thecrucible Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 Should a woman do this or it totally a lost cause? A guy I was chatting to and had a fun virtual date with just disappeared. He invited me on the date and said he wanted to keep in touch and meet irl after all this is over. I might have got carried away and sent him a message afterwards saying “Thank you for the lovely virtual date, it made my night x”. He didn’t get back to me for a few days and I left it half a day after but sent a friendly reply asking how his weekend was. Then, as I predicted he disappeared again. I don’t blame him as I’ve probably done the same to someone - it’s just that he sounded enthusiastic during the date and we chatted for a couple of hours. Perhaps my message made him want to back off? Obviously a lot of the advice out there says “do nothing” but I wonder what your thoughts are on this?
stillafool Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 23 minutes ago, thecrucible said: He invited me on the date and said he wanted to keep in touch and meet irl after all this is over. This is no where near being over so that is why you haven't heard from him.
Author thecrucible Posted April 16, 2020 Author Posted April 16, 2020 Yeah exactly. I think I’ll feel better if I can convince myself I didn’t freak him out with my message. 1
stillafool Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 That was a really nice message you sent thanking him. I'm sure he appreciated it and your good manners.
smackie9 Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 if you are doing the pursuing then he isn't interested. 1
Miss Spider Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 (edited) He is not interested. There is very little you can do/say to derail an interested man. Think about it when the roles are reversed and you've faded a guy and he comes back and keeps saying hi. How do you feel about him? Exactly. Shouldn't do it. Also very few people are gonna be all grumpy and unhappy-like on a date regardless of whether they are feeling it. They just won't follow up Edited April 16, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
Author thecrucible Posted April 16, 2020 Author Posted April 16, 2020 Thanks guys. Nah I haven’t pursued him at all. I’ll just leave as is.
Juha Posted April 19, 2020 Posted April 19, 2020 Think you will be waiting a long time for that date... Probably best to forget this guy and move on
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