Actionman Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 My girlfriend broke up with me a month and a half ago. She says she's really pissed off at me. Her reason for breaking up was that I didn't show that I was taking any steps towards marriage. She said I had plenty of times to talk and she's tired of waiting. When she broke up with me I said I was ready to settle down. She told me she doesn't want to marry me anymore and that I'm not the man for her. She carries some anger in her life but I want her anyway. She won't talk to me on the phone. I ran into her last week and she said she's still pissed at me and won't talk to me. I bought an engagement ring and want to tell her how I really feel about her. My plan is to see her in church (if she goes) and track her down in the parking lot, demand a few minutes of her time and propose. I'm leary of just showing up at her house (she might not answer) but if I don't see her in church, I don't know what else to do. Any ideas on how I can get her attention and pursued her to marry me? Help!
notsohappy Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 ....not in the way you propose. I am in a similar situation as far as the ex-GF's attitude. You have got to go No Contact to have a chance. I did the begging, pleading, and reassoning for about a month befoer going to NC. I still have not spoken to her, nor emailed her or anything in about 6 weeks now, but I have seen her in passing a couple of times. Now I'm sure its some rose colored glasses, but the last time I saw her, she had a different look in her eyes, like she was cracking. She looked like she wanted to say something to me. I can't explain it, but she had that look. Will it test your sanity? Yes. But you will get nowhere with your present strategy.
slubberdegullion Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 If she's pissed, fine. Let her stew for a while. The very last thing you want to do is to propose to her because it's what she wants, and not what you both want as a couple. Since she won't talk to you on the phone, and you think that she may not answer the door if you call on her, that's enough of a hint. So back off completely. She's made it clear that she'll talk to you when she's good and ready. She said I had plenty of times to talk and she's tired of waiting. So you were supposed to "guess" when it was time to propose? That's ludicrous. notsohappy has it exactly right. Go NC on her. Pleading and whatnot only further erodes your stature (in her eyes, and maybe even in your own).
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