PDPullmn612 Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 OK, Im gonna say it now, im only a teenager, 17 years old. I got to a boardings school and me and this girl here have been dating for 9 months now. About 5 months into the relationship we started having major probelms, we were fighting all the time and we were more angry at each other than happy with each other. Things got better over the summer months and we came back to school fine. But now we are having problems with fighting agian. She is a very stubborn girl and doesnt listen to what anyone else has to say and sticks to her opinion no matter how hard you try and change it. This makes for very frustrating conversations with her about situations. I dont know how to get through to her. It might sound crazy but i love her and dont want to just leave her. In addition, she says that based on passed relationsips she cant fully trust me and she gets paranoid when we go home for breaks from school that I am going to cheat on her. I try to explain to her that she should at least try and trust me and i will prove to her that im not like that and i wouldnt cheat. It just bothers me that after 9 months she still doest trust me enough to know i wouldnt do that. Also she is very hypocritical. I just dont know how to get through to her. I try and talk to her, but she just gets angry at me for say that she is hypocritical or that she is not being nice to me or that she is being stubborn. Please lend some advice as to what i can do. Thanks in advance. Dave
jaye Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 dating for 9 months now. About 5 months into the relationship we started having major probelms, You have been dating for 9 monthes 5 monthes problems how can you be in love in just four monthes. we were fighting all the time and we were more angry at each other than happy with each other. Well if you like someone you want them to do good. maybe thats the problem. She is a very stubborn girl and doesnt listen to what anyone else has to say and sticks to her opinion no matter how hard you try and change it. Now we are talking, Do you not believe she may have samething to say about you? or are you one sided? Changing things without there will is not good. This makes for very frustrating conversations with her about situations. I dont know how to get through to her. No wonder why, Don't always try and change things your way. try and and change yourselfe a bit too. It might sound crazy but i love her and dont want to just leave her. You don't have to leave her, the question is if she thinks the same way you do. In addition, she says that based on passed relationsips she cant fully trust me and she gets paranoid when we go home for breaks from school that I am going to cheat on her. There the answer to my above question. You are going oneway. maybe not, maybe i am wrong. I try to explain to her that she should at least try and trust me and i will prove to her that im not like that and i wouldnt cheat. My friend telling her and making in happend are two things. Looks to me that she is hiding something from you as you said her previous relationships if i was you i would try and get to know her previous life better to make is smoother. It just bothers me that after 9 months she still doest trust me enough to know i wouldnt do that. Let me correct you its 4 monthes Also she is very hypocritical. That wasn't too nice, Don't jump she might say samething about you. I just dont know how to get through to her. Are you sure you want to? cus that will solve your problem I try and talk to her, but she just gets angry at me for say that she is hypocritical or that she is not being nice to me or that she is being stubborn. Please lend some advice as to what i can do. Thanks in advance. Man looks like it you who is not nice but you know your stress. i will say if things don't work Farward try them backward. Change yourself slightly then go from there. The devil said Once and maybe the only thing he said right. Silence is Gold when she is yelling , take a pillow over you head. i maen ignore it. don't argue, its not good and its not manly, and sometimes listen to Haward Stern, try and smile let me ask you this When was the last time you bought her flowers insted of a blunt? Do that man Good luck
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