MY friend added my toxic ex on Instagram after a ver recent breakup. Is it wrong that im upset about this?

[Candygirl1414]

My ex and I were in a 3.5 year relationship that recently ended. He was very toxic and the relationship was either him treating me wonderfully or treating me horribly emotionally ( never physical). I left him over and over but he would always come back saying he loved me, he would get help, things would be different and I would always take him back. The weakness of loving someone I guess. It ended 3 months ago by him ghosting. Literally left his house in the morning we said I love you and talk to you later, he texted me later that day about his doctors appt as he hadn’t been feeling well, then when I responded to ask if he needed anything, if he was okay etc. he just never responded ever again. I didn’t reach out again after that as that was the final straw.

 

All my girlfriends have been very aware of how painful the relationship with him has been and have made it clear how I need to leave him , what kind of person he is etc. One girlfriends husband is friends with my ex and she recently told me 2 months ago that he had started dating someone else, considering the disrespectful way he ended things after all this time I was very hurt but told her thank you for telling me.  This same girlfriends has been very involved in our relationship, and has told me multiple times how misogynistic, and selfish he is and told me many more to leave him. I don’t have him on any of my social media but recently on Instagram he came up in my suggested friends as someone who was new to Instagram/created a new account. I checked out his profile and saw that my girlfriend was following him and had liked many of his posts. Because the account was brand new she had obviously added him recently. Am I wrong to be hurt and feel a little betrayed over this? I understand that her husband is friedns with him but considering she knows how horrible the relationship was and how many times he’s hurt me, even recently with the horrible way he ended the relationship, then bringing someone new out with all our friends without the least bit of feeling. None of my other girlfriends would even consider adding him and some have even deleted him of their various accounts. I understand her husband sees him so she has that connection and could want to remain neutral,  but after how many times she has bad mouthed him to me and told me to get rid of him im just feeling a little betrayed that she would make a conscious move like that as if nothing happened. It would be totally different if it was someone who it just didn’t work out with then of course I would have no problem but someone who has treated me so badly im feeling a bit betrayed. Should I let it go and think maybe she’s trying not to get involved or am I right to feel a bit betrayed?

[preraph]

I don't trust your friend and I am pretty sure I told you that before on here. she likes to be in the middle of your business and I wouldn't believe anything she tells you concerning some man you're interested in. I think she might be meddling. if she thinks he's that bad then she certainly shouldn't be following him. That's why I don't think that's the case.

[kendahke]

5 hours ago, Candygirl1414 said:

Am I wrong to be hurt and feel a little betrayed over this? I understand that her husband is friedns with him but considering she knows how horrible the relationship was and how many times he’s hurt me, even recently with the horrible way he ended the relationship, then bringing someone new out with all our friends without the least bit of feeling.

No--feelings aren't right or wrong--they just are.

Having said that-her husband and him are friends, so since she's his wife, it kind of makes sense that she would add him... it was a hamfisted tactic on her part, but you'll have to weigh that against how competitive she is when it comes to you and men in general. Is she one of those kinds of females who has to make herself known to any guy you date? Is she thirsty for the attention of guys you date, even though she has a husband? She sounds like it to me and those kinds of females should never be trusted with any personal information or anything that can hurt you because she is the type who will weaponize it and use it against you---like she's done with your ex.

She's more a frenemy than a friend and she means you no good. The more space and silence you put between you two, the better. Block all three of them on IG and keep yourself taciturnly.

[GeorgiaPeach1]

Sounds like she's attracted to drama and likes to be in the middle of it. Start distancing yourself from her, quit telling her your business and make new friends.

[stillafool]

How do you know that it wasn't her husband who added him to the account?  What she probably isn't telling you is that they have socialized with the your ex and his new girl, and is probably friends with her by now.