miserable Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Ok, I had a thread a few days ago where I said I still wanted him even though I know I shouldnt. He called me Tuesday night, and he started asking about me, how I was, how is school, etc etc. I was short with him and gave him no real answers. I felt bad later on that night and I called him (bad idea) I aplogized for being mean to him and we talked for 2 hours. He told me he wants me back and he was miserable and all the things I have longed to hear for a month. My phone died and before I could get it plugged in and turned back on he was at the door. We talked some more. He stayed the night with me. THe next day he dropped a bomb just like the first time this happened. He wants me back with conditions. He wont move back in ( we have a lease together) and he wants to take things slow. Also the girl that he was talking to, he said he wants to keep her as his friend. Even though he knows she wants him romantically. UMM hell no. Basically, he said he wants to start all over he needs to take things slow but does want me back. This weekend coming up-- he is off from work. Instead of wanting to spend it with me playing catch -up or whatever, he is going to the bar with his friends tonight, and out on a boat Sunday with his brother and sister. He said I will call you on Sunday. Basically saying, I will call you when I have nothing else to do. After this weekend I will gone all next week and all next weekend so he cant see me then. Shouldnt he want to see me, if he wants to get back together he has no reason to go to the bar with his friends right?? I love this man more than anything, we didnt break up cause either of cheated or anything harsh like that. We both forgot how much we mean to each other and just let a whole bunch of little things come in between us. I get the feeling that he is stringing me along. Doesnt want me but doesnt want anyone else to comes to mind. The worst part, is when he was over on Tuesday night I had flowers on the table. They were from my mom for my birthday that was on Monday. Our 2nd anniversary was Saturday and my birthday is right after. He admitted to me that he totally forgot my birthday. How could he?? How can you for get someones b-day that you just spent 2 years with. I like my birthday so I count the days when its getting close so its not like its never mentioned. He said he felt really bad, but hasnt done anything to even try to make it up to me. He said Happy birthday one time thats it. I dont understand, why does he make demands that he knows I cant accept for him to be with me. Is he stringing me along, or am I wanting to rush things?
brittanyjean259 Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 you seem very unsure about your relationship status with him...if he says he wants you back... than he does/and should meen it...maybe yall living together was just not a good idea?.... no he should not keep this girl as a friend obviosuly he will go back to her when things are in trouble with you guys... youve been listening to what he wants, now tell him what you want the hole birthday thing , that must have hurt...im sorry!...dont nkow what to say about that
Baz Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 "I dont understand, why does he make demands that he knows I cant accept for him to be with me" Because he knows that you want him. He is taking the piss. Tell him that you need time to think over his very kind offer (!) and then take a step back for a while. There is no rush here so dont panic. You know he wants you so use that to your advantage not his. If you want a relationship with him then the parameters that he is suggesting dont suit your preferences so do not compromise, that would give him all the power and that is not a healthy thing at the best of times. He sounds like a puppy dog so you need to throw a few sticks and train him to heal. You are a woman, instinctively you should know how to do this. Back off a bit and let him figure it out, afterall that is why he has come back in the first place.
miserable Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 you seem very unsure about your relationship status with him...if he says he wants you back... than he does/and should meen it...maybe yall living together was just not a good idea?.... no he should not keep this girl as a friend obviosuly he will go back to her when things are in trouble with you guys... youve been listening to what he wants, now tell him what you want the hole birthday thing , that must have hurt...im sorry!...dont nkow what to say about that I am unsure of his intentions.. its seems that he wants me back and I do beleive him but we have lived together for over a year. That wasnt the problem. He wants me back under certain conditions as long as every thing can be his way. I dont know what to do, I know he will go running right back to her if there is one small problem. I have the weekend to decide what I want to do with him. I have no idea what to do... I love him to death but all the demands just seem unusual to me.
gevoraksix Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Move on! Is he offering what you want? No sounds like his way or no way. ""I get the feeling that he is stringing me along. Doesn't want me but Doesn't want anyone else to comes to mind."" That is controlling. Do you have boundaries?is he crossing them? If he is, don't accept him back. A relationship should meet the needs of both parties not just his.
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