CaliforniaGirl Posted May 13, 2020 Posted May 13, 2020 I don't want to sound like I'm stereotyping anybody's behavior but I do remember from dating that the guys who swooped in fast with excessive attention were also the ones who disappeared fast. This guy sounds like he was all over you, all the contact, talking about you meeting his kids (whoa...way too soon). Love bombing you. Then he went away... I've never figured out a good reason for this behavior, though there probably is one. But regardless, today I'd be a little leery of the "I'm soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo GD into you!" stuff at the very beginning. I've just seen this sort of thing happen too often. I think maybe it's just that it's so unsustainable. It's probably not some M.O. or dastardly plan or anything. 1
Author kween321 Posted May 13, 2020 Author Posted May 13, 2020 Yeah totally agree. I'm very conscious of the love bombing thing as it's happened in all of my past relationships and although they were all long term, they were all highly dysfunctional haha. Another reason why I kept dismissing this guys attempts to profess his feelings for me! 1
Miss Spider Posted May 15, 2020 Posted May 15, 2020 Idk. I’m kind of leery of the whole ‘lovebombing’ term as it’s explained on these forums. Like 75% of the guys I’ve been in Ltrs have done something along those lines at the beginning. I don’t think it always means they’re narcs or manipulators. I mean, a lot of men just come on super strong because they think you into that( and I guess they have a point bc they wouldn’t have trapped me into a rship with them if they didn’t lol) But yea I’m sure it happens. There’s probably other signs or something though. 1
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