FMW Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 Don't keep taking stuff to his place if you're going to resent it and feel that it's "favoring him". There's only so much anyone, including him, is going to change. If you're going to be resentful and view him in a critical way (I'm not saying you don't have good reason), then stop seeing him. If you choose to keep seeing him you need to accept him as he is right now - maybe he'll become more what you want, but don't count on it. He's not a project, he's not your child. My guess is that he will continue to disappoint you and you'll only become more resentful.
Author unlisted Posted March 27, 2020 Author Posted March 27, 2020 24 minutes ago, stillafool said: Why can't he bring the dog with him? She gets anxiety and he doesn't have car seat covers for his car. She's also not fully potty trained.
Author unlisted Posted March 27, 2020 Author Posted March 27, 2020 37 minutes ago, FMW said: Don't keep taking stuff to his place if you're going to resent it and feel that it's "favoring him". There's only so much anyone, including him, is going to change. If you're going to be resentful and view him in a critical way (I'm not saying you don't have good reason), then stop seeing him. If you choose to keep seeing him you need to accept him as he is right now - maybe he'll become more what you want, but don't count on it. He's not a project, he's not your child. My guess is that he will continue to disappoint you and you'll only become more resentful. You're right, if I'm going to be resentful with giving, then I should stop.
preraph Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 All he has to do is put down an old quilt or anything on his back seat. 1
stillafool Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 14 minutes ago, preraph said: All he has to do is put down an old quilt or anything on his back seat. That's what I would do. I wouldn't care if the pup wasn't quite potty trained and would help with that.
preraph Posted March 27, 2020 Posted March 27, 2020 As long as he's not too lazy to take the dog out every couple of hours since it's not potty trained. That's how you train them to go outside, you take them out more often than they could possibly need to go and wait to see if they'll go until they get the hang of it. Also I would be sure that his dog was neutered especially if it's a male dog because unneutered male dogs will mark just for the hell of it.
Malin889 Posted March 28, 2020 Posted March 28, 2020 2 hours ago, unlisted said: She gets anxiety and he doesn't have car seat covers for his car. She's also not fully potty trained. The dog has anxiety? Did he tell you that? Not potty trained -- is she a puppy? Is that his reason for not going over to your house more because of the dog?
Malin889 Posted March 30, 2020 Posted March 30, 2020 If he doesn’t go out at all and isn’t very much in touch with the outside world, how did you meet him to begin with? And what attracted you to him?
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