Xcvbnm25 Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 I see a guy in town occasionally , every time we see each other, he always says how beautiful I am (he’s been saying this for a year or so), I used to laugh if off and think nothing more of it. In February this year, I saw him again he said how beautiful I am, but this time he kissed me on my cheek and said he hopes he’s made my day. Well I was on cloud 9 after that lol, anyway exactly a week later I saw him again, he was in the distance, so I went chasing after him, he said hello beautiful, he kissed my cheek again, I told him I really like him, he said he does too, I asked if he was on Facebook, he said he was but never uses it as no one chats to him, I said I would as I’d love to get to know you better. He kissed me again before we parted. As soon as we got home, I got on Facebook, I found him eventually and sent a friend request, but heard nothing. Am I reading to much into this? Am I getting my hopes up for nothing? My heads all over the place & need advice please x
Haerts Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 15 minutes ago, Xcvbnm25 said: Am I getting my hopes up for nothing? Yes, you are. You guys have absolutely nothing other than a small talk every once in a while and a kiss on the cheek. Keep your feet on the ground because ultimately, so far, there's nothing to discuss here. May I ask you: How long has it been since you sent the friend request? How old are you two?
Fletch Lives Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 Often when a guy likes you he asks for your number. Maybe he's just flirting. 2
Blind-Sided Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 I would like to know the answer to @Haerts questions also. But, he said he doesn't use FB... so don't read too much into it. I personally didn't use FB at all, but I had an account just to watch Black Friday sales. I Just recently started using it to reach out to old friends. But knowing my own situation... if he doesn't use it... don't read anything into it.
Erik30 Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 Maybe he has a girlfriend? It's weird that he approaches you, but never asks for your number.. (and it's been going on for a year!) I do have to say, he kind of seems like a creep
ExpatInItaly Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 I find it very strange that some man you don't know is kissing you on the cheek. What exactly is the context of these random encounters? Where do you see him? How exactly did you meet him? To answer your question, yes, I think you are getting your hopes up and are going to be disappointed. If it's been a year and he's never bothered to try to get to know you more despite always telling you how beautiful you are, there's a reason for it. I wouldn't be surprised to learn that he's not single.
stillafool Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 Are you underage OP? I ask because the way he talked to you sounds like a man who is playing with a young girl he knows has a crush on him but he has no intentions of doing anything about it.
Haerts Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 5 minutes ago, Xcvbnm25 said: I’m 38 Oh wow, the way you described the whole thing I would've guessed you guys are like 15 or something. Anyway, if it's been a while already since you sent the friend request, just forget about it and try to get his number next time. But then again, if someone I was interested on asked for a social media profile of mine which I don't use anymore, I'd either try to figure out another one or I'd keep checking it just in case. lol 1
K.K. Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 3 hours ago, Xcvbnm25 said: As soon as we got home, I got on Facebook, I found him eventually and sent a friend request, but heard nothing. Am I reading to much into this? Am I getting my hopes up for nothing? My heads all over the place & need advice please x Well ... there ya go. Man, people say all kinds of crap when they’re in your face and trying to seem pleasant and trying to stroke their ego. But the actions... yep ... they tell all. So either he didn’t get your request yet. Or he got it and since you’re no longer standing in front of him, he can pretend like you don’t exist. Sure he’s not married/taken? Sorry you’re feeling down about this though. We tend to build people/fantasies up when we want it to be so. Try to look at it realistically.
Caauug Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 3 hours ago, Xcvbnm25 said: I said I would as I’d love to get to know you better. He kissed me again Keep doing what works.... FB is not for everyone. I walked away from it for a few years, just to get away. I only went back to talk to brothers. 3 hours ago, Xcvbnm25 said: Am I reading to much into this? Am I getting my hopes up for nothing? My heads all over the place & need advice please x Nope!!! If you don't have a go. you will never now. What can he say, "Sorry love, I am taken"??? And if he is single it could be life changing for you..... It's well worth a shot.
Ellener Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 @Xcvbnm25 just use it as a flattering ego boost. You gave him a way to get in touch, he didn't take you up on it. I've had a friend like this for a long time and found it's because he can't move on from a bereavement...if someone isn't moving forward then there's no point treating it as anything but a fantasy. Fantasy is a good thing- so long as it doesn't become our reality! @Caauug is right nothing ventured nothing gained too. But it takes a bit of self esteem to do that and shrug it off if you're not on the same page. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 1
preraph Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) He's probably married or otherwise committed. He's such a flatterer and flirt that he's going to already have a woman. Sorry. That's the way it is sometimes. A guy like that who is so bold is usually not going to be single. Probably does it for his own gratification and validation he's still got it or something. He would have asked you out by now if he was going to. Just stop focusing on him. Next time you run into him on the street, tell him, You'll all talk. Edited April 9, 2020 by preraph 2
stillafool Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 I bet you aren't the only woman he does that too. He knows he's smooth. 2
poppyfields Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) Xcv, I agree with others who said you're reading too much into it, and also with the poster who said he sounds like a creep! I mean, approaching you on the street and calling you beautiful is fine, I get that sometimes too, BUT kissing you on the cheek? This man, a total stranger, on the street? No, no and no. THAT is creepy and if a man did that to me, I'd seriously consider reporting him to the police. That just goes over and above appropriate behaviour. Xcv, I'm actually concerned for you. You said you were on cloud 9 after the kiss, what would you have done if he had invited you back to his? I shudder at the thought. Boundaries Xcv, please. I think it might be wise to look within to determine why you're so susceptible to flattery, becoming obsessed with a literal stranger simply because he called you beautiful. Good luck moving forward and please stay safe! Edited April 9, 2020 by poppyfields 1
ExpatInItaly Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 4 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: I find it very strange that some man you don't know is kissing you on the cheek. What exactly is the context of these random encounters? Where do you see him? How exactly did you meet him? Quoting myself here because you might have missed this, OP. Can you elaborate on the above questions? 2
poppyfields Posted April 9, 2020 Posted April 9, 2020 4 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Quoting myself here because you might have missed this, OP. Can you elaborate on the above questions? Great questions, I presumed it was on the street (while in town) as OP said one day she saw him from a distance and went chasing after him. But I'm only speculating, it would be good to have more context into how they met and how she knows him. OP, can you return and answer for us? We're here to help, not hurt. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted April 10, 2020 Posted April 10, 2020 13 hours ago, Xcvbnm25 said: I see a guy in town occasionally , every time we see each other, he always says how beautiful I am (he’s been saying this for a year or so), I used to laugh if off and think nothing more of it. In February this year, I saw him again he said how beautiful I am, but this time he kissed me on my cheek and said he hopes he’s made my day. Well I was on cloud 9 after that lol, anyway exactly a week later I saw him again, he was in the distance, so I went chasing after him, he said hello beautiful, he kissed my cheek again, I told him I really like him, he said he does too, I asked if he was on Facebook, he said he was but never uses it as no one chats to him, I said I would as I’d love to get to know you better. He kissed me again before we parted. As soon as we got home, I got on Facebook, I found him eventually and sent a friend request, but heard nothing. Am I reading to much into this? Am I getting my hopes up for nothing? My heads all over the place & need advice please x Slow down. Also, I think it's weird that you didn't ask for his number or a date. Instead, you asked if you could contact him through FB?????
Miss Spider Posted April 10, 2020 Posted April 10, 2020 (edited) Someone kisses you on your cheek and says “hope I made your day” doesn’t exactly sound interested. Someone who feels your day should be made by having a virtual stranger be gracious enough to come up and grace your face with their stranger lips. Wth. Anyway, on another note, he might be gay. Edited April 10, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted April 10, 2020 Posted April 10, 2020 He does this with most women he comes across I imagine.
Luna66star Posted April 13, 2020 Posted April 13, 2020 Did you meet this guy on the street initially? Sounds to me like he is married or otherwise attached. He didn't accept your FB friend request because he doesn't want to get involved. He's just playing and liking the attention, which is fine, many people do (women & men). I would forget about him as a possible suitor. After a year of this, and he hasn't tried to get to know you (on FB or asking for real life dates)? Please move on and let this fantasy go.
dangerous Posted April 13, 2020 Posted April 13, 2020 (edited) Personally, I don't think the FB thing is significant other than show that you have differing views about FB: he doesn't use it and you do. I don't use it anymore, so if a lady said to me, can we connect on FB, I'd say I don't use it, lets swap numbers. But that's me, he may not be so bold? Edited April 13, 2020 by dangerous correction
Lover29 Posted April 15, 2020 Posted April 15, 2020 I think you might be not the only one there. This kind of behavior is a very common thing. You must be the to chase for, because you are the girl. I think you will get disappointed that he is not giving you enough interest as it has already started it will be like this through the whole time of the relationship. Try Volikov test to understand his character. Try Astrology may be. Wish you to be in the most loving relationships!
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