hillman Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 This is a situation that I found myself in a few weeks ago. Did I do the right thing? I had been going out with this girl for a few months. She was attractive, and had a good sense of humour. She also had a serious spending problem. Things started out small. For example, I found that I was always paying when we went for a meal or a drink, and always paying for bus/taxi home. I didnt think too much of this, after all, traditionally the guy does pay for the date. Then it went on to me paying for things when she went shopping. At first it was a "loan" because she was waiting to be paid, etc. Then it got to the point where i seemed to be paying for everything. It reached the point where I could no longer afford to be spending so much money like this - and I tried to talk to her about it. She then told me that I was uncaring and thoughtless. At this point I ended it. Was I right to get out, or should we have tried to sort things?
slubberdegullion Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Run in the opposite direction. Stay away. She'll bleed you dry.
Author hillman Posted October 7, 2005 Author Posted October 7, 2005 Unfortunately this seems to have developed further, and I only found out about this bit about an hour ago. She's now going out with someone who i used to be good friends with but havent really chatted with much recently - and who therefore doesnt know what happened. I don't currently have his contact details (as we've now gone to separate unis, and she is at the same uni as him). Should I try to make contact and warn him, or should i talk about what happened with one of his closer friends or what? Or am I best to leave well alone.
pippen_2k Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 You will look pathetic if you warn him, and no doubt he will tell her. If she is that much of a vulture he will find out on his own... stay away from this.
westernxer Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Ask for his banks statements before and after they break up to compare your losses.
hooghie Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Ask for his banks statements before and after they break up to compare your losses. :lmao: Seriously, get away from this woman! She obviously spends outside of her means and expects you to pick up the tab when she does. If she is like this in the beginning of a relationship- I can't imagine what she'll turn into.
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