h0000 Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 I have an apartment and BF rents a place to himself. Lately we decided that I rent out my apt, move in with him, and pay him my share of rent. Now I have moved in but with the current coronavirus issue I'm having trouble finding tenants. So I wont be having rental income, but I have to pay BF rent. Here is the question, should I continue paying him rent? Or should he cover my share because he makes enough money and he doesnt need my rent?
Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 You should stay in your own apartment and pay your own rent. Was this an attempt to save money? By compromising your living situation to be with him? Why doesn't he move in with you and pay his share? No, if you are moving in with him and the agreement was to pay your share then pay your share. Where are you? Are you permitted to rent out your apartment? 4
Author h0000 Posted March 23, 2020 Author Posted March 23, 2020 (edited) It was an attempt to see if we are compatible living together. I own my apartment so yes I can rent it. It's a bit small for two people, and his place is bigger. So I'm more comfortable moving with him, rather than him with me. It wasn't about saving money. Both of us can afford living on our own. But the original plan does help both of us financially. I found a tenant so already moved out/moved in with him. The tenant just pulled out due to the virus. But I can't move back in anymore...after all the hassle. I would continue trying to rent it out instead. But I may not be able to find another tenant for months. No one knows how things will become because of the virus thing. So I dont know what I should do. If I knew this, I wouldnt have moved in with him now and would continue living by myself and wouldnt need to pay a dime. But I already moved in with him. I dont regret that. But I do worry about my future cashflow.. Edited March 23, 2020 by h0000
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 He should be totally understanding of the fact that you're unable to find tenants right now, and not charge you (his woman) rent. 7
basil67 Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 Times of crisis are a great way of seeing if there's compatibility. Sure, it's easy to get on well when times are good, but times like now show what a person is really made of. Let me ask you this: if the tables were turned, would you support him? If so, then I would say that your compatibility horse fell at the very first hurdle. 2
Author h0000 Posted March 23, 2020 Author Posted March 23, 2020 (edited) 28 minutes ago, basil67 said: ask you this: if the tables were turned, would you support him? well if I was paying rent and had him move in, I guess I would expect his share? Because he makes good money? I really dont know tbh..I have enough savings too and I'm still making decent amount of income. I know he would help out if I really am in trouble, like losing my job. He's expressed that if things get really bad he wouldnt ask me to pay anymore. But I suppose he doesnt think this is like that at the moment. So yes, he still expects rent. But then again, this is money I could have saved.. I dont know if it's greedy for me to not pay rent, or is it selfish for him to expect rent. Edited March 23, 2020 by h0000
Erik30 Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 2 hours ago, h0000 said: really dont know tbh..I have enough savings too and I'm still making decent amount of income. Since you're still making money, I would say you should pay rent. If that apartment was your only source of income, it would be a different story 1
littleblackheart Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 (edited) Can you be a little creative in ways to contribute, or find a compromise? Like maybe a rent holiday until you find a tenant but you cover all utilities / food in the meantime, for instance? Edited March 23, 2020 by littleblackheart
Legatus Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 I also agree that you should still pay. After all, like you said, the move wasn't because you had financial problems. Had this been the case I would understand your willingness to ask him to let you off without the rent. You still make decent income and everything, so unless he comes out with this idea himself I would still pay the rent as agreed..
basil67 Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 3 hours ago, h0000 said: well if I was paying rent and had him move in, I guess I would expect his share? Because he makes good money? I really dont know tbh..I have enough savings too and I'm still making decent amount of income. Well if you would want rent from him if the situation is reversed, then I was say that it's entirely fair that you pay him rent now. 3
littleblackheart Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 9 minutes ago, basil67 said: Well if you would want rent from him if the situation is reversed, then I was say that it's entirely fair that you pay him rent now. That makes sense on principle. I was personally thinking that because it's more a 'relationship' test than a money saving exercise or an official tenancy agreement, there could be ways around that wouldn't necessarily involve money since neither is in financial hardship?
Author h0000 Posted March 23, 2020 Author Posted March 23, 2020 Look, if situation reversed, I would be happy if he still pays. Because he makes lot more money than me. And he has more savings than me. He doesn’t need my money to help out his rent. I offered to pay because it’s fair and it wouldn’t cost me anything, had my original plan worked out. but my plan didn’t work out. I could be making money, but now Im paying money. Not that I can’t afford, it just wasn’t the plan I had. But it’s also not his fault. of course I will pay for my living cost and utilities. I’m just not sure how should I handle the rent situation
schlumpy Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 It doesn't make any difference that he makes more money then you. You should want to pay your own way to maintain your independence and dignity. 5 1
stillafool Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 6 hours ago, h0000 said: I have an apartment and BF rents a place to himself. Lately we decided that I rent out my apt, move in with him, and pay him my share of rent. Now I have moved in but with the current coronavirus issue I'm having trouble finding tenants. So I wont be having rental income, but I have to pay BF rent. Here is the question, should I continue paying him rent? Or should he cover my share because he makes enough money and he doesnt need my rent? You should move back to your apartment where you don't have to pay rent until you find a stable Tenant then move back with your bf when you're able to pay rent. You two aren't married so he shouldn't have to pay your way. 2
stillafool Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 33 minutes ago, h0000 said: but my plan didn’t work out. I could be making money, but now Im paying money. Not that I can’t afford, it just wasn’t the plan I had. But it’s also not his fault. of course I will pay for my living cost and utilities. I’m just not sure how should I handle the rent situation By moving back to your home, that's how. 1
littleblackheart Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 42 minutes ago, h0000 said: I could be making money, but now Im paying money. So your concern is that you're not going to make a profit? Why can't you go back to your own place? 2
Author h0000 Posted March 23, 2020 Author Posted March 23, 2020 5 minutes ago, littleblackheart said: So your concern is that you're not going to make a profit? Why can't you go back to your own place? Well...yeah kinda...Not just not making profit, I’m taking up a cost. i just moved in a week ago..moving is exhausting not to mention the money I spent to get my place ready for rent. it’s crazy to move back after just a week and pay the money again to rent my place again. If moving back and paying rent were my only two options I’d pay rent.
stillafool Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, h0000 said: Well...yeah kinda...Not just not making profit, I’m taking up a cost. i just moved in a week ago..moving is exhausting not to mention the money I spent to get my place ready for rent. it’s crazy to move back after just a week and pay the money again to rent my place again. If moving back and paying rent were my only two options I’d pay rent. Well sometimes things happen. At least you'd have a nice fresh apartment to move back to and wouldn't have to pay rent. I think that's the best option. Not everything is easy. Edited March 23, 2020 by stillafool 1
littleblackheart Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 Ok, but as you say none of this is your bf's problem. What are his preferred options? Maybe you can ask him directly and take it from there, because if it's a relationship test as much as anything else, you will need to communicate and find common ground. What it looks like this outside observer, rightly or wrongly, is that you're the one calling the shots, doing what suits you best. 3
chillii Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 (edited) But if you own it and your on good income no repayments you could easily chip in some rent. lf on the other hand for some reason you can't afford it though then yeah if l was living on my own before anyway l'd cover it for awhile. Maybe you can pay the food or power or something instead for now. Edited March 23, 2020 by chillii
Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 (edited) Well, it is clear that you have options and all the options do not lead to being homeless. 1. Move back, lose some money, but be secure that you have your own place and resume stability. How much do you lose by moving back? 2. Stay with your beau, continue losing money until you find a tenant. Risky depending on how long it takes to find a tenant. 3. It seems to me that your bf should be able to consider the fact that original plans did not work out. Ask him to reconsider until you find a tenant and help pay in other ways. Neither of you, especially him, is hurting for money, right? I don't feel he is being selfish. You had an agreement and the conditions fell through. You should be able to address the changes in plan and come up with new conditions until originally expected conditions become reality. It is also clear that you are upset about the current state and your bf's attitude. (?) I don't know for sure if he is at fault as you have not talked to him regarding this. Right? How long have you two been dating? By default, this is a relationship test, but is one of your and bf's important reasons for moving in together to save money or was THE PREDOMINANT reason to test your relationship because you two are ready for the next step? Edited March 23, 2020 by Gr8fuln2020 2
stillafool Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 I just don't consider it fair to expect another person you aren't married to to pay your share of rent even if they have more money than you. I think you would resent it if your bf expected the same from you. 2
clia Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 Take the total amount of his rent + your rent, split it in half, and you each contribute half. We aren't in a normal world situation right now. He should be sympathetic to the fact that you might not be able to find a tenant quickly, and I don't think it's fair that you should have to solely bear the burden of paying double rent due to these circumstances that are beyond your control. If he doesn't understand this, then that should tell you something... 3
stillafool Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 48 minutes ago, clia said: Take the total amount of his rent + your rent, split it in half, and you each contribute half. We aren't in a normal world situation right now. He should be sympathetic to the fact that you might not be able to find a tenant quickly, and I don't think it's fair that you should have to solely bear the burden of paying double rent due to these circumstances that are beyond your control. If he doesn't understand this, then that should tell you something... Would you expect her to do the same for him if he were in her situation?
clia Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 5 minutes ago, stillafool said: Would you expect her to do the same for him if he were in her situation? Yes, of course. 3
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