Bf gf

[Blueyes2791]

Hi everyone

So i suffer from anxiety and I over analyze everything so talking about stuff helps me feel better. I’ve been going out with this girl for a while. And I wanted to make sure she sees us as bf gf. We’ve been hanging out since July. Last night we were doing a puzzle. She was over for four hours. The first half was great but the second half was a little more quiet. Not silent but there were some moments were nothing was said. I told her I enjoy doing puzzles and she’s like ya time flies by when you do. I’ve been here four hours felt like one. After every date I walk her to her car and we make out. I asked her when she’s free next and she said Sunday. So I mean if she tells me when she can see me next and she makes out with me and like if she’s not having a good time then you wouldn’t stay for four hours. So she gotta she us as bf gf... right? Sorry I know this may sound dumb but I’m 19 and I suffer from anxiety. Thank you 

[Ami1uwant]

If you’ve been doing this since July I’d think you’d be bef and gf come april

 

did you get a permission slip from her parents?

[scooby-philly]

Without supplying any sarcasm (as much as I want to) - that's not something you leave up in the air unspoken when you get to 8-9 months. You'll wake up and it will be a year in July. After 3-4 months you need to have the "exclusive" talk. By 8 to 9 months you should know exactly what you are. If you don't - that's 50% your fault. It's also her fault 50% too, potentially, if she sees you as her BF. But keep in mind a lot of people have emotional issues or non-secure attachment styles and are glad to spend time with people, even sleep with people (and I'm not bashing physical intimacy here) - without the "title" or assumed pressures of being "official". The first question is...what do you want from this? If you want a gf then you need to ask yourself - is it her? If so, then you need to ask the question and see how she responds and base the future off of those answers.

And despite what you may think, successful, happy, loving couples can spend hours together and not say a word. Constant chatter means that one or both of you isn't comfortable with yourselves. Don't get me wrong - first 2-3 months of a new relationship - oh yeah - it should be a constant conversation. But as a bf/gf settle into a relationship - it should get to a point where you don't feel forced to converse with the person on a constant basis. 

[Blind-Sided]

Yep... just ask her what label she wants to use.  

[preraph]

Ask her if she is okay calling yourselves gf/bf.  And if yes, then clarify and say, So that means we are only dating each other?  Just so you know.  

[Fletch Lives]

She very well may see you as her boyfriend. Then again, some young girls are not ready to fall in love.