toocautiousornot Posted March 18, 2020 Posted March 18, 2020 My bf is a dentist and has been treating patients; albeit, with mask, etc. However, I've had a cold/flu or hopefully, not the "virus" for over 2 weeks; I got sick a few weeks ago when I saw him and he had a sinus infection. Despite going to the doctor and taking meds, I'm still sick. He insists on visiting me this weekend and "taking care of me" - he did the same thing last weekend but I felt like I was getting better then. I feel bad but feel like i need to tell him not to visit this weekend - first, I heard today dentists are at great risk of carrying the virus due to the nature of their work and second, i'm still not well. We are both in our 60s so we could be at risk anyway. My adult daughter is freaking out and telling me not to see him or even my adult son or anyone else for now. I don't think I've had a fever but need to find a thermometer today and find out for sure. Does anyone have suggestions? I'm really getting along great with my bf and know he will be very disappointed.
lurker74 Posted March 18, 2020 Posted March 18, 2020 This is probably not the forum to ask this question, but I will chime in anyway. Yes, you should avoid contact. You should also contact your health department about getting tested for Covid19. If you do not have it, in your state of sickness and age, you should limit contact until you are 100% better. I know that is hard right now but it's better to over react today than under react.
paloma22 Posted March 19, 2020 Posted March 19, 2020 16 hours ago, lurker74 said: This is probably not the forum to ask this question, but I will chime in anyway. Yes, you should avoid contact. You should also contact your health department about getting tested for Covid19. If you do not have it, in your state of sickness and age, you should limit contact until you are 100% better. I know that is hard right now but it's better to over react today than under react. I agree with this but before you go get tested if you are on the mend after 2 weeks - contact your local health department and determine their criteria for screening - follow their advice. Do not, i repeat do not go to an ED or GP office and expose others unless directed by local health authorities.
schlumpy Posted March 19, 2020 Posted March 19, 2020 That's really nice of him to want to see to your comfort during your illness. There is a risk to him also. You have a good guy there. If you feel uncomfortable with the situation and I can understand considering the unreasonable panic that's been generated, then just explain your reasoning and promise to make it up to him at some future date. I don't see this as all that damaging to your relationship if he's the kind of guy you described. 1
Miss Spider Posted March 19, 2020 Posted March 19, 2020 (edited) Sorry to hear you aren’t feeling well. Just tell him you aren’t feeling well rn and don’t want to make him sick. You shouldn’t have close contact with ppl when you’re sick. It won’t be enjoyable anyhow. Get well soon x Edited March 19, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
d0nnivain Posted March 19, 2020 Posted March 19, 2020 Feel better. Share your concerns with your BF. Ask him to think about what advice he'd give a patient under those circumstances. Then facetime him but don't meet. It's a new reality. I just got off the phone with a client who wanted to drop off a document to me. I told the client please don't. Just scan it & email it. Much safer. 1
spiderowl Posted March 22, 2020 Posted March 22, 2020 It sounds advisable to avoid contact until you have made a good recovery. If you are still infected with something, then the last thing you need is another infection on top of that. Basically, anyone could bring another infection to you at this point. You could explain you can’t risk two infections at once/close together so could he see you when you are better now instead. He should understand but if he doesn’t, you may need to be firm with him and put your health first. In the long run, you are protecting him too.
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