Blind-Sided Posted March 14, 2020 Posted March 14, 2020 23 hours ago, AnnabelleLB said: Pizza date was amazing, My boyfriend finished early. Met us at Pizza hut, we walked there. We "accidentally" bumped into each other. We introduced and we went in. ............... Today just felt so right. I'm very glad that worked for you. I guess at 5yo it would. My ex tried that with our 13 yo... but they tried that at a place that was 45 min from where we live. She was mad when she got back to my house.
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 14, 2020 Author Posted March 14, 2020 6 minutes ago, Blind-Sided said: I'm very glad that worked for you. I guess at 5yo it would. My ex tried that with our 13 yo... but they tried that at a place that was 45 min from where we live. She was mad when she got back to my house. He asked me what I'd think he would like to do. He was very much what does my son like. I know my son would love pizza or burger as a treat. We were about 20 minute walk 10 minutes by car.
Realitysux Posted March 14, 2020 Posted March 14, 2020 (edited) If your son hates him, and the man runs away then you need to realize that he wasn't the right man for you! Edited March 14, 2020 by Realitysux
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 14, 2020 Author Posted March 14, 2020 1 minute ago, Realitysux said: If your son hates him, and the man runs away then you need to realize that he wasn't the right man for you! I don't think my son hates him and my boyfriend hasn't run away
Realitysux Posted March 14, 2020 Posted March 14, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, AnnabelleLB said: I don't think my son hates him and my boyfriend hasn't run away Did I miss the question? I'm sorry, I'm lost! I thought you were worried that your son wouldn't like your boyfriend and the other men ran away so you kept it a secret. I was implying to relax, only Introduce your son if it's serious and if it doesn't work out, wasn't the right man for you. Edited March 14, 2020 by Realitysux
SumGuy Posted March 14, 2020 Posted March 14, 2020 From everything you posted he sounds like a good one. Emotionally secure and gets your 5 year old sons needs always come first. Sounds even understanding of your son’s wants. Just a decent human being all around.
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 15, 2020 Author Posted March 15, 2020 8 hours ago, Realitysux said: Did I miss the question? I'm sorry, I'm lost! I thought you were worried that your son wouldn't like your boyfriend and the other men ran away so you kept it a secret. I was implying to relax, only Introduce your son if it's serious and if it doesn't work out, wasn't the right man for you. I mean after Friday, I don't think they hate each other. I feel he is the right man for me. I've made him wait on so much, Like sex He was totally fine waiting. My friends said he was getting it elsewhere. Which I know isn't true. 8 hours ago, SumGuy said: From everything you posted he sounds like a good one. Emotionally secure and gets your 5 year old sons needs always come first. Sounds even understanding of your son’s wants. Just a decent human being all around. He is a good one. one in a million. He actually said my son comes first. that if I get a call about him etc I need to take it, Not "I'll answer it later". He is a decent human. The only thing that does worry me, Years ago him and his brother fell out. A lot of people have told me the reasons etc (Even his parents). My boyfriends brother is very materialistic and I would say easily controlled. Going back several years. When their parents moved away they left the house to my boyfriend to manage and deal with. His brother didn't like this and "Disowned" my boyfriend and has previously made some trouble for him. I'm worried if he finds out about me he could cause trouble. My boyfriend says not to worry because he doesn't speak to his brother nor is there any reason he would find out. Is there any steps I can take here? I've known for a little while about this, but we've got a whole lot more serious and I don't want it ruining.
Fletch Lives Posted March 15, 2020 Posted March 15, 2020 If he does not have any contact with his brother I would not worry about it.
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 15, 2020 Author Posted March 15, 2020 6 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: If he does not have any contact with his brother I would not worry about it. He doesn't but it got me thinking that it must be hard for him if he is on his own. I know Christmas he admitted he was alone he said "I was on call, everyone was busy with family. I was fine. I got myself a take away." I was upset he didn't tell me he was a lone. Then my mind went in to overdrive last night about the whole brother thing.
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 15, 2020 Author Posted March 15, 2020 I have to admit I am getting a bit nervous for later. Going to head to the supermarket shortly. Its like going back to our first dates all over again.. 1 1
Miss Spider Posted March 15, 2020 Posted March 15, 2020 It is a big step!!! But if you see this person as permanent in your life and believe you are ready, it’s a necessary one. Good luck to you.:)
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 15, 2020 Author Posted March 15, 2020 50 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: It is a big step!!! But if you see this person as permanent in your life and believe you are ready, it’s a necessary one. Good luck to you.:) I know. Its like having him round to mine for the first time with my son. Its like when he met my parents. I'm rushing around cleaning the house, As I've said when he gets here he can get changed ready for work. He is on the train today and because he is coming to ours it makes sense. I'm thinking tomorrow morning when I get in before the start of the day, if I should offer to drop him back at the station? 1
Caauug Posted March 15, 2020 Posted March 15, 2020 On 3/13/2020 at 3:53 AM, AnnabelleLB said: My first post please go easy on me. No. 18 hours ago, AnnabelleLB said: I know I'm a single mum, I know this is what I signed up for, with some messages I'm getting from busy bodies at work I shouldn't be dating, I think and feel this relationship is right. I feel my son does like him, I'll be honest, Weekend nights on your own are lonely, I would love to have my boyfriend here so I've got someone to watch TV, netflix or just someone to chat to. Is that bad of me? Worry about you, your child and your BF. No, not bad, how about inviting him?? 17 hours ago, AnnabelleLB said: I think I worry that he isn't into me as much now because he's found out I have a kid, but he is showing he isn't. I just wish he was here with me now. I can see this BUT "He is showing he isn't".... Reality check here: You have baggage (son) and BF is still sniffing around.... WTF, no single male wants to invest into another males off spring. I will get shot down for that statement.... And there will be 200 claims I am wrong.... But, there will/is be a trade off he will be looking for..... He knows it is a package deal with you... How far are you willing to expand the package? 16 hours ago, AnnabelleLB said: He doesn't have any kids of his own, I've seen him around kids, He is great with them. He was great with my son. He has said he understands that I may need to cancel for my son, or something crops up. He just wants to be here for us. I feel he shown that last night when he fixed the washing machine and made sure everything worked last night. He could have said that its mine/my landlords problem. I told my landlord and she was happy he fixed it. I do want time with him. If I'm honest here. If things were not complicated. I'd be living with my boyfriend. He is BLUE, like a Smurf!!!! Hey try to get him to jump though a few more hurtles... NOT!!! 15 hours ago, AnnabelleLB said: Just to add. theres been times we've been on the phone, my son has come down because of a nightmare, My boyfriend said "Go see to him and make sure he is ok" without malice or similar. He is genuinely a really nice guy. I've said this before but I wish I could just cuddle up to him now. I've not felt love like this for a while (My son is obviously different). WTF your BF is blue!!! And "Is genuinely a nice guy".... I'm sorry for him, "Nice Guys" finish last. 14 hours ago, AnnabelleLB said: I know what you are saying. I don't mean teary that he has left or go in to a mop. Its more "I miss him", "I wish he was still here" sort of thing. We've been dating 8 months starting our 9th. We don't verbalise "You've left I miss you I miss you". One thing we both insist on doing is when he leave my area/when I'm working up where he lives we do ring each other to tell the other we got home ok 8 months.... and no sex... He's a real trooper!!! 4 hours ago, AnnabelleLB said: I mean after Friday, I don't think they hate each other. I feel he is the right man for me. I've made him wait on so much, Like sex He was totally fine waiting. OMG!!! You found someone that understands your situation with your son, and is all cool with it. He's been out on joined (you and son) dates. You like him.... miss him.... want him..... He likes you and you like him!!!! Use protection and show him how much you want him in your and your son's life. Show your affection and give him sex.... You must be HOT!!! Use it to your advantage... SMV does not last for ever...
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 15, 2020 Author Posted March 15, 2020 1 hour ago, Caauug said: No. Worry about you, your child and your BF. No, not bad, how about inviting him?? I can see this BUT "He is showing he isn't".... Reality check here: You have baggage (son) and BF is still sniffing around.... WTF, no single male wants to invest into another males off spring. I will get shot down for that statement.... And there will be 200 claims I am wrong.... But, there will/is be a trade off he will be looking for..... He knows it is a package deal with you... How far are you willing to expand the package? He is BLUE, like a Smurf!!!! Hey try to get him to jump though a few more hurtles... NOT!!! WTF your BF is blue!!! And "Is genuinely a nice guy".... I'm sorry for him, "Nice Guys" finish last. 8 months.... and no sex... He's a real trooper!!! OMG!!! You found someone that understands your situation with your son, and is all cool with it. He's been out on joined (you and son) dates. You like him.... miss him.... want him..... He likes you and you like him!!!! Use protection and show him how much you want him in your and your son's life. Show your affection and give him sex.... You must be HOT!!! Use it to your advantage... SMV does not last for ever... @Caauug I know I have baggage, My ex, the father of my child who wants nothing to do with me or him, someone who decided when I was 6 months pregnant that he didn't want to be a dad or be with me. Turns out he is a waster, So my baggage is my son who is not baggage in my eyes. What do you mean he is looking for a trade off? How do you mean expand expand the package? What do you mean he is blue and what hurtles I've not put anything there. Whats wrong with him being nice? Are you saying I should just give him sex every time I see him? What does SMV mean? Your post confuses me.
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 15, 2020 Author Posted March 15, 2020 Today went really really well I made https://www.kitchensanctuary.com/crispy-sesame-chicken-sticky-asian-sauce/ for dinner with a bed of rice. Chocolate cake was immense! Started off with me picking my boyfriend up at the station, he was surprised I picked him up. He had gifts for both of us, A lego set for my son and flowers/wine for me. We always get each other joke gifts and with the current crisis in the UK. He got me a toilet roll. Whilst I was cooking dinner I said to my boyfriend to sit in the lounge and I'll bring him a drink too. I go in and he's helping my son build his lego. Really sweet to see. Boyfriend said he loved the food and loved the time we had. Boyfriend went to get changed didn't realise I left my dirty laundry on the bed ha! I'm up at his next saturday as I am working. I'm not sure how to take this forward with him now. 3
preraph Posted March 15, 2020 Posted March 15, 2020 Sounds like a very nice evening! Now you can stop being nervous about things a little. Hopefully, he will have enough steam to move this ahead without you having to worry about how to do that. Dinner sounds delish! Glad you baked a cake for him. Everyone loves baked goods and they definitely score brownie points with men!
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 15, 2020 Author Posted March 15, 2020 40 minutes ago, preraph said: Sounds like a very nice evening! Now you can stop being nervous about things a little. Hopefully, he will have enough steam to move this ahead without you having to worry about how to do that. Dinner sounds delish! Glad you baked a cake for him. Everyone loves baked goods and they definitely score brownie points with men! He has said I can bake for him again and cook for him again. He actually did the washing up too and he was a guest! Do you think he has enough steam @preraph? Where could he go next? 1
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 16, 2020 Author Posted March 16, 2020 They're closing our office due to this Corona virus. I have to work from near my boyfriend's I've let him know and he said we can stay at his. I'm worried about this virus. I don't want to leave my son with my mum and stay in a hotel. I'm just confused. 1
SumGuy Posted March 16, 2020 Posted March 16, 2020 18 hours ago, AnnabelleLB said: I'm not sure how to take this forward with him now. I believe it will move on its own. Continue to do what you two are doing, the times together will likely get more and more but don't freak out if it slows some for him to catch up in his own life (with chores and work). 1
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 16, 2020 Author Posted March 16, 2020 4 hours ago, SumGuy said: I believe it will move on its own. Continue to do what you two are doing, the times together will likely get more and more but don't freak out if it slows some for him to catch up in his own life (with chores and work). I get this. He has said because of Corona Virus I can go up and stay at his with my son because from family I am quite isolated. (Even though my mum and dad has my son when I work away) and they are in an at risk group. If I feel uncomfortable with us all being in the same house, He can go stay at a hotel or similar. Its really sweet. I don't know if I should go. It would be nice as I have to go up and work near to his, and I couldn't afford a hotel for my son after my work contributes. 1
SumGuy Posted March 16, 2020 Posted March 16, 2020 Can you just come back, go with the original plan, if it doesn't work out? Also sounds like he will get a hotel room if needed.
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 16, 2020 Author Posted March 16, 2020 Just now, SumGuy said: Can you just come back, go with the original plan, if it doesn't work out? Also sounds like he will get a hotel room if needed. I potentially could, With my boyfriend its very much everything on my terms. He has said he will get a hotel room or stay at a friends. If you was me @SumGuy would you go?
SumGuy Posted March 16, 2020 Posted March 16, 2020 You do realize I have very little information on him and you and I am a guy? All that being said I would with eyes open, and would likely set it up as an adventure for my kid to try. Is there a reason he has to get a hotel room or stay at friends, besides your son being along?
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 16, 2020 Author Posted March 16, 2020 13 minutes ago, SumGuy said: You do realize I have very little information on him and you and I am a guy? All that being said I would with eyes open, and would likely set it up as an adventure for my kid to try. Is there a reason he has to get a hotel room or stay at friends, besides your son being along? Nothing other than my son. I know you are a guy. Just want some inputs. I'm thinking it's an adventure for my son
Author AnnabelleLB Posted March 17, 2020 Author Posted March 17, 2020 Last night I saw the news at what Boris Johnson had said and I've decided its an adventure. My sons school is closed. I need to go up for work, its an adventure. Lets do it! Wish me luck! 1
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