Author kween321 Posted April 24, 2020 Author Posted April 24, 2020 f*** it, should I just send him a nude and say "thinking of you", or some bs like that? - I just took some really nice ones but I've got no one else I want to send them to! Is this love? Hahaha
ExpatInItaly Posted April 24, 2020 Posted April 24, 2020 I think you first need to clarify for yourself what you want from this guy. Do you want him to just continue to take it casually for a little fun, or are you actually hoping this amounts to something more? If it's the latter, I would not be leading with a nude shot. I wouldn't lead with a nude shot anyway, not without a little warm-up first to gauge his current temperature, so to speak.
stillafool Posted April 25, 2020 Posted April 25, 2020 9 hours ago, kween321 said: f*** it, should I just send him a nude and say "thinking of you", or some bs like that? - I just took some really nice ones but I've got no one else I want to send them to! Is this love? Hahaha Why are you now wanting to do this^ when you said you were going to do the below: On 4/21/2020 at 10:41 PM, kween321 said: I appreciate everyone's feedback. As harsh as some of it is, it makes sense and actually makes me feel better. I was feeling like there was something inherently wrong with me as a person but obviously we just weren't on the same page. I thought I could get all the advantages of being in a serious relationship without actually committing to one. Going forward, if he contacts me again talking about some inane s***, I'm not gonna be salty to him and if he wants to f*** then I'm in because that's what I wanted in the first place! I'm actually new to this whole FWB thing so I'm still learning ok!
kendahke Posted April 25, 2020 Posted April 25, 2020 10 hours ago, kween321 said: Is this love? No. It's being off balance because he didn't go in the direction you expected him to. Don't I wouldn't send the nudes... you don't know him well enough to do that. You don't know who he'll let see those.
Author kween321 Posted April 25, 2020 Author Posted April 25, 2020 (edited) On 4/24/2020 at 5:07 PM, ExpatInItaly said: I think you first need to clarify for yourself what you want from this guy. Do you want him to just continue to take it casually for a little fun, or are you actually hoping this amounts to something more? If it's the latter, I would not be leading with a nude shot. I wouldn't lead with a nude shot anyway, not without a little warm-up first to gauge his current temperature, so to speak. He still likes all my thirst traps on IG so I don't think he'd mind. I just want him. I don't really care how it ends up now lol. On 4/24/2020 at 8:12 PM, stillafool said: Why are you now wanting to do this^ when you said you were going to do the below: Lockdown rules have relaxed and I don't wanna wait for him to contact me to have sex lol. To be fair, I left him on 'read' the last two times we spoke so he's probably leaving it up to me to contact him. On 4/24/2020 at 9:26 PM, kendahke said: No. It's being off balance because he didn't go in the direction you expected him to. Don't I wouldn't send the nudes... you don't know him well enough to do that. You don't know who he'll let see those. I was being facetious... and he can show whoever he wants lol - I don't take nudes that have my face in them or that I wouldn't die of embarrassment if my friends or family saw! I take good nudes and I'm proud of them. Edited April 26, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language
ExpatInItaly Posted April 25, 2020 Posted April 25, 2020 5 hours ago, kween321 said: He still likes all my thirst traps on IG so I don't think he'd mind. I just want him. I don't really care how it ends up now lol. Are you sure about that? That's a pretty quick turnaround from just a few days ago when you posted this thread. I would ask myself first if I'm just wanting attention, and what will happen if he responds enthusiastically and then drifts off again. 2
Author kween321 Posted April 25, 2020 Author Posted April 25, 2020 Ok fine, I'll just send the nudes to someone who doesn't matter. Someone's gotta see them!
Juha Posted April 25, 2020 Posted April 25, 2020 6 hours ago, kween321 said: Ok fine, I'll just send the nudes to someone who doesn't matter. Someone's gotta see them! I'll be more than happy to take the weight off of who to show your nude pics to
stillafool Posted April 25, 2020 Posted April 25, 2020 6 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Are you sure about that? That's a pretty quick turnaround from just a few days ago when you posted this thread. I would ask myself first if I'm just wanting attention, and what will happen if he responds enthusiastically and then drifts off again. I agree about the turnaround from a few days ago. You were so sure you were moving on now you are almost sounding desperate for him. What changed your mind other than the lockdown? 1
Author kween321 Posted April 25, 2020 Author Posted April 25, 2020 I was just horny after taking those bomb ass nudes... I'm too chicken to contact him. I'm not contacting him.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 26, 2020 Posted April 26, 2020 1 hour ago, kween321 said: I was just horny after taking those bomb ass nudes... I'm too chicken to contact him. I'm not contacting him. Right. OP, what is the real purpose of this thread? 2
Author kween321 Posted April 26, 2020 Author Posted April 26, 2020 To get advice and to stop me from making impulsive decisions. Thank you.
dangerous Posted April 26, 2020 Posted April 26, 2020 On 4/25/2020 at 9:50 AM, kween321 said: Ok fine, I'll just send the nudes to someone who doesn't matter. Someone's gotta see them! Why would you say this? 1
Miss Spider Posted April 26, 2020 Posted April 26, 2020 Im just wondering why you're too chicken to contact him? You said you left him on read the last two times. Not very nice! It's not like he'll be excited to contact you after that. I don't understand what game you are playing? 2
stillafool Posted April 26, 2020 Posted April 26, 2020 On 4/25/2020 at 4:50 AM, kween321 said: Ok fine, I'll just send the nudes to someone who doesn't matter. Someone's gotta see them! Why does someone have to see your nudes? 2
Lotsgoingon Posted April 27, 2020 Posted April 27, 2020 I just saw an article within the last few days of people sending nudes out ... it's a form of coronavirus sex play, the article was saying.
Author kween321 Posted April 27, 2020 Author Posted April 27, 2020 9 hours ago, dangerous said: Why would you say this? I just say stuff - it's kinda my thing. 9 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Im just wondering why you're too chicken to contact him? You said you left him on read the last two times. Not very nice! It's not like he'll be excited to contact you after that. I don't understand what game you are playing? I was used to him talking to me a certain way but he'd changed his tone. I didn't think that was very nice! I felt that he was playing games. Hence why I left him on read. No games here, perhaps a misunderstanding. Doesn't really matter anymore! 8 hours ago, stillafool said: Why does someone have to see your nudes? I guess we don't joke around here. My bad! 3 hours ago, Lotsgoingon said: I just saw an article within the last few days of people sending nudes out ... it's a form of coronavirus sex play, the article was saying. Well I've definitely noticed an increase in guys wanting to swap nudes 1
ExpatInItaly Posted April 27, 2020 Posted April 27, 2020 If you want to swap nudes, have at it. Just keep perspective and remember that doing so with a guy you don't know well will probably lead to the exact issues that prompted you to create this thread in the first place. Having fun is one thing, but expecting any of the benefits that come with a relationship along with the pic-swapping is unrealistic. This guy was not playing games with you. He was following your lead. 2
Author kween321 Posted May 12, 2020 Author Posted May 12, 2020 I need advice again regarding the same guy. I posted an IG story and he responded so I used it to start a convo with him. He seemed down so I asked if he was ok. He said lockdown has been lonely and he misses his kids. Then he went on to talk about how he had to take a substantial paycut at work, doesn't ever want to leave the house and things generally sucked. That was a bit dark coming from him so I tried to lighten the convo with a bit of humor but I don't think it was helping! So I just said "I gotta go but hope you feel better soon" before I made things worse Does going into detail about his problems mean he's still interested in me? Does he want a pity-lay? Does it even mean anything at all? I want to do or be whatever he needs but I don't want to get it wrong or be another burden! How should I proceed?
ExpatInItaly Posted May 12, 2020 Posted May 12, 2020 I think he's just venting. I don't get the impression he was looking for a pity-lay. My read is that he's struggling and just being honest about it. He doesn't sound like he's in the mood for humor (however well-intended that may have been on your part) or fooling around.
stillafool Posted May 12, 2020 Posted May 12, 2020 3 hours ago, kween321 said: Does going into detail about his problems mean he's still interested in me? Does he want a pity-lay? Does it even mean anything at all? I want to do or be whatever he needs but I don't want to get it wrong or be another burden! I agree he was just venting how he's feeling since you asked. Nothing about what he said sounds like he's romantically interested in anyone right now. Hopefully there was more to your conversation than what you mentioned because I don't see where he went into any details.
Author kween321 Posted May 12, 2020 Author Posted May 12, 2020 I'm summarizing the convo guys! But yeah you're probably right. Just venting. He's mentioned when we were seeing each other, he only has a couple of friends he feels he can talk to which is why I thought it might of meant something
CaliforniaGirl Posted May 12, 2020 Posted May 12, 2020 (edited) On 4/22/2020 at 7:22 AM, Fletch Lives said: A FWB is a non-serious relationship so what were you expecting? If there is no love, there is no hook to keep them around, you are just another warm body. Not really. He obviously liked talking to her very frequently from the beginning. So seemed to be part of it for him. She was just confused as to why that would wax and wane but she seems good with it now. Edited May 12, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted May 12, 2020 Posted May 12, 2020 (edited) Just now, CaliforniaGirl said: (Sorry, this was supposed to be an edit) Edited May 12, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl
CaliforniaGirl Posted May 12, 2020 Posted May 12, 2020 (edited) 9 hours ago, kween321 said: I need advice again regarding the same guy. I posted an IG story and he responded so I used it to start a convo with him. He seemed down so I asked if he was ok. He said lockdown has been lonely and he misses his kids. Then he went on to talk about how he had to take a substantial paycut at work, doesn't ever want to leave the house and things generally sucked. That was a bit dark coming from him so I tried to lighten the convo with a bit of humor but I don't think it was helping! So I just said "I gotta go but hope you feel better soon" before I made things worse Does going into detail about his problems mean he's still interested in me? Does he want a pity-lay? Does it even mean anything at all? I want to do or be whatever he needs but I don't want to get it wrong or be another burden! How should I proceed? Oh, I would just drop it at this point. You were nice enough to ask him how he was doing, that was plenty. He sounds like sort of a mess right now, given the nature of your relationship I'd just back off and let him contact when he could be fun again (sorry for how that sounds - again, this is just given the FWB situation). Don't be his lay AND his shrink. I'm 100% sure he'll be fine so just move on and keep doin' what you do. Edited May 12, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl 1
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