Blind-Sided Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 11 hours ago, mtnbiker3000 said: And that is another issue (of mine). I am starting to feel kinda old, and tired of dating women that I'm just not into. I am starting to feel lonely. So, that makes this young woman all the more attractive to me. It somehow makes me feel younger too. I totally understand. I'm 47, and had the exact same feeling. I get up, and look in the mirror, and see some old fart looking back. I'm just thankful that many women aren't wired to look at vanity. The good ones will look into your soul, and see what kind of person you are. And, assuming you are at least of average stability... that's enough to attract whatever kind of girl you like.
smackie9 Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 She's only here for a good time, not a long time.......
Ruby Slippers Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 I don't think it has anything to do with age. My boyfriend is 12 years older and we're practically (but not legally) living together and have discussed the possibility of marrying after a year or so. On our first date, he made it 100% clear he was interested and I responded in kind. Yes, he's done almost all the initiating, but that's true of all men I've dated of any age. If I were you, I'd back off and text her every month or two to invite her for hiking/fun, if that works for you. If not, I'd move on and find someone who's just as interested in you.
Ami1uwant Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 On 3/26/2020 at 3:51 AM, mtnbiker3000 said: I would just hate to think that she would seriously be blowing me off because of that. I want to reach out to her and tell her I want to see more of her, but I already did that and she's kind of hard to read. I think I always am the one to initiate a text message.I don't want to come across as clingy. Been there don that with younger, hotter females. I guess I just need to wait and see what happens, if anything? Man, I do not like doing that. Ha!! You had sex when she was drunk she is now ashamed by it thus she has you at arms length.
Azincourt Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 (edited) 11 hours ago, Blind-Sided said: If I'm 75.... then yes... 60 will be a "Girl". LOL. As an fyi... most women aren't offended by it. I was in bed last night with my new GF, and called her "little girl". She seemed to like it. No, most women are offended by being treated like a child, yes. Never met anyone who calls women ''girls'' in real life, to be honest. Even women who are 18 get treated like women instead of being treated like walking babies like apparently middle-aged people seem to think of them as, and since it's legally acceptable for a 18 year old to enlist in the army and to either kill for his Country, die, or become maimed, I'm going ahead and going to say that as soon as a girl turns 18, she's not longer a girl and is now a woman. Quote Of course she did, you are her Daddy substitute... I wasn't aware most men were becoming fathers at the age of 15. I mean, the guy's 75 and she's 60. I guess she's as young as a 20 years old and he's as old as a 80 years old Quote thus she has you at arms length. Or maybe being a single mother is hard work and very time-consuming and she just wanted to get laid, and is now trying not to give the guy the idea that she's interested in a relationship with him? Edited March 27, 2020 by Azincourt
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 27, 2020 Author Posted March 27, 2020 12 hours ago, Blind-Sided said: I'm just thankful that many women aren't wired to look at vanity. Yes, we are lucky that many females may be more interested in other parts of our total package.I agree, us men are typically more hung up on looks! Ha! 2
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 27, 2020 Author Posted March 27, 2020 3 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: If I were you, I'd back off and text her every month or two to invite her for hiking/fun, if that works for you. If not, I'd move on and find someone who's just as interested in you. That's exactly the plan I settled on! 3
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 27, 2020 Author Posted March 27, 2020 1 hour ago, Ami1uwant said: You had sex when she was drunk she is now ashamed by it thus she has you at arms length. Yes, I can see this... Plus, one detail I left out of the original story was that the roommate did walk in on us. I'm sure she was embarrassed by this even though neither of us so much as slowed down. Ha!! 1
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 27, 2020 Author Posted March 27, 2020 1 hour ago, Azincourt said: Or maybe being a single mother is hard work and very time-consuming and she just wanted to get laid, and is now trying not to give the guy the idea that she's interested in a relationship with him? This too...
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 27, 2020 Author Posted March 27, 2020 (edited) I reached out to her yesterday with just a casual hello. She replied back equally casually, and that's where it stopped. I've decided to just leave her be and if she wants to see me again, in any capacity, she knows where I am and how to get a hold of me, and that I have desire to see her. Ball is in her court. Edited March 28, 2020 by mtnbiker3000 3
Azincourt Posted March 28, 2020 Posted March 28, 2020 Exactly. Relationships are highly demanding when a woman is childless, how do you think is going to be when she has a child to rise, a house to pay for, and a job to work for? I know guys who are only interested in single moms because they reckon those women have too much on their plate to concern themselves with relationships, making it easier to have casual sex with them.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 28, 2020 Author Posted March 28, 2020 (edited) 7 minutes ago, Azincourt said: Exactly. Relationships are highly demanding when a woman is childless, how do you think is going to be when she has a child to rise, a house to pay for, and a job to work for? I know guys who are only interested in single moms because they reckon those women have too much on their plate to concern themselves with relationships, making it easier to have casual sex with them. Yes, I do as well. This is not my end game as I stated before. I know she has been extra stressed because her bar has been closed for 2 weeks and won't be open for at least 3 or 4 more weeks. No income. Plus she just recovered from shoulder surgery after falling down her stairs. Was out for a month due to that and had just gotten back into the work scene, so I know her finances are very tight at this moment. I will just chill and let her work her stuff out. And if she needs a friend, or another round of servicing great, If not, OK too! Edited March 28, 2020 by mtnbiker3000 1
Azincourt Posted March 28, 2020 Posted March 28, 2020 1 minute ago, mtnbiker3000 said: Yes, I do as well. This is not my end game as I stated before. I know she has been extra stressed because her bar has been closed for 2 weeks and won't be open for at least 3 or 4 more weeks. No income. Plus she just recovered from shoulder surgery after falling down her stairs. Was out for a month due to that and had just gotten back into the work scene, so I know her finances are very tight at this moment. I will just chill and let her work her stuff out. And if she needs another round of servicing great, If not. OK too! Sounds like she has a lot on her plate at the moment. Kick back and relax, if she wants to see you again, she will contact you. If not, you'll meet other women you'll develop an interest in.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted March 28, 2020 Author Posted March 28, 2020 24 minutes ago, Azincourt said: Sounds like she has a lot on her plate at the moment. Kick back and relax, if she wants to see you again, she will contact you. If not, you'll meet other women you'll develop an interest in. Yup!!! This ^^^^ The funny thing is, I tend to be the guy that women use for this. A quick shag or two in a pinch, but no interest in, or ability for a relationship. It is not new to me (at least it appears this way). I know all of this. Been through it all before (very similar situations). Been through group sessions with other men in similar situations. Unpacked the reasons for it. Dug deep into the root causes on my end. Been on this site. Yet, when the opportunity presents itself, it always seems to throw me. I think I get quickly attached to a nice piece of ass, and everything I know goes out the window. The fact that they are not a good choice for me. If I were smart/strong, I would have turned her down. But I'm weak when it comes to a potential role in the hay with a highly desirable female. And then I am left confused and frustrated when I feel this way. Again! Anyway, just needed to get it out to other ears and hear it returned back to me.
Blind-Sided Posted March 28, 2020 Posted March 28, 2020 (edited) 12 hours ago, Azincourt said: No, most women are offended by being treated like a child, ....... I wasn't aware most men were becoming fathers at the age of 15. I mean, the guy's 75 and she's 60. I guess she's as young as a 20 years old and he's as old as a 80 years old I wasn't saying treating her like a kid at all. But in private... calling her a "Pretty little girl" seems to appreciated by some. (assuming there is some truth to that) And as before... if I'm older... then they are girls. Heck... I found myself calling someone a "Kid" the other day... and they were well into their 20's. (a friend of my cousin) But I will say... if I know that the other person didn't like it... I would stop as soon as it was brought to my attention. The father thing was a different comment. Elaine has been following my story since I showed up. She has been a voice of brutal honesty... and it's been a good thing. (Thank you Elaine) Anyway... my recent (and first) relationship since my divorce is with a girl who is a solid 20 years younger than me. (doing the math, it's closer to, but not quite 21 years) Edited March 28, 2020 by Blind-Sided
Azincourt Posted March 28, 2020 Posted March 28, 2020 (edited) Quote I wasn't saying treating her like a kid at all. But in private... calling her a "Pretty little girl" No offense, but that gives me the creeps. It reminds me of my sisters when they were little girls and our grandfather had them on their lap and calling them little girls. Quote nd as before... if I'm older... then they are girls. No, they aren't ''girls''. They're women. You're not 100 years old and these women aren't 30 year olds. You're older than them, yes, you could be their father, yes, but most 15 year old boys aren't fathering children are they, and these women could be mothers and grandmas for all we know. How exactly are they little girls? Just because they are younger than you? Not by much. Quote if I'm older... then they are girls. Heck... I found myself calling someone a "Kid" the other day... and they were well into their 20's. (a friend of my cousin) But I will say... if I know that the other person didn't like it... I would stop as soon as it was brought to my attention. Yes, but that's different, ain't it? They're in their 20s, you're in your mid 70s. Like I said before, there's nothing fishy about a young woman dating an older man. I met lots of early 20s women who were dating or married to men in their 50s and 60s and 70s. I know one who was 25 and married to an 80 year old man. In many of those cases, are the women married to those men because of money? Yes. And so what? We all pay for it, man. I pay for it with my eyes, my shoulders, my abs, my biceps, or my hairline, or with the lies I spew at women in nightclubs. Maybe the 60 year old man taking home a 20 year old does it by waving his rolex watch at her, but in the end, we all pay for it, and free sex is the most expensive of sex, so enjoy your life, don't pay attention to women who are angry about eligible bachelors going for young women, and live the best you can. And again, don't listen to people who are trying to destroy the good thing you have going on. Edited March 28, 2020 by Azincourt 1
dangerous Posted March 29, 2020 Posted March 29, 2020 OP. I think the way you write about this is quite disrespectful to her, in the way you talk about the sex. You don't sound like a LTR guy if that is what she is after. I'm only going by the words you used here, but from what you say. you have a history of ONS and women coming to you when they want a quick fix. And Azincourt, fully agree about paying for it: my 3 examples from personal life: 1. Married for 25 years, supported my wife financially throughout and in the end was taken to the cleaners left with nothing! 2. 2 year relationship in my 50's after bankruptcy and my GF complained all the time that I wasn't paying for her! 3. Aged 57, I've had several sugar baby dates with girls in young 20's and had LOADS of fun, and I treat them well. Common theme: £££ $$$ ..
snowboy91 Posted March 30, 2020 Posted March 30, 2020 It seems as simple as that she was just horny and wanted a ONS with you. Unfortunately you want something more which I don't think she wants.
preraph Posted March 30, 2020 Posted March 30, 2020 Now with the virus, moms (and dads) are full time parents, so maybe just chill and wait and see what happens once things are back to normal. She can't be out getting infected. She has a kid. Who she should't have been bringing over to a guy's house that soon to get laid or left alone in a room.
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