PKrueger24 Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 I will preface this by saying that I work as a teacher and that some of my fellow teachers have a rather ... crude ... sense of humor, but they always reserve it for when we are in the staff room or on work socials, but never in front of students. I recently (before COVID-19 outbreak shut schools down) mentioned to my fellow teachers that an old student of mine found my social media profile and messaged me on it to suggest trading XXX pics, and how I promptly reported her to her school admin. A co-worker of mine, we'll call her Sarah, chimed in with: 'I'm surprised! You seem like the kind of guy who'd enjoy sending d!ick pics.' A short while later, I mentioned that I was feeling stressed out by something work related. Sarah again chimed in with how I should have a 'one night stand' to help relieve my stress. So ... I don't have great social skills and judging these things is not my strong suit. Based on this, do you suppose Sarah is at all interested in any way, or am I reading into this too much?
alphamale Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 "Sarah" was trying to make you look bad....so i would say no, she doesn't like you. 2
schlumpy Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 Do not make the mistake of involving yourself in a workplace romance. You will live to regret it. If your female colleague feels free to make that kind of comment to you then I think your work environment is headed for a train wreck. 2
Mystery4u Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 There is only one way to found out. When she said the ONS line your response should have been 'Well if you're offering... how about tonight?' with a cheeky grin on your face. If you find Sarah attractive then you should flirt back when she initiates it.
smackie9 Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 You just said that your coworkers save the racy stories and comment for the teachers lounge....well that's what she was doing...playing along, giving you the gears like guys do on a construction site. Strictly platonic.
Versacehottie Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 She sounds like she likes to be center of attention in a crude way. She may be interested, she may not be. She's definitely trouble.
rjc149 Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 (edited) From what I've read, my sense is that Sarah is picturing you in a sexual context, so it again it's possible that she has some level of sexual interest. Pay attention to how she interacts with other males, if it's similar then maybe she's just got sex on her mind. I would strongly advise against flirting back or having any sort of overtly sexual conversation with a female coworker. In this day in age, even harmless schoolyard flirting with a female coworker can completely destroy your life. You have no idea what's really going on in her head. Remember that there are people out there, male and female alike, who are empowered by victimhood. Keep things 100% platonic and professional with Sarah. Edited April 16, 2020 by rjc149 2
preraph Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 No. To me, she just is taking the opportunity to be a smartass. It's not something you'd say if you were interested. 1
elaine567 Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 I agree with alphamale, she made some personal "digs" which say she doesn't like you at all. I don't mean "like" as in being romantically interested, I mean like as in the normal meaning of like. Sorry! 1
Miss Spider Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 (edited) You're reading too much into it. She was just teasing you. Edited April 16, 2020 by Cookiesandough
preraph Posted April 16, 2020 Posted April 16, 2020 I would just add that just because a person is a smart-ass doesn't mean they might not like you. But they're certainly not bending over backwards to woo you. 1
introverted1 Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 My question is: why do you like her? She sounds socially inept, at best. These are not comments I'd make to a co-worker unless we already had established a bantering friendship. Is that the case here?
stillafool Posted April 17, 2020 Posted April 17, 2020 (edited) This Sarah chick sure has a filthy mouth for someone who teaches kids. She's rude and inappropriate. I would have told her not to make comments like that to me because it's unprofessional. Can you imagine what would happen if you said those kinds of things to her? I don't know if she's interested or not but who would want her. Edited April 17, 2020 by stillafool 1
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