crederer Posted March 14, 2020 Posted March 14, 2020 Why would she tell you about his dick size anyway unless she was intentionally trying to get you flustered? If you were to tell her how great in bed your ex was, she sure as s*** wouldn't like it. Anyway,as for my personal experience about ex's past that bothered me was when I was young I dated a woman that showed a lot of red flags. Biggest one was that she willingly had an affair with a married man twice her age who had kids as the ow. She left when he didn't leave his wife for her after telling her he would for 2 years. Not character trait you want in a potential spouse. I overlooked it I think because she was very pretty and we had fun together. Anyway long story short she left me for him when he said he left his wife. It turns out he lied about that. He also lied about being wealthy, which seemed to upset her more than anything (he took her on nice trips and dinners but it turned out it wasn't with his money but a company credit card and he got fired for it). She told me all of this while she was trying to get back together with me. Lol unbelievable. It was absolutely humiliating and degrading. 1 1
FMW Posted March 14, 2020 Posted March 14, 2020 The women who respond are telling the OP he's off base on this while the men responding are supporting his position that something is wrong with his girlfriend. So I think that's a really good indication that this is one of those examples of why women sometimes aren't an open book with their boyfriends about their past. An alternate storyline is the men who post here about finding out their girlfriends kept "secrets" or were "dishonest" about their pasts. Depending on the conversation, I can understand why the girlfriend would tell the OP about the ex being too large and the sex not being enjoyable because of it. She's not trying to make him feel insecure, just the opposite, she's trying to tell him the very real truth that a big penis isn't something most women enjoy dealing with. As far as doing "more" with past lovers, if she enjoyed whatever those acts were, she would initiate them with the OP. The fact she doesn't, again, means she did NOT enjoy them and doesn't want to repeat an unpleasant experience. Women do NOT think like men about these issues. The girlfriend has been with the OP for 3 years. Unless she's initiating conversations otherwise, then I would guess she is happy with the relationship. She would probably be stunned that he's so hung up on her past, and that he sees her as tainted because of it, apparently thinking her past has to do with her current UTI issues. I do understand that we can't help how we feel about things. So for the men who feel this way, you need to stick with women who have little to no past experience with men. And most certainly don't waste 3 years of a woman's life that you see as damaged, or unworthy, or however you classify her. 2 1
Miss Spider Posted March 15, 2020 Posted March 15, 2020 (edited) On 3/12/2020 at 9:36 AM, geronimo said: She told me that her ex was a “big” guy (yes I’m talking about d*ck size) and that sex with him was never great because it was painful, and that sex with me is a lot better for her and more pleasurable. PSA: Ladies, please stop telling your man this. It’s not flattering... Edited March 15, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
Miss Spider Posted March 15, 2020 Posted March 15, 2020 (edited) 19 hours ago, Hopeful30 said: She said this to drive home the point that she prefers OPs manhood over her exes. OP is twisting this out of insecurity. And by the way, there IS such a thing as too big, and I've refused to be with men after learning their size for this exact reason. Just like men range in size, women do too. It's about finding the right fit. OP fits better, but apparently this isn't good enough and he would rather be too big. This has nothing to do with his girlfriend. The road to hell is paved with these sorts of intentions. Maybe there are some situations where you’d do better to keep your own counsel and sex life with past partners is probably one of them. Would any woman like a man saying “Love how loose you are, babe. It’s so cavernous that it perfectly accommodates my enormous manhood” despite how well-meaning it might be... I agree that he might be being a little insecure but it’s not completely incomprehensible..esp when that is so important to dudes Edited March 15, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
Andy_K Posted March 15, 2020 Posted March 15, 2020 (edited) 11 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: PSA: Ladies, please stop telling your man this. It’s not flattering... Plus, often not entirely truthful. She wouldn't be the first woman in the world to exaggerate the negatives of her past lover and the positives of her current one in an attempt to flatter him. Especially given Quote She did a lot more sexually with her ex than she does with me That's a big flashing red light on the 'she was more attracted to the ex, or he was better in bed' alert Edited March 15, 2020 by Andy_K 1 1
Hopeful30 Posted March 16, 2020 Posted March 16, 2020 15 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: The road to hell is paved with these sorts of intentions. Maybe there are some situations where you’d do better to keep your own counsel and sex life with past partners is probably one of them. Would any woman like a man saying “Love how loose you are, babe. It’s so cavernous that it perfectly accommodates my enormous manhood” despite how well-meaning it might be... I agree that he might be being a little insecure but it’s not completely incomprehensible..esp when that is so important to dudes I would be flattered if my man complimented me that I fit him well, regardless if that means im looser or tighter than others. It means our sexy parts are a good match 1 1
Miss Spider Posted March 16, 2020 Posted March 16, 2020 Haha nice.. I certainly would not like that, particularly when there are so many other things to compliment on. I would suggest not to compliment a man on his smaller penis... “So glad my penis is small so we are a good match” -said no sincere man ever 1
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