Sam30 Posted March 22, 2020 Posted March 22, 2020 (edited) He used to : reach out everyday even though 6hours time difference when we were apart because of work, gives me feet/back rubs, stares at me all the time, tell me about what’s going on in his life, allow me using his phone ing at his place when he’s not, play with my hair my face never keep his hands off of me when , try my shirts and earings for fun... Lately: still does everything except contacting me regularly, once in 3days when he is busy , gets mad at me because i don’t reach out to him when he dosen’t. Contacts me a couple days After we spend great time together... he is an aries and i read almost everywhere that it’s just how they are by nature they love you and want your full attention but love their freedom as well , he literally drove me crazy... and i told him about it and how much i hate him being so distant he said “not really distant i think about you every second and you never leave my thoughts, i have the right to hate you too sometimes but we are beautiful together and i don’t like to think about it...” i’ve always felt his love for me but his behavior confused me...the last time we’ve met he didn’t wanna let me leave but then contacted me 2days after!!! I told him that i get worried about him he explained i believed him and then he got so emotional telling me he’s getting addicted to me..... and the asked me if i enjoy making love with him, i asked why are you asking me that now he said just answer me please I said yes i do he said sometimes i don’t feel you in the most intensive moments hen i said the way you behave lately makes me feel like it’s just physical he said nooo that’s how i express my love for you I said ok but he didn’t wanna stop here and insisted to express myself so i end up saying :”!it was a small thought but now that’s all i feel like all we have is just physical “ he didn’t say a word after that and gone silent. The problem is that’s not at all how i feel i was angry and reacted this way....he was mad so i didn’t approach him two weeks later i lost a member of my family and he was there for me i was really sad and he waas so warm and passionate.. i thought he is not angry with me anymore but i was wrong once i’ve git better he became cold and distant so it was obvious we still have a problem i left alone and didn’t contact him for 10 days then i texted him saying “can we talk when you’re available “ and he didn’t answer, i felt so bad about what i said and i was gonna explain myself and why i said so but he is not making it easy for me, now am thinking maybe i was right it was just about sex but then when i think twice i say no way we’ve shared a lot and i know him for a long time he’s a part of me but if so why he doesn’t wanna resolve things or even listen to me... i wish i know what he’s thinking!!! now i am just thinking did he ever loved me!! I would appreciate some feedback from you guys it’s really hard spending that much time with someone and share your soul and body with him and then wondering if it was true or not Edited March 22, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
ExpatInItaly Posted March 22, 2020 Posted March 22, 2020 OP, what is the greater context here? Were you dating him, or?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 17 hours ago, Sam30 said: Yes we were dating For how long?
Author Sam30 Posted March 23, 2020 Author Posted March 23, 2020 3 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: For how long? For 8 months and i knew him for one year before during a Training
ExpatInItaly Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 Honestly, it doesn't sound like a relationship worth saving anyway. I would let it be, and work on healing. Based on what you have written, you two were not that compatible and the spark wore off quickly.
smackie9 Posted March 23, 2020 Posted March 23, 2020 That's what dating is all about...trial and error. It's not working out, you move on and find another relationship and see how that goes, etc.
preraph Posted March 25, 2020 Posted March 25, 2020 Honestly, from what you wrote, nearly everything just sounded like he was in love with sex more than anything.
kendahke Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 I had that same conversation with my ex once and he had the same reaction as yours did---come to find out, he'd been cheating and what he was doing was trying to assuage his own guilt over what he did by trying to put it off on me.
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