k0ukla1995 Posted April 19, 2020 Posted April 19, 2020 (edited) Hi everyone, I need some advice on a current dating situation. I posted about this recently but there have been some developments. I was seeing this guy for a month, someone who is rumored to be a player but showed a genuine interest in me so I went along with it. We started seeing each other before social distancing began and continued seeing each other during because neither of us were hanging out in groups at all and mostly only seeing each other. Things got weird after quarantine started because we are both out of work (both work in the service industry) and didn't have much else to do besides see each other. We had already confessed our feelings for each other before this all started and things were honestly moving a little too fast. I think with all this happening in the world during the early stages of a "relationship" it had a serious impact on us and the way we communicated. Still getting to know each other but we were both dealing with our own personal stresses. Basically, the last time we hung out we had a minor argument and a few days later ended things. I told him to leave me alone, he told me he doesn't want to see me anymore. I truthfully don't want to lose this connection because it was a really good one. I've never met someone who is so similar to me and understood my soul so well. We haven't spoken in about 2 days, his last texts to me were sort of confusing and I would like a male perspective on this one....he sent me a bunch of texts in a row saying he believes I'm too closed off from love because I'm afraid of being hurt and things like that (does he wish I was more open to him? or is it too late?) The last thing he said to me was "I'd rather talk about solving problems instead of s***ting on each other, but I don't want to text" I didn't say anything to this because I don't know what it means and I don't know what to say. Is he open to keeping the discussion going / still wants to see me? Edited April 19, 2020 by k0ukla1995
smackie9 Posted April 19, 2020 Posted April 19, 2020 He wanted you to come groveling. In his mind you didn’t fight for him and he’s hurt about it.
Mystery4u Posted April 19, 2020 Posted April 19, 2020 Just read your previous thread and it looks like the exact same thing you have posted here? Don't see any 'developments' apart from a few texts he has sent since. To be honest if this is how it has been after only a month of seeing each other, you don't seem compatible. This should be the time when you are both getting to know each other, showing the best version of yourself basically, it shouldn't be this hard. You don't mention what the reason was for the argument that made you break up but again if it's this early and you are already breaking up then it's a very bad sign. Better to move on and find someone you are better suited to and don't have all this drama with.
Uptown182 Posted April 19, 2020 Posted April 19, 2020 (edited) I don’t know, if he’s a known player seems to me like he’s doing what he does best...playing games. Is this what you want? Players are known for making you believe you have some incredible connection. It’s probable that he’ll contact you again, but as others have said if you’re already arguing like this after a month, doesn’t look like a promising relationship. In my experience when a guy is super into you, they avoid arguing with you in the beginning stages. If you say or do something that bothers them, they’ll just let it go or look passed it to avoid scaring you off. That’s just my two cents. Edited April 19, 2020 by Uptown182 1
JTSW Posted April 23, 2020 Posted April 23, 2020 On 4/19/2020 at 9:58 PM, k0ukla1995 said: he believes I'm too closed off from love Sounds that way. Things get a little tough and you push him away. On 4/19/2020 at 9:58 PM, k0ukla1995 said: does he wish I was more open to him? You should be asking him that. Honestly, you don't seem compatible at all.
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