battleworn Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 So I've been corresponding online with a woman who seemed quite interested in me. Now I get an e-mail saying that she won't be mailing back for a week or so because her grandmother died. Could be true, but it sounded a little suspicious. Is this perhaps a standard blowoff? I've had friends who were blown off in this manner. One poor guy persisted, and when he was shot down the 2nd time we kept bugging him, "What did her grandmother die again?". Yeah I know, wait a week and find out. Just curious if this known code for not interested. I'm not that invested yet, so it's more of an 'academic' curiousity. Myself, I just stop corresponding, or stop asking questions. Never had anyone not get the message.
Jtizzle Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 her grandma might jus as well have died..i suggest wait a week and see if she responds, if not,if u really enjoy her company and convo's i say do one more call after the week is up of course, and just say was calling to see that your in good health blah blah.. and leave it at that..if she doesnt call back after that, then she did blow u off.. but if thats the case, she could have just been shiesty about the whole deal and went on with her life without responding to you..thats how my x bf did me...everything all peachy one nite he sayin he loves me, and then i dont hear from him in a month..
whichwayisup Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Maybe she is going out of town. Maybe she just needs some time on her own. Don't assume anything negative, yet. If she hasn't given you anything to worry about and things have been good, then don't go looking for trouble. It's easy to take s*** the wrong way online. Plus, you may not "know" this girl enough to know her moods, how she is in general. Online, you may get a feeling and a trust bond with someone, but you really don't know them. Give her the week to herself, midweek email her and just say you hope she's doing OK and you're thinking of her. That is all. I think she did a nice thing by letting you in and telling you about the death. She could have just disappeared without saying anything and you'd be left sitting there all week, like wtf?
Author battleworn Posted October 7, 2005 Author Posted October 7, 2005 Yeah maybe I'm getting cynical. Online dating has been pretty good, but man, there are some freaky women out there. Previous to this my 'favorite' blow off was a girl who gave me her real e-mail (as opposed to in the dating site), then didn't reply for a month. Then she drops me a line to tell me she moved and hasn't been able to get to the computer at all. But of course, the dating site shows she was logging in everyday. It's almost comically funny; she must think I'm some sort of moron to buy that. And if I didn't bother pinging her for a month, why even bother to 'explain' it? Oh well. I knew all this going in; don't expect too much in disembodied e-mail 'relationships'. Or too little either.
Lishy Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 If i wanted to blow a guy out i wouldnt say my nan had died and i dont have any friends who would say that either I would say she is telling the truth and if she isnt then i would say she is a sicko lol Have faith and see what next week brings!!!
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