DanW95 Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 (edited) So there’s this pretty woman that I’ve seen at my local store who works behind the pharmacy counter, although I’m not certain what her position is because I never see her at the register but I have seen her about a year ago working on the floor of the store but never payed much attention to her, well about a month ago I went through the pharmacy drive thru window to pick up a prescription for my father and she happened to be working there and for whatever reason, the crush spell came over me but I didn’t say anything like an idiot and left. Well a month or so goes by and I’m at the store and I see her walking down an isle and we make eye contact but she looked busy and went back into the pharmacy, but at this point I’d like to give her my number but am very perplexed as to how to do that with her being behind the pharmacy counter and quite frankly pretty elusive considering it’s out of the way of the rest of the store... but two dats ago I was leaving the store and she happened to be walking to her car (now I never do this because I ordinarily despise it) and I saw an opportunity to say at LEAST something considering I can very rarely organically cross paths with her and so I roll down my window and say “you’re really pretty” and she turned around and smiled and said “thank you” and so I drove on.... I hated doing that but I saw a small opportunity to make a slight move..... so here I am today, how do I even go about giving her my number considering her working behind the pharmacy and in a crowd of other techs or what have you working there? I really want to shoot my shot but I don’t want to feel like I need to pop in there everyday looking for the opportunity to cross paths with her.. Edited April 18, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
preraph Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 Well, you already blew it telling a stranger she's pretty, because that is enough to creep most women out. You don't even know if this woman is married or has a boyfriend. You don't know anything but where she works. Women don't like to be chased solely because they're pretty! So you are off to a bad start. Unless she friendlies up to you next time you're in the store, best to leave her alone. And don't be stalking her. 1
preraph Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 Look, see if she's friendly next time (she may not have even looked at you to remember you in the car). But if not, I mean, what's the chances a real pretty woman is single? Next time with the next woman, don't ever lead with a comment on their looks. Just say "Such pretty weather" or "I bet you've been busy lately" about their work, just what you'd say to another guy you're NOT trying to pick up. 1
smackie9 Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 If it were me I would say "Hey _____, you have a beautiful day! keep smiling it's helping us all! It's called building a rapport. Harmless, pleasant, feel good stuff. 2
Author DanW95 Posted April 17, 2020 Author Posted April 17, 2020 Yeah, I just hope I didn’t blow it is all, I just saw an opportunity to say something since it’s incredibly rare to be able to speak to her isolated outside of the mass of co-workers behind the counter. Its been a couple days since I was last in there, I have to go at the very least tomorrow to get some things so if she’s there and recognizes me and she doesn’t seem bothered I’d say the compliment went over decently (although never again approaching that route)
Yosemite Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 Beautiful people know that they're beautiful. They get told that ALL the time... just like you did shouting it out of the window of your car. Beautiful people know that their beauty will fade one day so they want to be valued for something other than their looks. Next time you want to pursue someone who's gorgeous, don't mention her looks until the third or fourth date. It will give the impression that you're interested in more than her looks. Don't even think about giving your number to her. You need to ask for her number. You'll probably say that you don't want to put her on the spot or make her uncomfortable, but if she's as pretty as you say, she gets asked for her number all the time, she knows how to handle it. If you see her in the store, ask her to show you where to find some item in the store that's pharmacy related. While she's walking there, make conversation with her, be friendly and outgoing. Then ask for her number at the end. You won't die if she says no. 1
preraph Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 1 hour ago, DanW95 said: Yeah, I just hope I didn’t blow it is all, I just saw an opportunity to say something since it’s incredibly rare to be able to speak to her isolated outside of the mass of co-workers behind the counter. Its been a couple days since I was last in there, I have to go at the very least tomorrow to get some things so if she’s there and recognizes me and she doesn’t seem bothered I’d say the compliment went over decently (although never again approaching that route) But see, here you are showing how you're missing the point. The point is NOT to say anything to her you wouldn't be able to say to or in front of her other coworkers. And if you really want to make an impression, be nice to everyone there, not just her. Women aren't stupid. They know you know nothing about them but their looks and that that is the source of your interest, and in general, women do not like that. So better start showing her some fun personality and give HER something to like about YOU. 1
Ami1uwant Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 2 hours ago, DanW95 said: Yeah, I just hope I didn’t blow it is all, I just saw an opportunity to say something since it’s incredibly rare to be able to speak to her isolated outside of the mass of co-workers behind the counter. Its been a couple days since I was last in there, I have to go at the very least tomorrow to get some things so if she’s there and recognizes me and she doesn’t seem bothered I’d say the compliment went over decently (although never again approaching that route) You could ask her what you should take to help control this heart murmur you get whrn you see her... 1
chillii Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 Hmm, can well see the allure , l dunno about anywhere else but here they usually wear beautifully crispy white uniforms and always smell so clean and yummy as they walk you over to a shelf to look at whatever your looking for . Although l always feel like l'm going to knock something over in a Pharmacy , don't know why haha.
Miss Spider Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 (edited) I am a pharmacy student. I do not think you should ask her out. Pharmacists deal with enough stuff throughout their day. Most don't want to have to deal with people hitting on them when they are working hard to fill scripts and try to be cordial. You put them in an uncomfortable position Edited April 17, 2020 by Cookiesandough 4
simpycurious Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 37 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: I am a pharmacy student. I do not think you should ask her out. Pharmacists deal with enough stuff throughout their day. Most don't want to have to deal with people hitting on them when they are working hard to fill scripts and try to be cordial. You put them in an uncomfortable position I agree that it would put her in a WEIRD position and not really appropriate to do so while is working
rjc149 Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 OP, periods and paragraphs are your friends. And sorry to say, but yes, that was a creeper move to drive up to a woman, ogle her, tell her she's really pretty, then speed off. You shot your shot with this one and missed. And you only get one shot with a stranger. But you miss 100% of the shots you *don't* take. So don't beat yourself up. Success isn't possible without failure. Getting numbers from attractive women while they are at work dealing with customers is very difficult. Dating gurus and PUA's charge thousands of dollars teaching tactics and running seminars on how to do this, and usually can't even do it themselves. By being a generally fun, friendly, outgoing guy who is bantering with the people around him, you can catch her eye. Then you can playfully tease and flirt, gauge her temperature, then try and ask for a number it it's warm. It may take multiple interactions over the course of weeks or months. If you come off right, she may be intrigued by your confidence and give you her number. 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 6 hours ago, DanW95 said: So there’s this pretty woman that I’ve seen at my local store who works behind the pharmacy counter, although I’m not certain what her position is because I never see her at the register but I have seen her about a year ago working on the floor of the store but never payed much attention to her, well about a month ago I went through the pharmacy drive thru window to pick up a prescription for my father and she happened to be working there and for whatever reason, the crush spell came over me ask yourself: "What would Mark Ratner do?" And then just show up at the store constantly, and buy a bunch of pointless, stupid stuff, while over several months you contemplate whether you have the nerve to ask her out. If that doesn't work, then go get advice from Mike Damone, (that little prick)
preraph Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 (edited) I have never heard of either one of those guys you just mentioned. I have a half baked crush on my mail-order pharmacist, or one of them. He is just so polite and efficient and nice deep voice. Edited April 18, 2020 by preraph
chillii Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 Ha , me either , probably just more gurus ripping off the sorry souls out there.
Author DanW95 Posted April 18, 2020 Author Posted April 18, 2020 1 hour ago, SincereOnlineGuy said: ask yourself: "What would Mark Ratner do?" And then just show up at the store constantly, and buy a bunch of pointless, stupid stuff, while over several months you contemplate whether you have the nerve to ask her out. If that doesn't work, then go get advice from Mike Damone, (that little prick) Lmao! That’s great
Ellener Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 If you like her that much I'd write her a note and switch pharmacies.
princessaurora Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 (edited) Never shout at a girl walking to/from her car "you're pretty" No matter how hot you are it's just not appealing. I've dealt with it since I was about 17 and it always creeps me out, and the way she responded is exactly how I do. Smile, say thanks, and make a swift escape, although you didn't linger so that may work in your favor. I don't mean to be harsh, but just trying to save you from future awkwardness. You may have already burned your bridges with this situation, unless she was interested previously, which if that is the case, you might be able to redeem yourself with small talk, but feel out the situation and if she's sending positive signals your way, ask her for her number and take it from there. Good luck:) Edited April 18, 2020 by princessaurora add 1
ExpatInItaly Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 OP, I've been on the receiving end of a stranger telling me I'm really pretty, much in the manner you describe. It makes me very uncomfortable. As the others here have already pointed out, don't take that approach again. All you can do at this point is be friendly if you see her again in the pharmacy but remember that it's her workplace. Keep any interaction respectful and professional. See if she is open to small talk, not related to her looks. Don't ask for her number and don't give her yours at this point. You don't know if she's even single, keep in mind. Wait and see first if she reciprocates small talk, if she seems warm. If not and she just keeps it professional, assume she is not interested and leave it be,
Penguin_hugs Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 21 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: I am a pharmacy student. I do not think you should ask her out. Pharmacists deal with enough stuff throughout their day. Most don't want to have to deal with people hitting on them when they are working hard to fill scripts and try to be cordial. You put them in an uncomfortable position I'm a pharmacist and I massively agree with this statement! Especially at the moment- community pharmacists in the UK are having to deal with a lot of [insert choice of expletive] - GP surgeries have closed their doors, pharmacies are the front line for patients right now and they are getting hell from the public. I work in hospital now- and it's also pretty tough, getting trained for ITU care and our job roles changing daily- along with PPE stress etc. Everyone else is safely isolated at home- while we continue- even if you are in a "vulnerable" category like myself. So a few thoughts:- 1. Pharmacists are not allowed to date patients (I've had to sign things in the past to agree with this statement) 2. Don't make people feel uncomfortable in their place of work When I was a preregistration pharmacist- this guy used to come in regularly and try and ask me out. He was a really odd character and made me feel incredibly uncomfortable. I had a few moments of hiding out the backof the dispensary when he appeared! Now I work in a hospital- so I see patients at their bedsides- discussing meds with them etc- so it is even more inappropriate. But I do still get the odd older male who tries it on!
Foxhall Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 22 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: I am a pharmacy student. I had you down as a smart cookie alright
Foxhall Posted April 18, 2020 Posted April 18, 2020 interesting one, suppose nothing ventured nothing gained, Id probably enjoy this one myself., Id try to make a point of engaging her chatting about herbal medicine remedies and so on, this would be an angle to start a conversation, see then is she up for a bit of banter or is she a no go area!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 On 4/17/2020 at 10:07 PM, princessaurora said: Never shout at a girl walking to/from her car "you're pretty" No matter how hot you are it's just not appealing. While that is sage advice... I would very much like to see a study done scientifically where the culprits ran waaaaaaaaaaaaaay up there on the hot/studly/handsome scale... to find out the actual truth. Of course most such reactions would be more accurately communicated with "YOU? - you're not attractive enough to (even think of) me". (so nobody learns very much from them)
princessaurora Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 (edited) Not exactly the same, but when I was in college, I went to the local park and was swinging at the playground when this incredibly good looking guy got of his car and approached me. He complimented me and asked a lot of personal questions. My instincts told me I was in danger, so I high tailed my ass outta there! So my assumption is if they'really hot, they're probably the next Ted Bundy! Edited April 20, 2020 by princessaurora Grammar error
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