: but he mainly talked about his kids in the car so i didn’t really find him interesting. [/quote] 7. Of course. Jesus Christ! On 4/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, KilaK said: But he’s been consistent on texting me daily and asking me out. even though i rarely text back and i haven’t been giving him the time of day [/quote] 8. He does this because he is being needy and clingy. On 4/22/2020 at 9:30 PM, KilaK said: Him: “ Im cooking tomorrow and i rarely cook but can you come over ? I’ll come and pick you up if you don’t want to drive. Me: yeah i can come I’ll drive myself thanks. And he responded “okay i normally eat around 7-8 so anything around that time will be perfect TL:DR; is he inviting me over for sex ? I don’t mind coming over for a warm meal and to watch a movie but i rarely go over makes houses they normally come to mine if we even get that far YES of course.
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 3, 2020 Posted June 3, 2020 The three hours in the car thing was to rush a sense of intimacy so that the next time you met you'd eagerly spread...butter on the garlic toast you guys will be cooking at his house. Yes, dear, LOL. He tried to shove 2 years of relationship into 3 boring talk hours and now you're expected to "cook" at his house, except he'll forget to go shopping for any ingredients but oh hey! He does just happen to have a bed at his apartment. You don't even like this guy much, I wouldn't be going over expecting to be baking meatloaf. You need to give this one a hard pass. He's definitely expecting to sleep with you, given how foolproof love bombing.
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