snowcones Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 Anyone else feel this way? *FYI- this is not an advertisement, just a question to discuss 2
basil67 Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 Yep, while I love my partner and have been happy with him for nearly 30 years, I miss the adrenaline of a crush
peaceminusone Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 I can definitely say, I miss having my silly old teenage crushes. But as a single lady, I still have my weekly crushes. And today happens to be 'secret crush saturday' 2
Emilie Jolie Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 I have a permanent crush on my SO but still have crushes on random people. I'm a habitual crusher. 1
Piddy Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 I have a permanent crush on my wife of 40 years. But, you can still have crushes. It sometimes just happens. 1
Author snowcones Posted April 18, 2020 Author Posted April 18, 2020 2 hours ago, peaceminusone said: I can definitely say, I miss having my silly old teenage crushes. But as a single lady, I still have my weekly crushes. And today happens to be 'secret crush saturday' Weekly? Wow! My crushes usually last years. Right now I'm not crushing on anyone and I miss it.
peaceminusone Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 31 minutes ago, snowcones said: Weekly? Wow! My crushes usually last years. Right now I'm not crushing on anyone and I miss it. ahahaha, there's different types of crushes too. Like celebrity crush etc And my crushes werent something that I idealized as my possible partner. So yea, weekly crush is easy to get by with. Just to have fun :3 1
Author snowcones Posted April 18, 2020 Author Posted April 18, 2020 (edited) 10 minutes ago, peaceminusone said: ahahaha, there's different types of crushes too. Like celebrity crush etc And my crushes werent something that I idealized as my possible partner. So yea, weekly crush is easy to get by with. Just to have fun :3 I seeee. Ahh yeah you're lucky. I love celebrity crushes too, but I don't seem to have those as often as I'd like. I wish I could have one every week. I get the ones where I idealize a real person them and start to see them as my partner, and sometimes I attempt to cross over into that with them and that's when all the problems start. I need to just keep them as a crush and remain at a distance in order for the good feeling to last! Anyway, yea, I wish I had one right now. Edited April 18, 2020 by snowcones
chillii Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 No offense op but l thought this would have to be the stupidest thread ever butttt, seems like your thing is pretty common, l'll be damned. 1
preraph Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 Yes I felt that way before. Having a crush or being interested in someone is kind of the same as having hope and when you have to give up on it it's like losing hope. 1
K.K. Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 I always have to have a crush or my life doesn’t feel complete lol. I really like to lie in my bed and have them on my mind as I’m going to sleep. The excitement of all of the possibilities. Though the crush usually stays in my imagination only, I’ve sometimes escalated it to real life sex with them. Sometimes having a dream about someone is enough to make me see them in a whole new light and want them. It can be any little thing that draws me to them too. Usually the more immoral the situation the better lol. I’ve had crushes on bosses and coworkers and guys that I’ve only made eye contact with once and can’t wait to do it again. I’ve had crushes on girls with dreads, tattoos and tongue rings. I’ve had crushes on friends that have no idea that I’ve gotten off on them several times already. I’ve had crushes on posters on this board. (Especially this one guy) It can develop from a song they post or a funny comment or just something sexy that they say. An off the cuff, interesting comment can cause me to see them in a whole new light and wanta know everything about them. Sometimes I even tell them about my crush on them. Having a crush to me is like breathing air. It keeps me on my toes. That is ...until they do something unattractive or make a dick move and kill the feeling for me. Or sometimes they make me like them too much and then I have to cut them loose because I don’t do feelings too well. I guess that’s where the “crush” part of it comes in. I don’t get celebrity crushes though. Not sure why. Probably because I have to feel like I at least have a chance. 1
Author snowcones Posted April 18, 2020 Author Posted April 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, preraph said: Yes I felt that way before. Having a crush or being interested in someone is kind of the same as having hope and when you have to give up on it it's like losing hope. Yes that's it! 1
Author snowcones Posted April 18, 2020 Author Posted April 18, 2020 1 hour ago, chillii said: No offense op but l thought this would have to be the stupidest thread ever butttt, seems like your thing is pretty common, l'll be damned. You learn something new everyday, huh? 2
Author snowcones Posted April 18, 2020 Author Posted April 18, 2020 4 minutes ago, K.K. said: I always have to have a crush or my life doesn’t feel complete lol. I really like to lie in my bed and have them on my mind as I’m going to sleep. The excitement of all of the possibilities. Though the crush usually stays in my imagination only, I’ve sometimes escalated it to real life sex with them. Sometimes having a dream about someone is enough to make me see them in a whole new light and want them. It can be any little thing that draws me to them too. Usually the more immoral the situation the better lol. I’ve had crushes on bosses and coworkers and guys that I’ve only made eye contact with once and can’t wait to do it again. I’ve had crushes on girls with dreads, tattoos and tongue rings. I’ve had crushes on friends that have no idea that I’ve gotten off on them several times already. I’ve had crushes on posters on this board. (Especially this one guy) It can develop from a song they post or a funny comment or just something sexy that they say. An off the cuff, interesting comment can cause me to see them in a whole new light and wanta know everything about them. Sometimes I even tell them about my crush on them. Having a crush to me is like breathing air. It keeps me on my toes. That is ...until they do something unattractive or make a dick move and kill the feeling for me. Or sometimes they make me like them too much and then I have to cut them loose because I don’t do feelings too well. I guess that’s where the “crush” part of it comes in. I don’t get celebrity crushes though. Not sure why. Probably because I have to feel like I at least have a chance. You don't know how much I love this post. 1
preraph Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 It's good to also try to have other things you can be passionate about that also give you hope, things you are working toward. Don't save up all the good things in life for when and if you find the partner. Try to go ahead and give those things to yourself. 2
Author snowcones Posted April 18, 2020 Author Posted April 18, 2020 13 minutes ago, preraph said: It's good to also try to have other things you can be passionate about that also give you hope, things you are working toward. Don't save up all the good things in life for when and if you find the partner. Try to go ahead and give those things to yourself. Yes, ma'am. Will do. 1
OpenBook Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 I'm relieved to see others develop crushes too... even married people. I've learned not to take my crushes too seriously. For me, they have everything to do with admiration. And they're total fantasy. It's nice to dream. 3 1
balin Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 3 hours ago, snowcones said: I get the ones where I idealize a real person them and start to see them as my partner, and sometimes I attempt to cross over into that with them and that's when all the problems start. 2 hours ago, preraph said: Yes I felt that way before. Having a crush or being interested in someone is kind of the same as having hope and when you have to give up on it it's like losing hope. Absolutely feel that! It's like a door opening slightly and showing a trove of splendour, treasure, happiness, connection. It's amazing how it can trump logic and common sense. One of the bittersweet joys of life. 3
preraph Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 Yes. "Bittersweet" is definitely the word for it! 1
simpycurious Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 Nothing like the initial feeling of a "budding"/"potential" CRUSH. It is a rush. 2
MeadowFlower Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 10 hours ago, snowcones said: Anyone else feel this way? *FYI- this is not an advertisement, just a question to discuss Don't miss it. If it is not reciprocated, what is the point.
Realitysux Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 I miss it too but you can't force it. I set up a dating profile but no one interested me as of yet. Have to really just live your life until one comes into it. 2
Miss Spider Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 Yes...I haven't had a real crush in quite awhile now and it's starting to concern me ;( 3
Realitysux Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 40 minutes ago, MeadowFlower said: Don't miss it. If it is not reciprocated, what is the point. You sound very misserable. One person may not have reciprocated but that doesn't reflect you as a person. If someone moved on then that only means that they found someone who suited them at a time in their life that you didn't. I have been rejected and it is painful but you can't hold onto the bitterness as there are lots of nice guys out there.
Interstellar Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 (edited) I was actually thinking about starting this topic several weeks ago, hah because I realize as the years go by I stopped having them...but all of a sudden I realize I do have several crushes...about 100 of them at least Edit: Okay, I lied it’s 103 Edited April 18, 2020 by Interstellar 2
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